I'm not the only one at fault for, yet everyone despises me for it.

[livelife]

So this guy and girl were dating for about a year and a half. They broke up and he started talking to me. We hung out a couple times and he paid for me and we held hands and stuff. Things happened and I regret it so please don't tell me how stupid I am for it haha. She is in a sorority and he is in a fraternity.

Two of my "friends" are in her sorority and told them not to let me in the sorority because of me. I sent her a message because I was feeling so guilty and I messaged her a really nice letter just apologizing and that I didnt mean to do anything or get in the way at all. She never responded. I am friends with some of his fraternity brothers and they invited me to one of their fraternity parties last night. I went with some friends and he and his ex girlfriend are both there. I had one girl come up to me and tell me that she has heard a lot about me, I saw the ex whispering about me, and two fraternity guys I am friends with tell me that they were told by 2 or 3 people not to invite me that it would cause drama, but they said screw it shes cool. I got very upset about it last night because I am a good girl and this drama is STUPID. I messaged the guy to get his side and he basically just told me that they are all still good friends with her and that it upset people that I came last night. He said overall that it would cause problems with the fraternity and the girls if I came to another party.

 

The good thing is that I am going to be at this college for only a year so Ill be out of this hell in May, but really this is upsetting and I don't know what else I can do to stand up for myself. I didnt even do anything that bad...HE WAS SINGLE!! Thoughts?

[flyaway]

please dont feel bad. you did nothing wrong. the guy was single when you started talking and dating him.

 

sororities are filled with drama, trust me, dont bother. the ones at my school are literally boiling over everyday with stupid drama issues, similar to what is going on with you. i wouldnt go to the parties or join one. the girls are just plain psycho.

 

im sorry this happened to you but school will be done before you know it. just stay out of greek life and youll be okay.

[Osiris1234]

please dont feel bad. you did nothing wrong. the guy was single when you started talking and dating him.

 

sororities are filled with drama, trust me, dont bother. the ones at my school are literally boiling over everyday with stupid drama issues, similar to what is going on with you. i wouldnt go to the parties or join one. the girls are just plain psycho.

 

im sorry this happened to you but school will be done before you know it. just stay out of greek life and youll be okay.

 

 

Also I never joined a frat or a sor.

 

The above mentioned reason was one of them. Also a girl asked me if i was a part of the frat and i told her "If I have to join a club to buy friends then i might as well not join at all". Then I go to tell her how frats are for fags,etc,etc and dissing on them. Needles to say she went home with me that night.

 

But yeah, you are not under any fault, he left her, he started dating you, she cant handle he found a new guy.

[spice4life]

Sounds like a bunch of crazy drama. People who can't decide on their own about a person and have to rely on others for guidance, are not worth knowing anyway. It's silly really to let one person decide for everyone. Sounds like you dodged a bullet. You can walk away knowing YOU are in charge of who you are and can live according to what makes you happy, instead of what makes them happy.

[Professor X]

I hope that at the very least you're not seeing this douche anymore, he's a freaking loser lol.

 

If I was forced to go to a party where my girl wasn't welcomed, I'd blow the whole place just to get my girl in; And he tells you you better not come... pathetic.

[livelife]

Thank you for the kind replies, everyone! Yes there is no way in HELL that I am talking to him after this. When I messaged him asking what was going on, and he mentioned that it was causing problems me being there, I asked him why it upset everyone and why I was the only one at fault. No reply:) And I agree, I dont want to and will never join a sorority based on this experience. no. thank. you.

 

But, thanks for the replies it made me feel better! His friends invite me everywhere. What do you think, should I avoid this fraternities parties and hang out with different people? I think so. Why would I want to nag it on more?

[livelife]

oh, and I think they are talking again, so yeah i'm definitely not associated with him anymore!

[Professor X]

What do you think, should I avoid this fraternities parties and hang out with different people? I think so. Why would I want to nag it on more?

 

You should probably find different people. frat and sor people are usually drama oriented and I doubt you'll enjoy it especially since you're not a part of it.

Just avoid them, much simpler

[Sazerac]

You should probably find different people. frat and sor people are usually drama oriented and I doubt you'll enjoy it especially since you're not a part of it.

Just avoid them, much simpler

 

Hear, hear! Been there, done that, and glad I'm out of it. There may be exceptions, but from my experience, most social frat/sor people are extremely shallow-minded and do not make good long-term friends.

 

I make the distinction "social frat/sor" for the Greek organizations on campuses -- professional and honor frats and sors are much better and if you want to get involved in campus organizations those are the ones I'd recommend. You make a lot of friends with similar interests and if the organizations are in your particular major or field you also make a bunch of networking contacts that can help you with your career later.

 

Best of luck!

[Chi townD]

If all sororities and fraternities act like this, I'm GLAD I never joined one in College! Look, you don't need the drama...enjoy the school year and keep your eye on the one true reason you're at College. Now, I'm not saying spend every waking minute in the liberary, just avoid the drama.

[Eddie Edirol]

If you dont want any of the drama, you own the situation. You say "Yeah we fooled around, he was single, you all have to DEAL with it, I dont care about you petty lil drama queens, and I dont need your parties." If youre going to go to the parties, you have to walk around with your head held high not caring about what they think about you. they are too chicken to say something to your face, so dont worry about what they think.