Marriage/Happiness/Sex/Penis size/pre-marriage ???

[danistly887]

I've met this really great girl that i've been hanging out with the last year. We are basically deciding to take our relationship to the next level or an "official" relationship.

 

I'm saving myself for marriage because it's something I believe in for many reasons (not just religious). She has been with only one very experience partner in the past, but we have agreed we will wait.

 

I will be vacationing with her on Maui for a week coming up. She has never really seen my body or my penis. I want to make sure I can please her in life if we are destined to be together.

 

My penis is only about 5.5 inches long and about 4.73 inches girth (about 1.5 inches across the top). Now with the length I'm not really sure how to measure, so the length could be from anywhere from 5 inches to 5.75. To me it just seems and looks really small. Plus I am a grower not a show'er, so flaccid it doesn't look impressive to me.

 

1. Does a flaccid penis matter in a marriage? Do wives like to play around with them or does it affect anything?

 

2. I want to just show her my body and erect penis and just ask if I can make her happy with what I have. Is this a good idea?

Or should I just never let her see until we are married? I want her to know exactly what I have and what she is getting. I am worried because she was with a really experience guy that in my mind I am thinking probably had a hugh penis.

 

3. How do I approach progressing with her and letting her know what I have? I just want to make sure I can please her in life.

[Severely Unamused]

The clitoris is easy enough to access, and the most sensitive nerves in the vagina are within the first 3 inches. IME very few women enjoy cervical stimulation (it can hurt). Your penis should be fine IMO.

 

1. Does a flaccid penis matter in a marriage? Do wives like to play around with them or does it affect anything?

I enjoy playing with my SO's flaccid penis. It's not a big deal though. I prefer a harder one.

 

2. I want to just show her my body and erect penis and just ask if I can make her happy with what I have. Is this a good idea?

Or should I just never let her see until we are married? I want her to know exactly what I have and what she is getting. I am worried because she was with a really experience guy that in my mind I am thinking probably had a hugh penis.

Go ahead and show her your body if you wish. There's no reason to be so shy.

 

3. How do I approach progressing with her and letting her know what I have? I just want to make sure I can please her in life.

Be honest and communicate with her.

 

I think that it is less about your penis size, and more about your lack of confidence. You seem really hung up on this.

 

Alright, I just read your other posts. You are really hung up on this.

Edited September 8, 2011 by Severely Unamused
Insights.

[Linda9999]

It isn't how big that matters, it's what you do with it. You really won't know that till you have intercourse. Stop obsessing about what you don't think you have and just make up your mind to bring her pleasure. Is it just intercourse you've both sworn off of? Could you guys do other stuff now to see how it goes?

[Janesays]

Seems good to me. *shrugs

[reboot]

Sounds like you have a lot more issues than the size of your penis. How old are you?

[danistly887]

She is just so amazing and I worry I will not be good enough for her in life. I was thinking I could show it to her and she could tell if the size will be good enough to please her. If she is not happy with the size then we could just not take things further. She could compare the size to her previous experienced partner.

 

She said she likes it fast, does that give any indication of what type of penis size she would need to please her?

[somedude81]

There are two ways to measure your penis.

 

The most common way is to put a ruler on top and don't press it into your skin. The average measurment is around five inches.

 

The scientific way is to put the ruler on top and press the end as far into your skin as it can go. That gives you your true penis length, minus the fat that is in the way. The average measurement for that way is 6 inches. That's how all the studies saying that the average length is 6 inches got that data.

 

Average girth is about 4.8 inches.

 

PS, feel free to tell any girl that your penis is a half inch longer than it really is, they won't have a clue

[Mercedes]

My husband is not that big. In the beginning, I really did not notice. He was sooo into me. It was great. As he became selfish, I noticed it was small. So....don't be a selfish lover. Work with what you got. Make her happy, and she will make you happy too. My husband is done when he gets his orgasm. I am just there. I have a lot of resentment now. I now notice how small he is.

[danistly887]

My husband is not that big. In the beginning, I really did not notice. He was sooo into me. It was great. As he became selfish, I noticed it was small. So....don't be a selfish lover. Work with what you got. Make her happy, and she will make you happy too. My husband is done when he gets his orgasm. I am just there. I have a lot of resentment now. I now notice how small he is.

 

How small is small? Is 6 inches small? I don't want to be selfish at all.

[Lexygirl]

My husband is not that big. In the beginning, I really did not notice. He was sooo into me. It was great. As he became selfish, I noticed it was small. So....don't be a selfish lover. Work with what you got. Make her happy, and she will make you happy too. My husband is done when he gets his orgasm. I am just there. I have a lot of resentment now. I now notice how small he is.

 

This ^^^^

Wow !! I could have typed this myself, Mercedes !

[danistly887]

I just don't know what to do. I hear people say that i'm average and some people say size doesn't matter, but some say i'm kinda small. But then there are women that truly need size.

 

We are still a long ways from marriage. But I truly feel she is so great that I want to know I can be good enough for her. And i've always felt insecure about my penis size and worry about her past partner if he was bigger to go along with all his experience.

 

I hear people say sex is the most important thing in a relationship. But we both want to wait. I just don't know how to proceed.

 

Should I just drop it and just see how things go?

 

Or should I at least ask her what she likes or needs, as far as positions, stamina etc. and her past partners size to see if I can match up? Should I not offer to show it to her unless she asks to see it?