MaddMike07 Posted September 5, 2011 Share Posted September 5, 2011 Mike's Problem I found out my wife was having an affair with someone she met online. She's known him for over a year and a half... she started talking when my wife's and my relationship had a problem after about 10 years a marriage and five children we grew apart. I stopped talking to her and she tried to talk to me but i was too much of and ass to listen. Her online relationship has advanced greatly he lives in Fargo and us in NY.. He travels for his job and tries to come here to visit her.. I have found out all this because my wife first by mistake left her email up and I read it about 3 or 4 months ago. A week ago I found her password she left it by mistake in the yahoo sign on. So I used it and read all her conversations. My heart hit the ground, I feel like i'm loosing everything, I've called him on the phone, threatened to Kill him and he won't stop messing with my wife and she seems to be eating it up to him, but to me she says she's working on things with us. She wanted to see him I told her she could but we needed a divorce first and she would have to move out and I wanted the House and the Children. This upset her, not what I was looking to do. I told her to stop the relationship with him and come back to our family and she thinks she needs to see him first to make that decision. I don't want her to see him. What I need is some help. I need to know when the 100 lb. weight leave my chest. Everyday I feel like I could die of a heart a tack.. Bottom line. I don't want my wife to leave I don't want my family to break up. I just have so much pain and anger to deal with and have no one to help me with it.. Please help... Link to post Share on other sites
fallenheart Posted September 5, 2011 Share Posted September 5, 2011 Hey man...I'm new here too. I'm not married so maybe my advice won't help much, but I'll throw my two cents in anyway. You can't control her or stop her from doing what she wants to do. If she wants this guy, you telling her (or him) to stop is just gonna drive them closer together. We always want what we are told we can't have. You want your family back and your relationship back how it was, but you have no control over that. All the power is in her hands. Except when you threatened divorce, keeping the house and children. And if she's cheating, you would GET that right? So that's your strongest weapon. And I know you don't want to do it, that it's just a threat, but maybe you need to turn it into a reality. Kick her out of your home and your life and let her move in with her scumbad in Fargo and see how glamorous and happy she thinks her life will be there. She'll may even come crawling back. But don't count on that. Again, I'm not married so I hope I haven't overstepped my bounds...just wanted to offer my take. Good luck! Link to post Share on other sites
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