Broli2001122 Posted May 8, 2004 Posted May 8, 2004 Ok it has been close to a year now since I last visitted you guys and honestly I missed you all. I am in a seriously dangerous point in life, I am 14 going throught depression I am a libra and I do have a strong want for love, however everytime I find it something goes wrong. Can some one please help me, the last time this happenned was when I fel in love with a girl and we had been flirting for close to 3 months then she broke up with her 18 year old boyfriend and was saying she loved me. Then a month later I told her I loved her and she flipped out yelling at me and now she won't talk to me. Some one tell me if I am going crazy or if I am meant to die single? I am starting to turn to suicide but that isn't the point.
SoleMate Posted May 8, 2004 Posted May 8, 2004 Please call a suicide hotline in your area right now. You will have someone to talk to about your feelings. You're not going crazy, but you are in pain and need some caring assistance to get you through this.
Tony T Posted May 8, 2004 Posted May 8, 2004 No, you're not going to die single and you're not going through a suicidal life cycle, whatever that is. You're just learning about all the bullshxt we all have to go through before we meet the right person. Some of us are 30, 35 or older before that happens. For that reason, I'm suggesting that you not take setbacks so hard. There are many wonderful women who would be perfect for you in the future and you can look forward to making their acqaintance. But for the next six to 12 years, I suggest you take things a bit lighter, have a good time, find someone special here and there to lavish attention on, and learn to cheerfully say goodbye if and when it's over. Young girls are not ready to settle down and are very fickle for the most part. Further, they are unpredictable and volatile. If you're thinking you're going to meet the love of your life in the next year or two, I think you'd be better off with a nice cat. Be patient, enjoy life, and for Pete's sake don't think about suicide. It's really hard for a dead body to find a really nice lady to spend the rest of its life with...mostly because it gets very smelly for the lady. P.S. I'm a Libra, too, but this isn't an astrology thing. BS is universal.
moimeme Posted May 8, 2004 Posted May 8, 2004 First of all, make an appointment with your doctor pronto. Feelings of depression and suicide can be caused by something physical which can be easily treated. Secondly, you are 14. This is way too soon to figure out what's going to happen to you in the rest of your life. You should absolutely not be worrying about whether you will 'die single' so soon!!!! The time to do that is when you're 94 and still unmarried. Your very best bet is to find other things to occupy your mind than worrying about girls or a certain girl or who has girls and who doesn't or which girls like you or how many people do or do not have girlfriends. The world is full of very interesting things to do and think about, and the more of them you learn about and master, the more interesting a person you will be. And interesting people have an easy time of finding friends and of finding girlfriends. And the bonus is that you'll be so busy learning stuff, you won't notice you're alone. Take up hobbies, join clubs, take classes. Volunteer. Learn a new sport. Start a club. Use your good brain to live life to the fullest. Relationships are full of drama anyway. It's much easier to be happy if you're on your own, particulary since you're negotiating teen years, which are bad enough without other complications.
Author Broli2001122 Posted May 8, 2004 Author Posted May 8, 2004 OK I am going to be completely honest with you all. I am ok. I have done all of those things. Yes I have done all of those things. None of them work. I think I will be ok I have just one more situation that is related. I broke up with a girl about 4-5 months ago because of "complicated" matters. I am no longer allowed on her property for this reason. She visits every once and a while. She claims she doesn't like me but the other day we spent and hour kissing, hugging, and talking. During this time she flashed me twice. Does she still like me or is she just being a strange person? She is not a slut as she is a virgin and does not beleive in premarridle sex. Please help me.
Tony T Posted May 8, 2004 Posted May 8, 2004 "Does she still like me or is she just being a strange person? She is not a slut as she is a virgin and does not beleive in premarridle sex." I'm sorry I don't have you right here in front of me to explain this stuff to. First, if she kissed your bxlls for an hour, it would mean that for that hour she liked you. She may even like you for a few days, a few weeks or if you're lucky a few months. But that doesn't mean crap. Young girls change their minds very fast. Enjoy them while they like you and then forget about it. You're only screwing yourself if you get all worked up and depressed about reality. And as far as her not believing in premarriddle sex, that could change tomorrow, next week, next month or next year. You have to understand, people's brains aren't made out of rock. Minds can change. As a matter of fact, if they don't there is something wrong with the growth process. But what difference does that make to you. Right now, she doesn't want to have sex with YOU. So just leave it alone. If you want sex, go find a girl who's into that stuff but don't believe for a second that if she has sex with you she's in love with you. You obviously didn't read my post above. If a girl flashes you, she's only showing her ass. You have to decide for yourself if that's what you want, for today. Tomorrow you could change your mind and that would be a good thing.
DerangedAngel Posted May 8, 2004 Posted May 8, 2004 Could be she likes you and is a strange person. Moi!
moimeme Posted May 8, 2004 Posted May 8, 2004 If a girl flashes you, she's only showing her ass. Wrong end, there, Adrian. But I guess a 'monk' wouldn't know Mr. T is right about the changeability of minds - teenage years are not exactly a time when people are predicatable. Best to try to take life one day at a time 'till you hit eighteen or so!
Author Broli2001122 Posted May 8, 2004 Author Posted May 8, 2004 Okay the way you make this sound is that people are uber(reallyx5[to the 5000]) fickle. Firstly she is a solid person. Puberty hit her early and she doesn't change her mind often. She didn't kiss my balls she kissed my lips. Maybe I didn't mention that we went out for close to 5 monthes as well. Her parents forced us to break up after catching us kissing in there backyard at 3 in the morning we are both virgins and don't intend on breaking up anytime soon. Also about a week ago she claimed to have a crush on my but that isn't the point.
moimeme Posted May 8, 2004 Posted May 8, 2004 OK. Colour me totally unclear on what, exactly, your point is, then, because I'm lost.
Author Broli2001122 Posted May 8, 2004 Author Posted May 8, 2004 Her and I have a really close connection and she aint that fickle I have known her 7 years now. I take pride in knowing what she is like. But I must ask does she like me or do I have to find out on my own?
DerangedAngel Posted May 8, 2004 Posted May 8, 2004 [we] don't intend on breaking up anytime soon Are you talking about two different girls in your posts? Also, I thought you were currently single. Explain please. -Deranged
Miakal Posted May 8, 2004 Posted May 8, 2004 She has a crush on your butt? Come on here my fine young fellow...get a grip on the hormonal storm! Find some other activities besides obsessing about love. Something!! You're scaring me here!
Author Broli2001122 Posted May 8, 2004 Author Posted May 8, 2004 By saying we didn't intend on breaking up anytime soon that was all related to that neither of us intend on losing our virginity early on.
moimeme Posted May 8, 2004 Posted May 8, 2004 My dear, how could we possibly know? There are probably a couple hundred - or maybe a couple thousand - reasons why a person might do what she did. The best and only way to find out what a person thinks is to ask that person directly. And then hope the person is being honest.
Author Broli2001122 Posted May 8, 2004 Author Posted May 8, 2004 She has a crush on me but again I don't know if that is true because she said that before she said she didn't like me anymore.
DerangedAngel Posted May 8, 2004 Posted May 8, 2004 Yes, moi, that's excellent advice. Dude, why don't you just ask her? If you take pride in knowing her so well, then you should be comfortable enough to ask her what's up. Also, we don't know her at all. So. By saying we didn't intend on breaking up anytime soon that was all related to that neither of us intend on losing our virginity early on. I don't follow. Is "breaking up" the new term for losing your virginity? -Deranged
Author Broli2001122 Posted May 8, 2004 Author Posted May 8, 2004 Sorry that was one of my terms I forgot that only I say that. There is a simple answer to why I don't ask her. I can't call her and I can't go to her house.
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