Welp, it's been one year.

[pandagirl]

Can't believe it's been one year since the breakup. I took it hard, and it was months before I started feeling better again. Simply put, I was devastated.

 

A year later, I still feel pangs of sadness. He's still with the girl that he (most likely) cheated on me with. I don't want him back, but the sadness comes from just missing someone who I used to love a lot, who was my best friend, and who I had a deep connection with. I thought I'd know him for the rest of my life, and it hurts to know that I may never know what his life is like.

 

I wonder how he is doing, but though I have urges to reach out to him, I know I won't. That being said, I'm pretty happy -- happier than when I was with him. I've grown and learned that though I am susceptible to pain and sadness, that I am also strong and can take care of myself. At the same time, I wonder if he will ever be 100% out of my system. I loved him so much, it's hard to think that I will never not care.

 

But onward and forth. I will always be positive and grateful. I've learned to let myself feel the sadness, and then look forward to the happiness.

[Nohbody]

Thanks for sharing!

[Rockyb87]

Wow ur breakup happened exactly the same day as mine. N mine too would've been a yr.

[aeren944]

Hi, thanks for sharing!

 

Mine happened a little more than a year ago, and I was devastated, too. She's still with the person with which she cheated on me, so I know how that feels. I miss the same thing, too, sometimes... the connection. There are nights when I still feel lonely, or sad, but I'm so far from where I started from. I just came to LoveShack today just to check up, and I realized how devastated and crushed I was back then, and how far I've come.

 

It's kinda inspirational, no?

[shayla]

It has been close to a year for me too and he married the woman he cheated with. I ran across his kiss off email he sent me, our actual break up. Humph.

 

Since then I ran into a wonderful man, actually my ex introduced us at a basketball game last February. Who knew we would see each other a year later and hit it off this way? We have been together since the day we met up. He told me he loved me a week after that, and we have been exclusive since almost the beginning.

 

I realized today that my anger and unforgiveness has kept me from completely living my present and future, and impairing this relationship, and that stops today.

 

As you say pandagirl, ONWARD AND FORTH!

[Thieves]

Let's just say it's been more than a year for me. Over a year, almost two. He's still with the same girl he was with last year - well, as far as I know anyway. I haven't spoken to him in over 7 months and plan on keeping it that way.

 

I'm not really sure how I feel. Sometimes I feel great and that everything is as it should be, that I did the right thing by deciding not to hang around him anymore while he was off with her. At least I was honest with him and myself. And then sometimes I feel so SAD, lonely, and the regret is almost unbearable. Like I did the stupidest thing by letting go of a nice man that could've been a good friend, if only I would get over my childish ego! Almost. Then I think back to all the pain I went through while I was still in contact with him, all the immaturity, and this pain seems more bearable. And even if it's the hardest thing to distract myself in that kinda mood, I do get past it... ever so slowly. It's still a bumpy road, but things are very slowly getting smoother. I know I just have to be patient. By next year I should be alright. I hope so.

[pandagirl]

Ugh, everyone, I know it's hard, but just keep on moving forward and remind yourself of all the good stuff. Even as I say this, I admit I still get sad more often than I'd like to admit. It still hurts that he lied to me and is still with the girl he cheated on me with. But, I think these emotions are normal. I'd be a robot to not be a little affected by it. You just can't let the negative feeling swallow you up.