I love how every1 is brutly honest and I need pleas!

[Bruntoutonlove]

My man and I have been togeather for 3 years now and just got married two weeks ago.,i love him,with all my heart. I have two children from a preavipus marrige that was filled with lies cheating on both sides. He beat us and always called me names stayed out for weeks at a time and I became a cheater to feel the hurt and lonlyness. Now I feel as though im getting what I desirve n a sence carma is a bitch. Any ways it was rough beganing a mew relationship I was afraid to tell my felings and decusse problems. I had always been beaten when I tryed. And needless to say I had/have major trust issues. So when my man began hidding his phone locking it and pullinh away I new something was wrong. I have been honest with him from day one even about my bad track record of cheating. I moved to florida with him to exscapey x who aparently showed our seven year olf daughter porn. Josh and I were on the rocks b4 we moved we had went to a friends to dronk and have funI was still a bite wild. I got drunk and my friend and I were dressing n linsera walikng throgh the house. Considering privates were covered I kept runing around the house when his guy friends showed up. Of course he got pissed I changed and apolagzed all night. There was a big arguement a reck and I had to keep him from being arested. Ended up n hospitle over panic attack and found out I was prego. I,gave up my moms offer of a three story hse to be with him. So once we moved all I could think is im alone if he desides to leave me. I was mollisted bye my dad as a child and my x had raped me several times. I was trying to get a lawer to figjt for coustdy. I was worried and very upset. I had told josh what was wrong and his mom we were living with his parents at that time. They both were upset with me calling me names. I ended up with nightmares of the sexual abuse and wouldnt let him tuch me. He decided no ment nothing. I compleatly went into shut down mode and tryed to aviod every one until I could collect myself. I said somethings I do regreate. Like , u can have the baby and ill leave if we cant work this out. Pleas dont get me wrong it was a terrible thing to say. But im on a very low fixed income and was so stressed I couldnt c how I could provid sufficantly for three kids. I thought I had there best intrest at heart. Durring this time he was talking about being a wing man and I still had the line he told his shes like a sister , friend to go to the bedroom. He was always on the internet. I finaly got myself togeather and tryed to make my two weeks of shut down up to him. We moved into our own place and I thought we were happy and doing great. Until things started adding up. Taking the phone to the bathroom never sitting it down, internet when he thought I was asleep. One day he told me no offince but im not going to the hospitle for u when shes born that killed me. My x ran off when I had my so beat me after our irst denying her. Our first two years I was faithfull even after I caught him with sme1 n our hse. Well one morning his phone fell out of his pocket and it went off so I looked, I am drawing ur portrate. Of coures he came strait bk affter it and swore it didnt say that calling me stupid. So I started checking every thing in hopes I was wrong. Until I ran across nude pics on phone then his myspace....... I hate that bitch hope she leaves after the baby. I love u. Move here with me we will get married. I was crushed... I had to go bk too nc for a week to renew my restraning order on.my x he begged me not to go. Durring my stay the kids and I ran out of food and. A guy friend of mine offered to fix supper for us and talk to me about how controlling josh was. This whole time he was going to bars nightly. And couldnt send us any money. I called and asked him if it would be ok to go c scot and eat supper. He threw a fite hell no. so I didnt egTven call scot bk made an ass of myself to keep from straing our relationship. On one piticular myspace conversation he told a girl we split and I left. Here my number and

address. He wont admite to seeing her when I first comfronted him he got pissed and denied everything until I started reading it to him. Then it was well we werent getting

along and its better now I stoped after the baby. I checked dates it was anouther lie. Its been almoust a year and I still feel like it just happined. I was sooo scared to ,marry j

[Bruntoutonlove]

He is still hidding things from me swares he isnt and gets pissed and.tells me its n the past anfd if I cant get over it hes sory for me. Wtf.... Just once I wld like to hear im sorry I messed up and I want u no one ealse how acn I help u move on and us work it all out:mad:

[KathyM]

My man and I have been togeather for 3 years now and just got married two weeks ago.,i love him,with all my heart. I have two children from a preavipus marrige that was filled with lies cheating on both sides. He beat us and always called me names stayed out for weeks at a time and I became a cheater to feel the hurt and lonlyness. Now I feel as though im getting what I desirve n a sence carma is a bitch. Any ways it was rough beganing a mew relationship I was afraid to tell my felings and decusse problems. I had always been beaten when I tryed. And needless to say I had/have major trust issues. So when my man began hidding his phone locking it and pullinh away I new something was wrong. I have been honest with him from day one even about my bad track record of cheating. I moved to florida with him to exscapey x who aparently showed our seven year olf daughter porn. Josh and I were on the rocks b4 we moved we had went to a friends to dronk and have funI was still a bite wild. I got drunk and my friend and I were dressing n linsera walikng throgh the house. Considering privates were covered I kept runing around the house when his guy friends showed up. Of course he got pissed I changed and apolagzed all night. There was a big arguement a reck and I had to keep him from being arested. Ended up n hospitle over panic attack and found out I was prego. I,gave up my moms offer of a three story hse to be with him. So once we moved all I could think is im alone if he desides to leave me. I was mollisted bye my dad as a child and my x had raped me several times. I was trying to get a lawer to figjt for coustdy. I was worried and very upset. I had told josh what was wrong and his mom we were living with his parents at that time. They both were upset with me calling me names. I ended up with nightmares of the sexual abuse and wouldnt let him tuch me. He decided no ment nothing. I compleatly went into shut down mode and tryed to aviod every one until I could collect myself. I said somethings I do regreate. Like , u can have the baby and ill leave if we cant work this out. Pleas dont get me wrong it was a terrible thing to say. But im on a very low fixed income and was so stressed I couldnt c how I could provid sufficantly for three kids. I thought I had there best intrest at heart. Durring this time he was talking about being a wing man and I still had the line he told his shes like a sister , friend to go to the bedroom. He was always on the internet. I finaly got myself togeather and tryed to make my two weeks of shut down up to him. We moved into our own place and I thought we were happy and doing great. Until things started adding up. Taking the phone to the bathroom never sitting it down, internet when he thought I was asleep. One day he told me no offince but im not going to the hospitle for u when shes born that killed me. My x ran off when I had my so beat me after our irst denying her. Our first two years I was faithfull even after I caught him with sme1 n our hse. Well one morning his phone fell out of his pocket and it went off so I looked, I am drawing ur portrate. Of coures he came strait bk affter it and swore it didnt say that calling me stupid. So I started checking every thing in hopes I was wrong. Until I ran across nude pics on phone then his myspace....... I hate that bitch hope she leaves after the baby. I love u. Move here with me we will get married. I was crushed... I had to go bk too nc for a week to renew my restraning order on.my x he begged me not to go. Durring my stay the kids and I ran out of food and. A guy friend of mine offered to fix supper for us and talk to me about how controlling josh was. This whole time he was going to bars nightly. And couldnt send us any money. I called and asked him if it would be ok to go c scot and eat supper. He threw a fite hell no. so I didnt egTven call scot bk made an ass of myself to keep from straing our relationship. On one piticular myspace conversation he told a girl we split and I left. Here my number and

address. He wont admite to seeing her when I first comfronted him he got pissed and denied everything until I started reading it to him. Then it was well we werent getting

along and its better now I stoped after the baby. I checked dates it was anouther lie. Its been almoust a year and I still feel like it just happined. I was sooo scared to ,marry j

Move back to your mother's house if you can. Bring the kids. File for divorce and petition for temporary custody and temporary child support until a permanent support award can be granted. Work on your career so you can eventually help to support your family and live independently. Choose wisely next time, and be a good example to your children.

[Bruntoutonlove]

My parents and I dont talk anymore they said I chose him over family. But they always took my x over me even after he beat me. Do u think he can ever change I did for him I gave passwords to everything from the get go and never hide anything even if it does piss him off . I dont want it over but he hasnt even showed me hes tryimg to earn my trust back... Im hurt and pissed but I love him. Love can b blind god help me I cant take feeling like this forever

[KathyM]

My parents and I dont talk anymore they said I chose him over family. But they always took my x over me even after he beat me. Do u think he can ever change I did for him I gave passwords to everything from the get go and never hide anything even if it does piss him off . I dont want it over but he hasnt even showed me hes tryimg to earn my trust back... Im hurt and pissed but I love him. Love can b blind god help me I cant take feeling like this forever

That man is not remorseful, and will continue to cheat. He is also a wife abuser. The sooner you realize what a bum deal that is for you, the better off you will be. Take action to improve your life and the life of your children. I still suggest you contact your parents, let them know the situation, and ask for temporary housing for you and the kids until you can make other arrangements.

[Bruntoutonlove]

That man is not remorseful, and will continue to cheat. He is also a wife abuser. The sooner you realize what a bum deal that is for you, the better off you will be. Take action to improve your life and the life of your children. I still suggest you contact your parents, let them know the situation, and ask for temporary housing for you and the kids until you can make other arrangements.

 

Is it possible that I desirve the lies and cheating.over what I did n my past? I have always been honest and faithfull to josh I didnt want him to hurt like I did over myxs infideality. And even though my x cheated was it truelu so wrong of me to fall n sme ones ar,s who was realy nice to me... Is it normAL TO B SO HURT U GO EALSE WERE I couldnt do that now if my life depened on it.

[stillafool]

I think you need to start making plans to leave this guy. He will continue to cheat and beat you. You need to find a way to move out with the kids, get assistance, and get in school to learn a trade of some kind so you can get a job and support yourself. Education is your only way up and out of this mess. First you have to get away. Even if it means moving to a shelter. This man you are with will never change and you will grow old and beaten up by him. You will look back in 20 years and realize you have wasted your life.

[Bruntoutonlove]

I think you need to start making plans to leave this guy. He will continue to cheat and beat you. You need to find a way to move out with the kids, get assistance, and get in school to learn a trade of some kind so you can get a job and support yourself. Education is your only way up and out of this mess. First you have to get away. Even if it means moving to a shelter. This man you are with will never change and you will grow old and beaten up by him. You will look back in 20 years and realize you have wasted your life.

 

My x husband is the one who beat me. Josh aside from lieing and cheating treats my mk ids and I great. I just dont know if he will ever b trust worthy. Is iyt possible if I keep freaking out on ocassions over it ..it will only drive him to cheat more?

[Bruntoutonlove]

My x husband is the one who beat me. Josh aside from lieing and cheating treats my mk ids and I great. I just dont know if he will ever b trust worthy. Is iyt possible if I keep freaking out on ocassions over it ..it will only drive him to cheat more?

 

I cant edite pAGE I MUST HAVE MISSINTERPTED WROMG SOME WHERE MY X HUSBAND JONATHAN WAS THE ABUSER NOT JOSH.

[KathyM]

Is it possible that I desirve the lies and cheating.over what I did n my past? I have always been honest and faithfull to josh I didnt want him to hurt like I did over myxs infideality. And even though my x cheated was it truelu so wrong of me to fall n sme ones ar,s who was realy nice to me... Is it normAL TO B SO HURT U GO EALSE WERE I couldnt do that now if my life depened on it.

Well, you sure know how to pick em. Your first husband was abusive. Your first and second husbands are cheaters. Dear girl, you need to get away from these bad men and rebuild your life. Contact your parents for temporary shelter. This is not a man you can trust and build a life with.

[Mme. Chaucer]

I am sorry, I know you're in trouble, but you are going to have to make an effort to write so others can understand it if you want feedback. Paragraphs help; so does using the spell check function.

 

I can't get past the fact that you say you got married 2 weeks ago, and you are bringing up all of this messy stuff NOW.

 

What do you need help with, exactly? Are you asking whether you should leave your husband?

 

Why on Earth did you marry 2 weeks ago if he is as horrible as you say?

Edited September 10, 2011 by Mme. Chaucer

[Bruntoutonlove]

I cant edite pAGE I MUST HAVE MISSINTERPTED WROMG SOME WHERE MY X HUSBAND JONATHAN WAS THE ABUSER NOT JOSH.

 

I tryed to dogr h and ran off oppiset side of the road and got stuck n all the snow in a ditch. He pushed me but I has hitting him for cussing me and taking my phone. Hes never laid a hand on me sincr the cops called it domestic violance but compared to my x it was nothing. He is jellious and can b overbarring at times but not phyiscaly abusove.

[Bruntoutonlove]

Well, you sure know how to pick em. Your first husband was abusive. Your first and second husbands are cheaters. Dear girl, you need to get away from these bad men and rebuild your life. Contact your parents for temporary shelter. This is not a man you can trust and build a life with.

 

I wanted to bk out on wedding but didnt wont a big fight over it and I do love him. Can or will he change I tryed to kick him out when I found out but it didnt happen he cryed and apolagized. But when I ask if he told me everything he said yes then he ended up admiting smething ealse.

[Bruntoutonlove]

I want to know if he can change or if .wasting my time. Hes a great dad and a great friend and provider I love him dearly just hoping the marrige wasnt a mistake im still hurt and pissed just wish he would b mre understamding and show e remourse.

[KathyM]

I want to know if he can change or if .wasting my time. Hes a great dad and a great friend and provider I love him dearly just hoping the marrige wasnt a mistake im still hurt and pissed just wish he would b mre understamding and show e remourse.

You're wasting your time. A great dad and great friend does not cheat on his wife. Leave the guy. You are saying he wants you to leave--that was in his communications with other women. Maybe that's true, maybe he's just feeding the other women a line to keep stringing them along. In any case, it's time for you to leave, or otherwise kick him out of the house. I suggest you call your mother. You said she offered you a house previously. Ask for her help.

[Bruntoutonlove]

Was of trying to take my kods and/ or get me and abusive x bk togeather. If I could ceatch him again it wld b over but he hides it better now if he is cheating. Last wek I overheard him and his friend... Tell her she only lives a mile from my house, u need to talk,to her man. So it all came fludding bk and tore me up all over again.

[visualbasicide]

Leave and don't talk to him again. Everyone "can" change, very few want to. get custody and child support, get to work/school and do what you have to for your children. Later on down the line when you have yourself where you want to be, go out and find a real man, someone more like scott.

 

You don't "deserve" to be treated poorly no matter what is in your past. If you are currently not like that and don't plan on it in the future then whatever you used to be like doesn't matter one bit. You and your children deserve way more than this loser will ever give you.

[mochabeauty]

Hi there,

 

I'm new here and have been reading through the posts. I have to agree with everyone here regarding your current situation. You deserve much better than what you're accepting. I'm not going to tell you to leave your husband because regardless of what I think, you're going to do what you want to do anyway. However, he's only going to push you as far as you let him.

 

First, the fact that your husband does not abuse you, doesn't solely make him a great mate. Many other factors contribute to a successful relationship....understanding, love, trust, and respect, just to name a few, are all important to leading a blissful life and having a successful relationship.

 

Notice the bold text - trust and respect. If he's constantly cheating on you, he's definitely lacking in the area of respect. Realizing how difficult your past relationship was, he should, at the least, want to show you that you deserve much more than you once settled for. As your husband, he should protect you, accept you as you are (past, present, and future), and want to prove to you that he is your biggest supporter....will never leave you and will always have your back. Cheating on a consistent basis certainly does not illustrate this.

 

In the same token, he can only take you there (not trusting him, checking his facebook/myspace accounts, viewing phone records) if you let him. Before you can be in a relationship, you have to be completely happy with yourself...know who you are and what you deserve. Sweetie, if you don't love yourself no one else will either.

 

Wow! Sorry so long but once I started, I couldn't stop typing. I hope that some of this information was helpful and I wish you the best of luck in making the right decision for yourself and your children.

 

Remember: You deserve the world so don't settle for less!

Edited September 11, 2011 by mochabeauty

[stillafool]

This guy will not change. You said he wasn't as abusive as your first husband. Listen, any abuse at all is no good. Cheating on you is also abusive behavior. You need to move out and go back to school to improve yourself. If you don't do it for yourself do it for your children so that you will be able to provide for them.

[stillafool]

Was of trying to take my kods and/ or get me and abusive x bk togeather. If I could ceatch him again it wld b over but he hides it better now if he is cheating. Last wek I overheard him and his friend... Tell her she only lives a mile from my house, u need to talk,to her man. So it all came fludding bk and tore me up all over again.

 

He will continue to cheat because he knows you have no other choice but to take it. As long as you have no job and are depending on his money he will treat you the way he wants to. You need to start making a plan to leave.