new bian Posted May 8, 2004 Share Posted May 8, 2004 I was going out with this guy for a year and a half when i fell pregnant for him. During my pregnancy he was there for me on and off, which was a sign of things to come. When I was seven months pregnant he told me he needed space and then went on to tell me that it would be best if we broke up.....I was confused and hurt. He wasn't at the birth of my child but he came to the hospital to bring flowers, fruits and card. For the first three months he came to see my daughter but then abruptly stopped. This was in December and he hasn't seen her since then. however, he still calls me sometimes and wants sex. I think this is strange and disturbing. I still have feelings for him but I know that if we wants nothing to do with our child then he's not worth the time of day. Please help me to find the right solution to solve this mess. Link to post Share on other sites
Papillon Posted May 8, 2004 Share Posted May 8, 2004 He's not worth your time. Tell him to get lost, and phone your lawyer. get him to pay child support. Link to post Share on other sites
Midnite Posted May 8, 2004 Share Posted May 8, 2004 How old are the 2 of you and what does he say concerning your daughter? I know what you are going thru. It can wear you out. My ex was living with another girl when I had our youngest son. When I called to tell him the baby had been born at 5:00am, she answered the phone. He cried, he came, but he went. You are a courageous woman. There are many options out there and I respect that you had the baby alone. He's bound to also. My ex, after we divorced, had a baby girl with another woman and never saw the little girl. Ex was killed in car wreck. Me and my sons are going to see the little girl, now 10, for the first time next weekend. I wouldn't sleep with him..mercy, He needs to make some commitments..to you and the baby. You can choose your friends and lover...the baby can't choose her parents. Focus on her and enjoy the thrills of parenthood. By the way, congratulations and Happy Mother's Day!! Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted May 8, 2004 Share Posted May 8, 2004 It's actually not much of a mess, just a painfully simple situation. He doesn't even want you, it just knows that you're easy to get sex from. So he's using you for sex and putting you at risk for another unwanted pregnancy. As Papillon says, there's only one smart decision: get a lawyer, get a paternity determination, get child support, tell your "ex" to get lost and stay lost. Really no choices for you to make other than how you will avoid getting into a similar pickle in the future... Link to post Share on other sites
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