Question faithful married women

[Eve]

Another thing. I was considering whilst cleaning today that the levels of cheating must surely be equal between the genders? I mean, both genders are involved at the same time per incident, no?

 

Unless one gender is more prone to having multiple affairs, that would shake things up a bit in terms of the naturally occurring balance that would be there with one of each gender playing away. Not that I really care.

 

Personally, I don't know where people find the time for such things, male or female. I can imagine nothing worse than having another man to be bothered with. One is enough!

 

Take care,

Eve x

[Orianne]

I've not really been made fun of, but some people have made comments akin to, "What if you met someone you thought was better than your husband?"

 

But the simple reality is that I love my husband, and I would never put myself in a position that would never compromise my relationship with him. I don't feel like I'm missing out on anything by being faithful--I have tons of fun with my husband and enjoy his company a great deal. Why take a chance on a stranger when I already have everything I could ever want?

[quankanne]

beautifully said Orianne ... I think when you've found what you've instinctively been looking for, all others just fall by the wayside. I know there's always a "what if" floating around my head, but at this point in the game, there's been no one I've desired more than my husband, even when he pisses me off to no end. Sure, cheating's an easy answer, but it just wouldn't be the person I wanted to be with so why even bother, you know?

 

Woggle, you're gonna piss people off with repeated posts on the topic, but I'm starting to be okay with that ~ I know you're trying to work through some pretty serious shxt inflicted by your mom and La Bruja, and I wish you all the best in finding that happiness. So ask away, my dear, but know that the evidence for happily married, satisfied-in-their-relationship women far outweighs those who choose to cheat. I'm thinking that once you accept that if you have a good marriage, there are bound to be others who do, too, the healing will move at lightning speed.

 

meanwhile, keep the faith Wogs. You'll get there :love:

[soserious1]

Woggle, you've brought up your 2 female co-workers many times & I have to wonder what sort of sewer you work in where people feel so free to openly discuss such intimate details about their private lives?

 

I work in a professional setting, I've known some of my colleagues for over 2 decades and never have I been privy to the types of conversations you describe as going on in your place of employment. Your co-workers sound like they have zero personal boundaries, it also sounds like your entire department needs to get a workshop from HR about sexual harassment and the definition of a hostile work environment. These women need to be put on notice that their workplace behavior is inappropriate, that their frankly sexually explicit & immoral conversations are making others feel uncomfortable , they need to be written up, their behavior investigated with a strong eye in terminating their employment. Their conversations & behaviors on the job wouldn't be tolerated from men, they shouldn't be allowed to get away with this.

 

Also, your wife is considerably older than you are, it makes me wonder if you've basically married a Mother stand in & are now subconsciously seeking to get the comfort and nurture from your wife that you didn't get from Mom.I also wonder if during your really bad times you mete out emotional punishment to her, punishment that you've felt too weak & ineffectual to dole out to the woman who deserves it..your abusive mother?

Edited September 11, 2011 by soserious1

[Pyro]

:lmao:

 

to anyone who took this thread seriously.

[Eddie Edirol]

:lmao:

 

to anyone who took this thread seriously.

 

Yeah for real, I dont believe for one second that Woggle works with any women who have this mentality. He made this shyt up to further feed his paranoia or to get attention here.

[Pyro]

The most pathetic thing about it all is that he claims that he is trying to get better but yet he goes out of his way to go on the internet and look up message boards and articles that have to do with women bashing men.

 

I am allergic to peanuts but I am trying so bad to get a job at the peanut factory.

[Woggle]

I can assure you that I do know women like this plus my mother says it as well. She calls my wife a stupid, faithful little stepford dog.

[Pyro]

I find it funny that you are pretty much the only one on here who knows women like that and supposedly see those type on a daily basis.

[whichwayisup]

I can assure you that I do know women like this plus my mother says it as well. She calls my wife a stupid, faithful little stepford dog.

 

And? Do you actually believe this? About your wife? Have doubts? I certainly hope not. Your mom's words are horrible and wrong. I just hope she doesn't make you doubt your wife..you do know NONE of that is true? Your mom's issues are not your problem so don't let her influence you.

[Woggle]

I know it isn't true but I just wanted to see what the women on here thought. My mom says that deep down the overwhelming majority of women agree with her but are afraid to say it.

[whichwayisup]

I know it isn't true but I just wanted to see what the women on here thought. My mom says that deep down the overwhelming majority of women agree with her but are afraid to say it.

 

Sorry, but your mom is full of crap. Her issues are not your issues, remember that! SHe has a warped way and is bitter... Repel it!

 

You're going to be okay Woggle. Once this freak out stage ends again, you'll hopefully start that GT and it'll help so much.

 

Focus on the good stuff!

[rafallus]

I know it isn't true but I just wanted to see what the women on here thought. My mom says that deep down the overwhelming majority of women agree with her but are afraid to say it.

 

That could mean:

 

1)She's right

2)She's delusional

 

I've picked the side. Did you?

[allina]

Do your friends ever make fun of you because you are faithful?

 

Do they ever call you a stepford wife because you don't cheat on your husband?

 

Do you look at women who cheat and get envious because they are having all the fun?

 

1. No. My friends like my husband and are happy for us because we have a happy marriage.

 

2. No. A woman actually called me a stepford wife once because I love dressing, up cooking and other things she thought were "stepfordy." This woman is also happily married and would never cheat, she was jokingly poking fun at me.

 

3. No. Though other than my exBFF (one of the main reasons we are no longer friends is her cheating on her bf of 5 years who I was friends with and liked) I don't have cheater friends. In addition, I feel like I am having all the fun, be it with my husband or my friends

[Woggle]

Here goes what must be the fifth or sixth woman on here who cut off a friend for cheating on a man. Do women really do this? I must say that while I would tell a friend what I thought of it I would not cut one off for cheating. I have friends who have been always good to me no matter what issues they might have.

[allina]

Here goes what must be the fifth or sixth woman on here who cut off a friend for cheating on a man. Do women really do this? I must say that while I would tell a friend what I thought of it I would not cut one off for cheating. I have friends who have been always good to me no matter what issues they might have.

 

There were other issues in my case but it was all related to the cheating. Basically my best friend of like 10 years was dating a guy I was friends with. He was a good guy and I liked him, thought I was closer to her than him. A couple years ago she started going out to get trashed constantly and hooking up with random guys. All she ever wanted to do was go out to clubs and bars, if I went out with her she'd ditch me to go grind on and make out with some random dude. While I like going out and enjoying a few drinks this was just too much. She was also becoming a sh*tty friend. The fact that she kept hooking up with guys after I told her it wasn't cool and threatened to tell her bf was the last straw.

[xxoo]

Here goes what must be the fifth or sixth woman on here who cut off a friend for cheating on a man. Do women really do this? I must say that while I would tell a friend what I thought of it I would not cut one off for cheating. I have friends who have been always good to me no matter what issues they might have.

 

I have not cut friends off for cheating. I've always handled it they way you describe.

 

It hasn't come up often. I've had two friends cheat kind of outrageously (one male and one female), but both were sort of a mess--not really bragging about it. More justifying, while struggling to figure out how to be happy. Just a mess.

[soserious1]

Here goes what must be the fifth or sixth woman on here who cut off a friend for cheating on a man. Do women really do this? I must say that while I would tell a friend what I thought of it I would not cut one off for cheating. I have friends who have been always good to me no matter what issues they might have.

 

Woggle, When married people have affairs they usually take great pains to keep people from finding out about it. When info about an illicit affair is shared with others often times those people back away out of self-preservation, if they stay friends with the cheat, they risk being accused of approving of the affair or worse of enabling the cheater, if they tell the betrayed spouse, they risk being called a lying meddler if the couple works things out.. all the way around they lose, better to just end the friendship.

[Woggle]

Luckily I have no friends that are currently cheating. I have single friends who treat women like toys but they are honest about it.

[stillafool]

Do your friends ever make fun of you because you are faithful?

 

No my friends are of like mind. If they did make fun of me for being a faithful wife they would not be my friend for long.

 

 

 

Do they ever call you a stepford wife because you don't cheat on your husband?

 

No that is rude.

 

Do you look at women who cheat and get envious because they are having all the fun?

 

No, I think it's sad. I wouldn't consider cheating fun.

[betterdeal]

Oh ffs, tell your mother to f*ck off and be done with it already. You keep lashing out at every woman in the world except the miserable old succubus who created you this way.

[silktricks]

Do your friends ever make fun of you because you are faithful?

No. If they did, they would no longer be my friend.

 

Do they ever call you a stepford wife because you don't cheat on your husband?

Same answer as above.

 

Do you look at women who cheat and get envious because they are having all the fun?

No. I look at them as stupid, uncaring and cruel, and while I usually won't cut them out of my life (though I have, depending upon the circumstances), I will not listen to any of their woes, nor will I aid them in their cheating in any way. Once they've resolved their situation, either by divorcing or stopping cheating, then I'll reconnect. Edited September 12, 2011 by silktricks

[Woman In Blue]

After reading this entire thread as well as dealing with Woggle on various OTHER threads where the same old crap was spewed over and over again, I'm left with a mental image of a man killing his mother then dressing up in her clothes every day and sitting in her rocker. I really hope these folks DON'T operate a motel.

[stillafool]

 

No. I look at them as stupid, uncaring and cruel, and while I usually won't cut them out of my life (though I have, depending upon the circumstances), I will not listen to any of their woes, nor will I aid them in their cheating in any way. Once they've resolved their situation, either by divorcing or stopping cheating, then I'll reconnect.

 

Me too. I once disconnected with a favorite cousin of mine for a while because she was cheating on her husband while he was fighting cancer. I just couldn't take it any longer and had to let her go.

[Afishwithabike]

You are wrong.

 

I don't bother discriminating amongst abuse victims because of their gender. Or their race, or religion, for that matter. Like, I don't feel sorrier for white abuse victims than black ones because I happen to be white.

 

That seems to be YOUR special area of expertise. From your perspective, only men who have been abused by women get to wallow fully and absolutely in their victimhood, and get to be excused for completely trashing whole populations of people.

 

Guess what. You are in the company of many people who have learned how to overcome victimhood. You could learn from them. But you won't, because you are completely wrapped up in your own identity as a victim. You love it so.

 

 

 

Whatever. That would take some work, and a profound commitment to change YOURSELF, which you have no interest or intention to do.

 

Anyway, you ARE a victim. Kind of seems like an avocation of yours. Your choice, at this stage of your life. All your choice.

 

All I can say is, it's really too bad that you married again while you are still so very actively carrying the flame of your victimhood and your hatred of women. Since your wife is one, and all. Your behavior is surely ruining your marriage, and when it's finally completely trashed ... voila! You'll have another golden opportunity to blame a woman (and all other women by extension) for your unhappiness.

 

Fun.

 

Great post!

 

From what I've seen, Woggle searches for information online and in real life that validates his misguided impression of women.

 

Since his mother and first wife were toxic, ALL women must be that way. Has to be.

 

Woggle, some women are awful human beings, but not ALL women are awful. If you find that you have turned against all women because of the actions of a few, then you should get regular counseling sessions from a competent therapist.