UpDownAllAround Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 Maybe I can live vicariously through you guys since it will never happen to me. Do girls that you fall in love with ever return it to you? Or is this just something that only happens in the movies? This is a story thread only. Not a "pity" thread or "just build your confidence" BS thread. Stories of the real stuff happening only. Go. Link to post Share on other sites
Yamaha Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 I meet my gf 2 1/2 years ago. She lives in Wisconsin but was down visiting her parents ( who live where I do ). We had a strong physical attraction for each other from the start but I wanted to get to know her before we embarked on sex ( even though she told me she wanted to f**k the S**t out of me on our second date ). It was hard, as it is long distance, but we talked alot and got to know each other. There has been a fair amount of drama on her side ( divorced with 2 children ) but we saw the value in each other. There has been ups and downs but we have grown to love each other and are building a future together so it does happen ( not just in the movies ). My suggestion would be if you feel a certain way for your love then let them know you appreciate them and desire them. Send a card for no reason or a txt saying you were thinking of them. It is fun for you and it makes you feel good. Don't be afraid to show it and you just might find her showing it too. Link to post Share on other sites
Author UpDownAllAround Posted September 3, 2011 Author Share Posted September 3, 2011 I meet my gf 2 1/2 years ago. She lives in Wisconsin but was down visiting her parents ( who live where I do ). We had a strong physical attraction for each other from the start but I wanted to get to know her before we embarked on sex ( even though she told me she wanted to f**k the S**t out of me on our second date ). It was hard, as it is long distance, but we talked alot and got to know each other. There has been a fair amount of drama on her side ( divorced with 2 children ) but we saw the value in each other. There has been ups and downs but we have grown to love each other and are building a future together so it does happen ( not just in the movies ). My suggestion would be if you feel a certain way for your love then let them know you appreciate them and desire them. Send a card for no reason or a txt saying you were thinking of them. It is fun for you and it makes you feel good. Don't be afraid to show it and you just might find her showing it too. That's the problem. I told her I was crazy about her. She didn't feel the same way. We're still friends at least but she has a boyfriend. Been trying since 2008 to get over it. Too bad there's not a crying emoticon... Link to post Share on other sites
Yamaha Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 That's the problem. I told her I was crazy about her. She didn't feel the same way. We're still friends at least but she has a boyfriend. Been trying since 2008 to get over it. Too bad there's not a crying emoticon... If they don't feel the same it sucks but you have to let it go. Do you think its healthy for you to remain her friend when you obviously are still in-love with her? Have you done any dating since this girl? You need to find someone else that feels it for you if you really want to remain friends with her. It's to hard and keeps you from having a life for yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
Author UpDownAllAround Posted September 3, 2011 Author Share Posted September 3, 2011 If they don't feel the same it sucks but you have to let it go. Do you think its healthy for you to remain her friend when you obviously are still in-love with her? Have you done any dating since this girl? You need to find someone else that feels it for you if you really want to remain friends with her. It's to hard and keeps you from having a life for yourself. I've tried the dating thing but it just doesn't happen. Can't give her up either since we met long ago, were good friends, lost touch and finally found each other again. I truly doubt that it will happen for me anyway like that again. Ever. I'll just have to deal with it. At least I have stories and movies to watch to live vicariously through!! Bring 'em on! Link to post Share on other sites
Yamaha Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 I truly doubt that it will happen for me anyway like that again. Ever. Never say never ever. I would suggest being open to meeting others and developing friends. You never know when that crazy love feeling will occur again. Good Luck...... Link to post Share on other sites
AHardDaysNight Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 No. That's the problem. I never get any reciprocation. Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 Nope, I've never had a girl I like return the feeling. The only girl I've ever gotten anywhere with came on to me and I let it happen. I would love to hear a story where a guy actually got the girl and won her over. Link to post Share on other sites
Feelin Frisky Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 more often no than yes, but some big yesses and that's a terrific thing--until of course your heart gets broken when she admits it's not over with the other guy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author UpDownAllAround Posted September 3, 2011 Author Share Posted September 3, 2011 Never say never ever. I would suggest being open to meeting others and developing friends. You never know when that crazy love feeling will occur again. Good Luck...... I am! The problem is no one is ever open to me. Even when I lost weight nothing happened. I just don't get it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author UpDownAllAround Posted September 3, 2011 Author Share Posted September 3, 2011 more often no than yes, but some big yesses and that's a terrific thing--until of course your heart gets broken when she admits it's not over with the other guy. Bah. That has to suck and has to be one of the worst heartbreaks. Sorry man. Link to post Share on other sites
Feelin Frisky Posted September 3, 2011 Share Posted September 3, 2011 Bah. That has to suck and has to be one of the worst heartbreaks. Sorry man. It always hurts to find yourself number two behind someone else. I can't live with it and won't. Thanks for the "sorry man". Link to post Share on other sites
green_tea Posted September 4, 2011 Share Posted September 4, 2011 That's the problem. I told her I was crazy about her. She didn't feel the same way. We're still friends at least but she has a boyfriend. Been trying since 2008 to get over it. Too bad there's not a crying emoticon... 2008?? That is 3 years. She is not the only girl in the world....get out there and meet others. You will meet someone else. I'm a woman and rarely meet men that feel the same way about me - they tend to be players and I get attached and then they dump me. One guy did take me a few years to get over - but I did meet someone else. People are not as special as we make them out to be in our head. It's the fact that we can't have them that makes us think they are so amazing and that nobody can compare to them. Link to post Share on other sites
Author UpDownAllAround Posted September 4, 2011 Author Share Posted September 4, 2011 2008?? That is 3 years. She is not the only girl in the world....get out there and meet others. You will meet someone else. I'm a woman and rarely meet men that feel the same way about me - they tend to be players and I get attached and then they dump me. One guy did take me a few years to get over - but I did meet someone else. People are not as special as we make them out to be in our head. It's the fact that we can't have them that makes us think they are so amazing and that nobody can compare to them. I don't think I'm attracted to the whole "can't have them" syndrome. If that's true I wouldn't have tried to date several single girls over the past 3 years. Nothing ever happened though (all no's). Being successful is another story, and I've never been successful at this stuff in my whole life. I just wish I could get OVER this thing so I could move on. I'm so sick of it. Link to post Share on other sites
runner Posted September 4, 2011 Share Posted September 4, 2011 more often no than yes, but some big yesses and that's a terrific thing--until of course your heart gets broken when she admits it's not over with the other guy. ouch. that's the worse. been out with a girl, hit it off, then hit the brick wall when former dude come back into the picture but to answer the OP: yes. happened with my first real gf. good times Link to post Share on other sites
green_tea Posted September 4, 2011 Share Posted September 4, 2011 I don't think I'm attracted to the whole "can't have them" syndrome. If that's true I wouldn't have tried to date several single girls over the past 3 years. Nothing ever happened though (all no's). Being successful is another story, and I've never been successful at this stuff in my whole life. I just wish I could get OVER this thing so I could move on. I'm so sick of it. I too tried to date other guys in between the 1st guy I loved who dumped me and the 2nd guy I fell for. The 2 guys were quite similar in some ways - so clearly the traits they shared are things I am attracted to. But the point is, there are MILLIONS of people out there. And I am sure there is some other girl in your future that you will fall for. Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted September 4, 2011 Share Posted September 4, 2011 I too tried to date other guys in between the 1st guy I loved who dumped me and the 2nd guy I fell for. The 2 guys were quite similar in some ways - so clearly the traits they shared are things I am attracted to. But the point is, there are MILLIONS of people out there. And I am sure there is some other girl in your future that you will fall for. The key difference between many guys and your experience, is that when trying to get over a girl by dating other girls, it's very possible that every girl will turn him down. So while you did date other guys, he tried and was rejected. One of my favorite sayings is, "The best way to get over somebody, is to get on somebody else." But when nobody lets you get on them, it's going to make getting over that one person so much harder. That's why there are stories of guys who carried a torch for somebody for many years. Odds are they tried to go after other girls, but just kept getting rejected. Link to post Share on other sites
AHardDaysNight Posted September 4, 2011 Share Posted September 4, 2011 I agree. It's not just because he tries and gets rejected. It's that he tries and gets rejected every time. That's how men get to their 30's and are still virgins. Women won't give them a chance. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted September 4, 2011 Share Posted September 4, 2011 So do girls that you like ever like you in return? In retrospect, they like parts, generally those which fill their needs. Global 'like' has been exceedingly rare. I'm OK with that now. Sometimes life is better that way. Link to post Share on other sites
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Ross MwcFan Posted September 5, 2011 Share Posted September 5, 2011 Online yes, offline no. Link to post Share on other sites
green_tea Posted September 5, 2011 Share Posted September 5, 2011 The key difference between many guys and your experience, is that when trying to get over a girl by dating other girls, it's very possible that every girl will turn him down. So while you did date other guys, he tried and was rejected. One of my favorite sayings is, "The best way to get over somebody, is to get on somebody else." But when nobody lets you get on them, it's going to make getting over that one person so much harder. That's why there are stories of guys who carried a torch for somebody for many years. Odds are they tried to go after other girls, but just kept getting rejected. But I don't see that as much different to what I've been through. I wasn't rejected by the guys I dated in between, but I was rejected by every guy I've ever had feelings for (all two of them). But I might be going off the topic of this thread talking about my failures, since the OP wanted success stories...sorry... Link to post Share on other sites
Author UpDownAllAround Posted September 5, 2011 Author Share Posted September 5, 2011 But I don't see that as much different to what I've been through. I wasn't rejected by the guys I dated in between, but I was rejected by every guy I've ever had feelings for (all two of them). But I might be going off the topic of this thread talking about my failures, since the OP wanted success stories...sorry... Aahh well...maybe we can just wallow in all of our failures for good measure. Link to post Share on other sites
Starry_Dreamer Posted September 13, 2011 Share Posted September 13, 2011 i know how you feel, well im a girl but i've never had a bf before or even been on a date lol (im 20) Link to post Share on other sites
omkara Posted September 13, 2011 Share Posted September 13, 2011 i know how you feel, well im a girl but i've never had a bf before or even been on a date lol (im 20) I... don't... believe you. Link to post Share on other sites
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