quietGuy13 Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 I've met this girl for a while now. But we don't meet everyday, we don't contact everyday. But when we do meet we have great time together and compared to when we first met, she seems more interested and now she has more things to talk to me about. Before, we had some pauses because we would not have much to say but now it flows more. we've done some activities together: restaurants, shopping, etc and when she's with me, she seems hapy. and i'm very happy too. I don't think she will ever say anything about if she likes me because i think she's from some culture where they usually don't show it. Or hide it well. Or is she just comfortable just being friends and is not interested in more? Is there a way to tell? BTWay age difference is about 7 years.
Feelin Frisky Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 I take it you haven't touched? Man, if you're going to restaurants, offer her your arm--not necessarily your hand. If she takes your arm and hangs on to it that doesn't mean yet that she is accepting you because that gesture is just politeness. But what it gives you is the chance to drop your arm and see if she takes your hand. I have had this happen favorably and not. It's just one of a few ways to find out what's what. Something else I've done is to look at her and put my palm out with fingers pointed upward. If she's comfortable with you she'll put her hand to yours in the same manner and you can intertwine fingers and hold hands. If she is not, she'll give you a high five and flit off. You have to do something QG. Swallow and just do it. None of these things I told you should produce a hard rejection if she's comfortable enough with you to walk about and eat. Only a wretched biotch would give you hell and you have to make that call as to whether she is a wretched biotch. Good luck. PS: if you start holding hands, then try to kiss her at the end of that time together.
runner Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 she gives you a blowjob. but based on the OP: yes, and enough to want to spend time with you. but if you're looking for more (like a blowjob), perhaps she's not quite there yet. take it easy, have fun and live in the moment.
mrgoodcat Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 Something else I've done is to look at her and put my palm out with fingers pointed upward. If she's comfortable with you she'll put her hand to yours in the same manner and you can intertwine fingers and hold hands. If she is not, she'll give you a high five and flit off. FF, I will tell you, some women will do that and so it won't be a precise indicator. I was hitting up on this 35 year old woman when I was 18, and we would hold hands, wrap fingers, hot dancing in the club, but that was all that biotch wanted from me. But wrapping fingers was misleading in that case.
Author quietGuy13 Posted September 7, 2011 Author Posted September 7, 2011 I take it you haven't touched? Man, if you're going to restaurants, offer her your arm--not necessarily your hand. If she takes your arm and hangs on to it that doesn't mean yet that she is accepting you because that gesture is just politeness. But what it gives you is the chance to drop your arm and see if she takes your hand. I have had this happen favorably and not. It's just one of a few ways to find out what's what. Something else I've done is to look at her and put my palm out with fingers pointed upward. If she's comfortable with you she'll put her hand to yours in the same manner and you can intertwine fingers and hold hands. If she is not, she'll give you a high five and flit off. You have to do something QG. Swallow and just do it. None of these things I told you should produce a hard rejection if she's comfortable enough with you to walk about and eat. Only a wretched biotch would give you hell and you have to make that call as to whether she is a wretched biotch. Good luck. PS: if you start holding hands, then try to kiss her at the end of that time together. Well that's scary to do that. This is the first girl i go out with . I'm not experienced. And by the way have i touched her? Actually yes but very light.. just light pat on the back or shoulder cause i read in some book that is a good thing to do.
mrgoodcat Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 Dude, I'm not very experienced, but I will say this is a win/win situation to "GO FOR IT" when you feel the moment is right. Why? Because if you go for it when she doesn't really like you, you just saved yourself some serious time. If she is ready, then again you saved yourself some time and can spend it actually getting intimate. I know it seems like a gamble, but if a girl really likes you, you won't fail.
Author quietGuy13 Posted September 7, 2011 Author Posted September 7, 2011 Dude, I'm not very experienced, but I will say this is a win/win situation to "GO FOR IT" when you feel the moment is right. Why? Because if you go for it when she doesn't really like you, you just saved yourself some serious time. If she is ready, then again you saved yourself some time and can spend it actually getting intimate. I know it seems like a gamble, but if a girl really likes you, you won't fail. Thanks for the tip. But she's not a local that's another thing. She's in America for study and last time we talked she told me her vague idea about the work she wants to do in her country as a teacher in some kind of English learning school. So This can happen: A) me: I have something to tell you. "I like you" her: uhhhhghhh. ok . well thanks but no thanks i'm going back to my country and i have a BF there(or some close male friend who can be my BF). B) me: I have soemething to tell you.. uhhh. I like you her: Uhhhghhh. ok. After i finish school here i'm going back to my country where i have wonderful tons of friends and a family i love. So I'm sorry but your silly little dream is not gonna work. ****** She has mentioned that she has wonderful friends back in her country and how she loves her family. So of course she's going back. So maybe i'm just dreaming here,, and maybe she just wants me as a friend for the time she's here in USA. Bit sad but well.........But thanks for the responses so far.
mrgoodcat Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 (edited) @quietGuy13 Ummmm, so what's the point of being her buddy-buddy if she's going to leave? Do you actually enjoy being "friends" with girls? Girls make horrible friends and awful story tellers. Unless, you're going to tap that, forget that friends BS. I used to be worried about "scaring her away," but there is no such thing if she likes you. If she only wants to be your friends, then break that ish up IMMEDIATELY! Besides, you've been hanging with her for some time...it's not like it's your 1st, 2nd time hanging out. ADD: I did have a girl as a "pal" in college, we ate together at lunch after class, but I never truly cherished her company. I never wanted much more from her, which isn't the case with you. Edited September 7, 2011 by mrgoodcat
Trolly Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 Why even play any guessing games? Trying to read into behavior can be so hard and stressful at times. If you like her then just tell her so and also that you'd like to give you and her a shot. You're pretty much courting her by definition anyway. The thing is that the longer you take, the more that she'll start to put you into a friend category and once you're there, it's hard to get out of that. Furthermore it sounds like you're falling for her. If that's the case it's only a matter of time before friendship isn't enough. I don't mean to over simplify the situation, but it will only get exponentially more difficult the longer things play out this way. I'm sure you're already well aware of that.
Feelin Frisky Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 FF, I will tell you, some women will do that and so it won't be a precise indicator. I was hitting up on this 35 year old woman when I was 18, and we would hold hands, wrap fingers, hot dancing in the club, but that was all that biotch wanted from me. But wrapping fingers was misleading in that case. You're using an exception to negate the general rule. Nothing is ever guranteed. But if he (QG) does nothing he'll probably lose out.
AHardDaysNight Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 Your problem, OP, is that you're desiring more with these girls, and they just want friendship. That's cool, if you just want friendship. But if you want something more, you're really doing yourself a disservice. And by the way, girls make AWESOME friends! That is, if you want them to be friends...just friends.
rafallus Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 You assume she likes you, and make your intentions clear.
thatone Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 Your problem, OP, is that you're desiring more with these girls, and they just want friendship. That's cool, if you just want friendship. But if you want something more, you're really doing yourself a disservice. And by the way, girls make AWESOME friends! That is, if you want them to be friends...just friends. that sounds great to women, because women get the attention they want without being obligated to do anything in return. they can freely shop for who they want to have sex with, while having everything else they want from a relationship with another guy, while having ZERO obligation. so no, women do not make awesome friends for men that are attracted to them. in fact they make terrible friends.
Elysian Powder Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 (edited) I've met this girl for a while now. But we don't meet everyday, we don't contact everyday. But when we do meet we have great time together and compared to when we first met, she seems more interested and now she has more things to talk to me about. Before, we had some pauses because we would not have much to say but now it flows more. we've done some activities together: restaurants, shopping, etc and when she's with me, she seems hapy. and i'm very happy too. I don't think she will ever say anything about if she likes me because i think she's from some culture where they usually don't show it. Or hide it well. Or is she just comfortable just being friends and is not interested in more? Is there a way to tell? BTWay age difference is about 7 years. Are you having sex with her or is this another case of a man assuming that a woman might be into him because she's doing social activities -which are mainly all about the woman - with him? Has she had any sort of sexual contact with you? Do you interact romantically with her? Are you interested in other women? Does she know about it? Is she fine with it? Is she the type of woman interested in ''commitment''? Does she have an historical data of only getting herself involved with men in the manner of an exclusive relationship? Is she talking about some other guy? She's not ''healing emotional wounds"'? How long since the last time she got fcked? Does she have a friend for casual sex? I don't believe that she ''likes'' you. Your role in her life consists in carrying her stuff around, being her shoulder to cry on, you also protect her physical integrity and she's also also utilizing you as her scarecrow to stray away the undesirable men from approaching her, since they assume you to be her boyfriend. You also wouldn't be on this forum asking this same question had the woman felt sexual about you; you'd be banging her, and if she really liked you, her best friend and sister would be in your bed. You can't make her pussy swell. Move on. And by the way, girls make AWESOME friends! That is, if you want them to be friends...just friends Totally awesome! More remarkably, to strengthen that friendship, is when the best female friend tells the guy that she loves to suck on thick, hard dick, and the guy goes home to masturbate to that mental image. Edited September 7, 2011 by Elysian Powder
AHardDaysNight Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 that sounds great to women, because women get the attention they want without being obligated to do anything in return. they can freely shop for who they want to have sex with, while having everything else they want from a relationship with another guy, while having ZERO obligation. so no, women do not make awesome friends for men that are attracted to them. in fact they make terrible friends. Where did I say that women make awesome friends for men who are attracted to them? I just told the OP to cut and run, if the girls he's going after are friendzoning him! Some of the best friends I have are female. And no, there's no attraction...on either side of us...to be more than that. Let me rephrase that: women make awesome friends, if friendship is both of your only intention.
Elysian Powder Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 (edited) Where did I say that women make awesome friends for men who are attracted to them? I just told the OP to cut and run, if the girls he's going after are friendzoning him! Some of the best friends I have are female. And no, there's no attraction...on either side of us...to be more than that. Let me rephrase that: women make awesome friends, if friendship is both of your only intention. What are the sure as fire safe signs that a guy is your friend? He hooks you up with women. Do those ''girl friends'' of yours do the same? You're wasting precious time. They can be ''awesome'' friends but the clock is ticking and you ain't getting laid. You should only give part of yourself to anything or anyone when you receive something from doing that. And frankly, what you are in dire need of is a tight, warm pussy clutching your dick, not a female friend with whom to talk about Brad Pitt's teeth or moving their furniture around. Edited September 7, 2011 by Elysian Powder
AHardDaysNight Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 I love the sexist remarks from you. Good job!
Elysian Powder Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 (edited) I love the sexist remarks from you. Good job! Kid, I'm trying to help you out. IF you want to have sex, you need to listen and learn from the men who use the time they spend with women to lick that sweet hole, not to tell them, the women, how fabulous their hair is, or how John is going to love the Brazilian waxing she had done to please the guy who is a very good friend - that special friend. The guy who's drilling her. I understand that you consider me to be sexist. It's hard to accept that ''cavemen vocabulary, behavior, and attitude'' can get men laid(and with High quality women) whereas you struggle to act like the perfect dandy(gentleman) from the 19th century and the only visible result is the famous blue balls so recurrent on those guys who put women on a pedestal(white knights) and a lack of female attention, regarding your own sexuality. Keep asking women for 'dating advice' and all you'll get from it is the formation of a deep hatred for the men who get laid(like white knights elaborating on ''why'' women go for Brad Pitt's and Bad boys), and the transformation into prime material for marriage, check out the family law courts to remove your building fantasy of getting laid in the belly of ''sacred matrimony''. Go on about, hit the gym, and fill your body with MAN hormones. You need some serious filling of testosterone. The time you've spent talking about nails with women has further emasculated you, for you use 50 year old feminists sentences to admonish my masculinity , and most women aren't lesbians. Or you can carry on the tradition of the good friend. This forum needs more posts from guys whining that they're the perfect material for a serious relationship, but Mary Jane is putting all of her hopes on the guy who only shows up at her door to unload his balls - while you are there to clean her tears afterwards. Good luck, bro. Edited September 7, 2011 by Elysian Powder
Author quietGuy13 Posted September 7, 2011 Author Posted September 7, 2011 You guys are going off into driling girls and that...but i'm just wanting a girlfriend. nice relationship. I'm not even talking about sex, that's not really my intention.
Lucky_One Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 QG, if she had a BF, she would have mentioned him by now. The one thing that I would caution you about is getting too caught up with a woman that you know is going to leave the country. This is already a relationship with an expiration date. If you were more adept with women or a little less vulnerable emotionally, then I would suggest that you keep "practicing" with this woman (so to speak). I am just worried that you will finally get your first kiss, etc., and you will be devastated when she leaves. How long will she be in the States?
AHardDaysNight Posted September 7, 2011 Posted September 7, 2011 I agree. Please shut up the sex talk. If the OP wanted random sex, he would have mentioned that. Like me, he wants a relationship. Not just sex.
alphamale Posted September 8, 2011 Posted September 8, 2011 Is there a way to tell? yes, if she has sex with you then she likes you
Author quietGuy13 Posted September 9, 2011 Author Posted September 9, 2011 Hi Guys .I'm back. so , so far been like 4 days and no contact whatsover. I'm mean it's ok, but I would like to at least say HI. in a text or something I'm notgonna do it cause then she'll think i'm clingy but oh well. I'm just gonna wait to see if she contacts me. She's a busy student plus probably has many friends in school. maybe she doesn't really need me. so i'll test that out, by not contacting her.. If she cares about me then she'll contact me. i guess. i mean i dont want to keep bothering her.
coolheadal Posted September 9, 2011 Posted September 9, 2011 (edited) Hi Guys .I'm back. so , so far been like 4 days and no contact whatsover. I'm mean it's ok, but I would like to at least say HI. in a text or something I'm notgonna do it cause then she'll think i'm clingy but oh well. I'm just gonna wait to see if she contacts me. She's a busy student plus probably has many friends in school. maybe she doesn't really need me. so i'll test that out, by not contacting her.. If she cares about me then she'll contact me. i guess. i mean i dont want to keep bothering her. Girls from other countries will drive you up the wall. You don't know much about them until you get with them. Good how you think SEX is too much on every one mind here. Why can't he just take her out and be more of gentlemen with her. Girls do first base on the first date you have no respect for. Best to have respect for this girl and she'll return the same. Don't rush things because when things get rush it never last. Another thing that gets over looked, is what is this girl really saying to you. So everyone needs to start off as friends and not start off as lovers. How are you going to know this person for what you want. You want to date and see this girl. Sure they might have someone back home you need to find that out first? Again also you need to know is this girl busy going to school and working after hours. She might not have so much time on her hands. There are some who just want to be friends only. So nothing wrong with that. This way if she doesn't have any real boyfriends that she dates, you and her can go out as friends because you never know what could develop in that friend only relationship? I say keep her as a friend for now, if you want more then ask another one out. You have no real commitment to this friend only girl so you can look for others. If this is what you really want to do. About contacting her, no you should call say hi and see what she's up too. Tell her you got some free tickets and see if you go with you to the movies or dinner and movie or comedy club? Don't be by yourself call up that special friend! Otherwise even if she doesn't call you just call her but if she starts making excuses then you know she's not really digging you. Time to move on but keep her as a friend only. Edited September 9, 2011 by coolheadal
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