Quickie marriages....

[sweetypielovely]

I just wanted to know if any of you out there who ARE married had a quick marriage. Meaning that you werent with the person very long before taking the plunge.

 

1. Why did you get married so fast?

2. How is the marriage now?

3. Any regrets?

[denise_xo]

I just wanted to know if any of you out there who ARE married had a quick marriage. Meaning that you werent with the person very long before taking the plunge.

 

We got married after six months, announced engagement long before that.

 

1. Why did you get married so fast?

Cultural reasons.

 

2. How is the marriage now?

The honest answer is that I'm not really sure.

 

3. Any regrets?

I don't generally have regrets about my life, it's not really how I frame things. If I were to chose all over again, I would probably remain single for the duration of my life. I don't necessarily regret the choice of person. But I wouldn't recommend anyone else to operate on that time frame. I made a considered exception to my own rules when it happened.

 

 

See responses above.

[Avery]

I just wanted to know if any of you out there who ARE married had a quick marriage. Meaning that you werent with the person very long before taking the plunge.

 

1. Why did you get married so fast?

2. How is the marriage now?

3. Any regrets?

 

Define "quick".

[Afishwithabike]

I just wanted to know if any of you out there who ARE married had a quick marriage. Meaning that you werent with the person very long before taking the plunge.

 

1. Why did you get married so fast?

2. How is the marriage now?

3. Any regrets?

 

This isn't what I did, but I'll answer for a good friend of mine.

 

1. Why did you get married so fast?

His visa was running out and he was going to have to leave the country. They knew each other for less than two months before they got married.

 

2. How is the marriage now? They're divorced. They were married for about five years. He cheated on her with at least five women and those are the women she's aware of.

 

3. Any regrets? What's the old saying "Marry in haste, repent in leisure"...that applied to their marriage. Yes, she most definitely regretted it. She was infatuated with him. He was a very good looking man from another country, a charmer, but utterly unable to be monogamous. If she had dated him for a year or more, she would have known his true character.

[LilyBart]

I just wanted to know if any of you out there who ARE married had a quick marriage. Meaning that you werent with the person very long before taking the plunge.

 

1. Why did you get married so fast?

2. How is the marriage now?

3. Any regrets?

 

I don't think the problem is having a "quickie marriage" but getting M for reasons such as

 

1) got pregnant

2) everybody else was getting M'd

3) tired of dating and the current gf/bf was "compatible", someone "good enough" to forge a life with/have children with

4) felt their biological clock ticking

5) didn't want to be alone

6) had been dating for so long it was the next logical step/a "necessity" to keep the relationship

 

......just to name a few examples.

 

And amongst the people I know who have gotten M'd, EVERY SINGLE PERSON who had just "one" of the above criteria (pregnancy, fear of being alone, obligation to "finally" get M'd etc) has resulted in an affair.

 

And this was factoring love (at some point or another) into the equation.

 

So I can answer questions 2 & 3 from listening to those friends (of both sexes) who have shared with me the reason they didn't get M for "love alone".

 

Que 2: The M at best is "okay" and at worst "contemplating D"

Que 3: They have regrets and if given a chance would do it differently

[D-Lish]

My ex best friend broke up with her bf and moved into a condo. She met her neighbour across the hall the night she moved in, they got engaged, bought a house, and got married within 8 months of meeting.

 

I can tell you why SHE got married... She wants to start a family. She's in her early 30's and is obsessed with having kids. I don't think the two of them are compatible. I think he's going to be in for a rude awakening once he gets to know who and what she really is.