Miss_G Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 I am a single mum to a 2-year-old. His father is still around, sees his son 3 days a week and pays his fairshare child support weekly. He is a very good father (not such a good boyfriend but that's another story ) Anyway, here is my problem... We split a year ago and I have been living with my mother. She is very close to my son as she cares for him 3 days a week whilst I am at work. She buys things for him (things that I may not be able to afford) and is generally completely besotted with him! She has helped me like my ex-partner would of done if we had stayed together. She's plays 'Daddy' when Daddy isn't here I guess! I am making a will in the next few weeks and am wondering if there is any way I can give her right's to my son if anything was to happen to me. My son's father would automatically get full custody of my son as he is on his birth certificate and therefore has parental rights. I have no problem with this though, as said earlier, he is a good dad and my son is very much loves his pops! The real concern is my ex-partners parents (my son's other grandparents). They are very controlling and 90% of the reason for the split. They have done some terrible things (his mother came into my home and called me every name under the sun, his dad man-handled my mother and through her out of MY house...it's a very long story!) We have found some civil ground (I still don't speak to his mother) and my son sees them a few days a week (I hate them but appreciate he has a right to see his grandparents and, since we put boundaries in place, they haven't overstepped the mark). What I worry is that, if anything would happen to me, my son would get swallowed up into their controlling ways, they would start playing parent (something they do with my exes older brothers daughter) and my son would be ripped away from my mother after all she has done for him. I'd like to be able to write in my will that my mother has 'hours' visitation a week. Say she has him a number of hours a week and these would be organised by my ex-partner and her. I know grandparents have no rights but do they have them if stated by the mother who is primary carer?? Thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
turnera Posted September 4, 2011 Share Posted September 4, 2011 If you're getting a will, I assume that means you're working with an attorney to get it. (I hope so, anyway - those online things are a sham) Just ask him/her. Link to post Share on other sites
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