A bi-womans perspective needed for married couple

[tbaz]

This will be a bit long but some background is needed to provide the perspective.

 

We have been married for 28+ years now. First marriage for both. We raised three kids and have been empty nesters for 3 years. To say our relationship is strong just does not seem enough. We have been through a lot of good and bad and through it all always seems to come out it all stronger. I would say these challenges have melded us together that we can not imagine one without the other.

 

It is from that security that proably allowed us to explore various sexual adventures. I suggested that we look into the swinger lifestyle as voyeures and see what it was all about. We attend some lifestyle parties, explored resorts and shared voyeur experinces with other couples. We never swaped or had sex with other people but we did enjoy the excitment and freedoms, in moderation. It was entertaining for awhile but not for us as a way of life for us.

 

Now here is where the questions start::

 

Through our marriage and before, my wife has always been very affectionate and hands on with women often commenting on how attractive a women body was. In our bedroom her fantasies were generally focused around being with another woman and threesomes with two women and a man. She enjoyed going to strip clubs and would start up conversations with the dancers usually ending in her psersonal back room erotic lap dance. I always treated all this as just fun and fantasy and left it at that. It was also enjoying to be honest.

 

Recently while in the the bedroom, being with another woman has become the focus of her fantasies but out of the bedroom she is more reserve and cautious in any specific discussions when asked if she wants to pursue thiose fantasies. I told her if she wanted to fufill her fantasy to please pursue it by herself or as a threesome so tha hall pass card has been issued.

 

Here is my question where I need an open or bi womans advice. In a guys life there is little space between fantasy and reality. In a guys mind fantasy is just the startting line of reality. In a womans mind, fantasy and reality seem to be two different universes. In the case with my wife I am not sure anymore as her real world actions are bluriong those lines.

 

Do I provide her the freedoms to explore?

Is she looking for more validation, stating I am fine with her pursuing this independently, or do I make arrangements to fullfill her fantasies?

 

I do not want to beone obsessed with asking her what she wants but at the same time I could arrange something she sems to really want.

 

For those of you that will respond with the judgemental part of all of this I appreciate that different people have diferent views and boundaries. As they say in the lifestyle world you respect mine and I will resprect yours.

 

Thanks for any comments and advice.

[Osiris1234]

If you feel you could live with her exploring these fantasies without you but with other people then I see no problem. But I would set some guidelines so you know what is and isn't allowed. I would definitely set the guideline that any sex she has MUST be safe. (condoms,etc)

 

Personally its almost every guys dream to have a 3 some with 2 women, im surprise your not gonna go for it!