raptor50 Posted May 8, 2004 Share Posted May 8, 2004 I"ve been with my girlfriend for about 1.5 years now...i'm 19, she's 17. and i can still remember the first day we met, it was so beautiful. i felt so in love and never thought that i would have a chance in hell with a gurl like her only because i was a little nerdish in High school and she hung out with those "popular" girls in HS. anyways, she was the one who made the move first, and i guess i jumped in and said yes. i got with her after i got out of HS... the first 3 months were great...her personality was awesome. all her friends couldn't believe we didn't fight. 6 months...still great. then about a year..things slowed you know...a few occasional arguments. but it's just that after a year, she started changing....very very moody...gets pissed off for a lot of reasons...and i know it's not PMS...and when i make her mad, she gives me this horrible look, a stare....i can picture it in my mind...hurts me a lot sometimes....she lets go of my hand, starts walking away (like when we're out in public..this happens quite frequently now)... she gets mad very, very easily now.... basically, her parents love me. i'm an innocent-sensitive type of guy. i do a lot of things for her including this: -when we go out, i pay for many things usually..dinner, movies, etc.etc. it's usually all me -shopping most of the time it's me paying well she doesn't really work -christmas, i spent $150 on gifts for all her friends and this valentine, i made an ultimate decision that i'm feeling regreat about now....i got her a cell phone...and you know..her friends have one and i felt that i should get her one too since cell fones are cool toys with gurls...and i'm not really a rich guy either...i don't work..i just get some allowance from my parents.... but i treat her so nice...like this...and occasionally i do stupid things that make her mad...like today...it was so sad...... she got mad at me today, because i "ignored" her when she called for my name because she wanted to walk with me and hold my hand....we had just got out of the car with a large group of friends to go take pictures at this picture store....i felt so sad..she got very pissed JUST because i didn't "walk" with her...and hold her hand..... she ended up embarassing me in front of her friends....... and as a sensitive guy, i don't really talk smack..all i do is just say..i'm sorry..it's all my fault....i really didn't hear you.... she just replies "I KNOW you heard ME! but u just kept walking".... and then afterwards she cooled down again, it was okay...i guess...i started thinking about leaving her...when i was driving....... i don't know what to do.......... ultimately, she's made me cried twice in the past because i couldn't take it no more.........i was sitting in her room once and she just kept blaring out all the stupid things i do...it hurt so much, i covered my face and started crying...she closed her door so her parents wouldn't come in and started to say she was sorry...but i was still hurt...i kept thinking maybe i'm not good enough for her.....i keep making small minor mistakes well that mistakes that she thinks are mistakes..... and maybe i've come to the conclusion now that..... if she is gonna keep criticizing me like that, perhaps i'm not good enough for her....maybe i should tell her.... i dunno what to do...... for sure i know, she won't be happy either when i do say that to her...because shes mostly the person controlling this relationship.....i've known that ever since after the 1st month of our relationship..... but you know, this IS my first relationship..she is my first official girlfriend.... i just want to say i need some time......so i don't hurt her..but i said that one night and it made her cry and i took it back and still.....i want to say it again to her....that maybe we need this.....permanently....not for me...for her....since she's always complaining.... Link to post Share on other sites
LILUIL Posted May 8, 2004 Share Posted May 8, 2004 You feel that if you guys ended it it would be better for her, in reality it would be better for you. Not suggesting you do that. What are both your zodiac signs..... you can search up the net about compatibility ratings for fun and see how they match up. That's just to help you keep your mind off things coz there's more than 10,000 websites for that and it's amusing, believe me. Don't you go devoting yourself to what the sites say. Read with an open mind. Whatever it is, well, it's not right for one partner to trample over the other person's feelings. Love relationships should naturally come with a caring contract and you guys being firsts plays a part in the whole journey. First relationships are full of trial and errors. You pick up pieces of wisdom along the way. She wasnt very nice in causing you embarassment in public and that was really overreacting for her to screech and scream in public. Immatured, but she's growing and learning too. It's not right if all the time you are expected to be the devoted partner, and if she really is a good match compatible to you, she'd treat you like an equal human being and exercise give and take. Give and take is top of the list in any relationship. You'll live. Hang tough bro. Link to post Share on other sites
Author raptor50 Posted May 8, 2004 Author Share Posted May 8, 2004 funny you ask about zodiac signs.... i actually sometimes believed in those things ....and what's even more funny...before i met her, i asked her birthday to know her sign. her sign is a scorpio...i'm a sagittarius.... i've read that a scorpio is just a friend for a sagittarius.... in a way, i could probably see her being more of a great friend than a gf to me sometimes... Link to post Share on other sites
LILUIL Posted May 8, 2004 Share Posted May 8, 2004 im a sagitarian too. haha i totally know how you feel. we sagitarians are action based people and we dont fall in love easily but when we do we fall in hard and can be quite devoted. scorpio eh. nah. you read up on your own. have fun hehehe Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted May 8, 2004 Share Posted May 8, 2004 You don't want to be in a relationship with an unforgiving person. Nobody is perfect 100% of the time, and the person you're with should be willing to make allowances sometimes. I think it's time to start going out with other people. You'll soon find out that there are much nicer girls to go out with than her. Link to post Share on other sites
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