is it a sec. chance or just wanting 2 b friends?

[R_E_D_needsadvice]

im sorry if this doesnt make much since but i will try to explain this the best i can!

im 20 and getting ready to graduate from tech. college and she is a 17 yr. old jr. in high school. i only work on the weekends and have the week off due to school. she goes to high school and works at a fast food joint and has only 2-3 days off a week.

 

alright about a month and 1/2 ago, my best friends g/f told me that one of her friends was interested in me. soon the girl started calling me and text messaging me. we become pretty good friends and i had the intentions of having a serious relationship, but she was half and half on that idea. She told me that she wanted to just be friends and just let things happen which i agreed with totally. when she got out of school, i would always go see her at a local video rental store where her mother worked and just hangout with them both until she would leave for work. sometimes if i didnt see her at the store, then i would just go visit her when she got off work. we went out a few times, but it was always with our friends on double dates.

 

about a week or two later, she started acting really funny around me and just acted like she didnt want me there. she also never would contact me anymore. so i started backing off about coming to see her and if i did see her then i would leave saying that i needed to be somewhere and that i would talk to her later. this went on for a week or two and finally i just asked her about it and she admitted that we have been acting weird, and she told me that she would not like to have a relationship with me right now because she felt smothered by me and i was taking up her friend time, plus she didnt feel the same way towards me.

 

she contacted me once a few days later (last thur. night) and i asked if she was doing anything the next night she replied that she didnt know. i simply asked if she would like to do something and she declined my offer saying that she wanted to do something with her friends. i was cool with that and never talked to her until this past monday night. she sent me a text message saying "so are we going to prom just as friends??" i tried to play it like i didnt know and told her that i would think about it. she become real impatient with me so i told her yes.

so my question is...do you think she is just needing a date to prom and wanting to be friends or is does it sound like its my sec. chance? also, her mom told me that she had become friends with a thug and that her and her daughter are fighting because she doesnt want him around her. so i dont know any details if they are talking or not at this time.

also do u think i should find someone else that would be more interested in a serious relationship?

i know this could sound stupid, but i just want someone else's opinion.

[opentonewadvice]

She is just not ready for any type of relationship, mainly because she she still seems to listen to her peers. You are still quite young as well, But you are ready for a relationship so you need to find someone who is on the same page. I have been through the same exact thing you said the wanting to hang out and everything seeming cool then all of a sudden the switchy ways. well that just means that although she enjoyed herself with you and felt comfortable she does not want to feel trapped are make any mistakes that she is not ready to handle. Also people on the outside may have helped boost that thought in her mind to not get so close while she is still young, and to just have fun. So that may be why now she feels she does not owe you an explanation. and quite frankly she is pushing away knowing that deep down inside she has feelings but cannot underestand them all. But whatever the case you should not continue putting anymore of your energy forth trying to force her back into you. If she cannot change her ways and be honest with you then she is not the one for you. trust me you do not want to get played in the end. So don't get yourself caught up into the prom.

[R_E_D_needsadvice]

i also forgot to mention that when she told me she didnt want a relationship. she also told me that i was to clingy! it kinda shocked me! but if u like a person, then you want to be around them.

[R_E_D_needsadvice]

opentonewadvice, thank u for your advice! she did claim to me that she has been hurt in the past, but she has never had any type of serious relationship. just guys using her for sex. she also told me that the reason why she wanted to start out as friends, was because she didnt want to go straight into a relationship and taking a chance of someone getting hurt. i still plan on taking her to prom, but im not exspecting anything to come out of it. thanks again.

if someone else has any advice please leave it for me! or if you have a similiar/related story i would really like to hear it!