markiemarcc Posted May 6, 2004 Share Posted May 6, 2004 figure this one out--began having an affair in september--she was crazy for me--we both had a great time--she left a guy shed lived with for 13 yrs who was a biker (u know the rest)--she went to work for me--i housed her, fed her. entertained her etc...--we were inseparable---i'll make this short---2 months ago we got a call--he had comiited suicide--there are varying reasons why (her?)- she seemed to take it as ok as humanly possible--meanwhile divorce papers are filed on me--and as human nature has it i complained about support et all, during this time--a week after the suicide she moves in with her mother--whom by the way threw her out 3 months ago cause she was invading her privacy--and since that time i havent heard anything except for an email whereby i am the biggest ass that ever lived. The night i had to tell her of the suicide i drove her to her moms and i had a beer. I asked if it was ok--she said yeah--now im a drunk--i only care about myself etc--and i lose a marriage out of it. This woman wrote me i love you cards, wanted me forever and all that. Now i feel like i'll never see her again--ive written 1000 emails--called, no answer, called her home and had her mother scream at me at the top of her lungs. All i wanted to know was how she was and i was told it was none of my business (i didnt even know if she was alive). Can anyone shed light on what u think? Link to post Share on other sites
LILUIL Posted May 7, 2004 Share Posted May 7, 2004 I'm sorry if this comes out a bit harsh but I really think she was using you.... to escape that biker guy. **** happens bro. I feel for you. Link to post Share on other sites
notanangel Posted May 7, 2004 Share Posted May 7, 2004 She may have been using you to get rid of the biker guy. I'd stop contacting her for awhile. I know its hard but shes probably going through alot since someone she cared for at one time committed suicide. Shes got a tough road as do you. I'm also sure that you are a very nice guy based on all you've done for her and in time if you don't contact her and she doesn't come back you will find someone deserving of you. Link to post Share on other sites
littlemissomg Posted May 8, 2004 Share Posted May 8, 2004 I don't see that she was using you, although you probably made that a very attractive option by supporting her so much financially... she will have a hell of a lot of stuff going on in her head from his suicide. Give her space. I expect she'll be blaming herself and being around you will probably make her guilt even worse. Set her free - it's true what they say, she'll come back if it's meant to be. Link to post Share on other sites
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