Over 45 - how much patience?

[OliveOyl]

OK she posted the topic because she was unsatisfied with her 'relationship' and thinking of ending it with this guy. People use their own experiences all the time to help someone out who has asked for help.

I have a third date with a guy I'm connecting with this weekend and have known him a total of 2 1/2 weeks.....we have been to 2 different restaurants, and a street festival, and had a fabulous time. He has now asked me to spend time with him on Saturday....may involve spending time at his place but we are going out and doing something and having fun. Carrie has been seeing a guy since July and they have not been out in public and she is very dissatisfied at his lack of communication and how much she sees him....so I disagree in that sharing experience and what I am doing must be working and could be beneficial. What I would not do is accept how I was being treated by a guy who treats me in the way she has been treated by this guy. I would not be a doormat as she has been. She claims she enjoys the game of not knowing when he will call next and it was a "big step" that he wanted to come over (to her home) on Monday night, and she jumped when he said "jump" to accommodate him, but she really is not happy because this is just the same treatment she has been getting and she has been unhappy with (which is why she posted.)

So I beg to differ.

If she was happy with the status quo, she would not have posted. Our own experiences and wisdom are the basis for how we are able to give guidance and advice (which she asked for.)

 

Have you even read this thread, especially Carrie's posts? She has a preference for being a sub. That alone is going to make her desires and feelings VERY different from your own. I'm not sure why you keep pushing and pot-stirring on this thread when clearly Carrie's motivations are very unlike yours. You even said on a different thread of yours, where I posted, "what you would or wouldn't do doesn't matter." Well here, I say the same thing to you.

 

The wonderful thing about this world are that people are different. I say, vive la difference. Part of giving support and opinions is taking into context that difference. Otherwise one's opinion just becomes noise.