Has you ex contacted you?

[amandap]

Yeah, I agree. In my case, I know he still cares. It's pretty weird. For a while I told him to stop doing it, but he straight out refused. I've now come to just kind of accept it.

 

spices mine also told me he still loves me, but i wont let him know im finding this hard, he needs to realise that walking away means he may lose me forever, i want him to fight to get me back as it was his choice to leave, but whaever happens this has made me stronger

[radiodarcy]

nope. it's been six months and i haven't heard a peep out of him.

 

it doesn't bother me as much as it used to. it's probably for the best anyway.

 

not sure if i'd respond if he did reach out. i did the last time i went NC and that proved to be a huge mistake. so probably not. (this is the second go at NC since November of last year)

Edited September 6, 2011 by radiodarcy

[visualbasicide]

If you're the one being dumped,Has your ex contacted you?after how long?did you answer them?

 

lol why on earth would my ex contact me? That would entail having will, courage, honesty, guilt, accountability, and a spine and I don't think she has any of these qualities anymore.

 

It's probably best to let sleeping dogs lie....which they do quite well.

[without]

lol why on earth would my ex contact me? That would entail having will, courage, honesty, guilt, accountability, and a spine and I don't think she has any of these qualities anymore.

 

It's probably best to let sleeping dogs lie....which they do quite well.

 

nice answer.

[sleepykitten]

lol why on earth would my ex contact me? That would entail having will, courage, honesty, guilt, accountability, and a spine and I don't think she has any of these qualities anymore.

 

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Love it-so very true.

[Rorschach64]

Little over 2 months NC, sent her a nice closure letter for myself last week, still has my laptop, dog tags, and still not a single word from her. GIGs related break up.

[Kathyy28]

Nope, no contact from the ex. Dumped me on May 18th, last time she said anything was the end of May. That's it. Not a peep.

 

My ex dumped me on May 18th too!

 

Lol I know that's nothing to get excited about... but I couldn't help it

[windmask]

dude i loved what u wrote it makes so much sense why should u be in contact with an ex who left u for someone else and lied to you. like **** u deserve so much better. and trust me the person she ended up with after leaving u i bet he left her ass then she prolly felt that shes stupid and decided to contact u cause she cant take being dumped or w.e.

 

dude u so did the right thing its been 4 months for me and i have not contacted my ex gf either she left me but w.e i dont plan on answering to her anyway. good job loved what u wrote.:lmao:

[Audieme]

4 weeks and counting. He broke it off and I've managed to stay in NC ever since. However, I've had trouble sleeping (mind racing), usually up all night. Last Friday I went to bed at 9pm, finally slept soundly. Woke up next morning with a missed call from him at 11pm. No VM. Curious, but enough to call him back. In a way, brings my self-esteem up a little, having him call (which is surprising) and me not answer. I'll take the small victories.

[gamechanger]

i was with mine for 6 years and she broke up with me after cheating with 3 other people (that i know of) lying about it and then lying about another guy who she dumped me for then said was taking a break and she was with him a week later... it took me about 3 weeks for nc and it lasted for 3 months then she started to blow me up text and calls all the time for about a week then it subsided, until recently... i heard she got dumped and then she began to campaign again. she wants to sleep with me and get back so bad but i shoot her down... i finally realize shes a low life and i will set myself up for hurt and regression again. i didnt believe the nc would work but it has made me feel soooo much better and now she cant stop thinking about me... (she even has gone as far as trying to talk to my really close friends about me) she whack she knows what shes lost and its eating her up f her. you reap what you sew...

[visualbasicide]

what you sew...

 

lol that's what I'm talking about.

[fiat500]

Mine hasn't and never will. He's living it up in college and getting rewarded for being selfish. It's been ten months and I still want some kind of...vindication..

[Sugarkane]

Mine hasn't and never will. He's living it up in college and getting rewarded for being selfish. It's been ten months and I still want some kind of...vindication..

Sounds like we dated the same person!

[Layzie89]

Broken up for ten months. NC for 9 months. She contacted me 3 weeks into NC asking how I was and again 7 months later apologizing. Nothing since, feeling alot better these days.

[CaliBabe]

Yes, mine made contact on my birthday which I was quite surprised to get as we hadn't been in contact for 3 months. I kindly said thank you and that was it!

[visualbasicide]

Mine hasn't and never will. He's living it up in college and getting rewarded for being selfish. It's been ten months and I still want some kind of...vindication..

 

Don't worry, it'll happen. The ripples this has already sent out sometimes reach far into the future and it just takes time for us to catch up to them.

[Green21]

We broke up just under three months ago (I am the dumpee). I wasn't given a reason for what changed her feelings, just "I don't love you anymore". I don't know the reasons and will probably never find out.

 

I sent a (long, several-page) letter the day it ended, pretty much pouring my heart out at her. At the end of July I received a note back (about a page in length), where she told me she was sorry for hurting me but that it was for the best because her feelings had changed (although still not saying why, which is what I cared about most).

 

I didn't respond to it. There was no indication that she was looking for a reply and I took the advice on here not to do so. I'm still bitter that she could throw away everything we had so callously, but I don't expect to ever hear from her again and have no reason or purpose for contacting her.

[windmask]

my ex gf who was my best friend also broke up with me 9 months ago but we got into a argument and i went and deleted her off everything its been 4 months and no contact at all.

 

dont think she will ever call shes got a massive ego problem. i hope she gets whatever she fought so hard to have. i wish her the best dont think she will ever call either. so its been four months of no contact and havent heard any news on her either. yup sad story maybe i dont know anymore

[Yadaka356]

Thanks for share

[Surfer Girl]

After close to 6 months my ex called...I did not answer called again two days later. I did not answer... I called and wished him a happy birthday 2 days after he called it was left on voice mail... 2 weeks later I e-mailed him that I missed him at our home surf break no response.... 2 weeks later I ran into him at a charity event I said his name he said mine... and I turned around and left....He e-mailed me it was difficult to see me and it hurt to much.... I e-mailed him to let him know I had found closure...no response that was a week ago... NC again

[RodG]

My ex dumped me on May 18th too!

 

Lol I know that's nothing to get excited about... but I couldn't help it

 

Aha! What a coincidence. I just read one of your posts before this too, and I was like, "Hey, same day as me".

[shortee143]

Interesting reads on this thread.

 

Broke up 6 months ago- and ex has been in my life due to a bijillion mutual friends. Since the day he broke up with me, he never really reached out to try and have a serious talk etc, and we were friends before we dated, and he didnt even care to talk and try. So, now I see him still on the regular (and his new gf, ugh). I kinda wish I was in a situation were I really never had to see him. But not one call, or text, or any hint that he missed me since the day we split. I see him now a lot, and frankly, I just pretend he is "dead" to me. But hell, some exes show their ugly faces years later......no thanks!

[D-Lish]

My ex contacted me after 4 1/2 months for the sake of closure and an attempt at a friendship. It happened really fast- he texted me asking if I could meet him, and was at my place within a couple of hours. We spent over 3 hours talking, and then met for brunch the next day and spent an entire day together, talking on and off, watching movies, having dinner, some more conversation, then a hug good-bye (no sex).

 

This was recent. We discussed what reconciliation would look like and both reasoned getting back together would be a huge mistake because of our incompatibilities.

 

It was a set back to see him again, but I am feeling better than before because I have my closure now.

[Ginger Beer]

Whelp, we dated 5 and a half years. 4 and a half months ago she broke up with me, lied to me about why, and within a month was dating the guy she told me she didnt leave me for.

 

We did 1 month NC. At the end of that month she called, I answered and had a boring convo. A few weeks later I found out she was dating this new guy she apparently didnt break up with me for.

 

Since then she called about 1 month later. I didnt answer and didnt reply. She just left a voicemail saying she wanted to catch up. She called a month later too (about 3 months since the breakup) and didnt leave a VM. A week later (like a month ago) she called and left a sad sounding VM saying that she hopes I could call her back.

 

I didnt.

 

The reason I am not returning her call is:

A. I am not going to be some backup option for a girl whom I apparently wasnt good enough for.

B. If I talk to her regularly it will hinder my progress, and Ive made a helluva lot of progress.

C. I dont want to be her friend. The new person she became is someone I dont respect or want in my life, it is not the girl I fell in love with. That girl would have never done to me what she did.

D. If she truly wanted me back then she would move mountains to make it happen. Only then would I consider talking to her to hear her apology and decide what to do.

 

O and also I felt a bit bad at first since she sounded so sad, but then I realized that her sorrow is NOTHING compared to what she put me through so why should I feel bad for her sleeping in the bed she made?

 

Good post. These are true for me also.

[Wesker]

My ex of almost 8 years dumped me beginning of June. Since we work at the same place, I still catch glimpes of her, and I know if I walk by within eyesight of her, she'll still look at me too. That's the only contact, if you can call it that. She's still with the idiot with the fancy car/house she left me for so I don't expect anything outside of work from her anytime soon. Funny thing is, I'd prolly ignore her completely if she tried calling me now. You don't invest 8 years with someone, and just quit on them just like that without trying to work things out first. I'd rather find someone more deserving of me now.