cutiec123 Posted May 9, 2004 Share Posted May 9, 2004 alright ... this time i have a question of interest or not... this guy and i met...casually saw each other a few times... things were good.. he seemed into this -- got my number ... texted to say great to see me etc etc... well we kept texting back and forth.. and he was always saying we should hang out some time ... well, he came to see me at work one day ... nice ... and he had a show that night (band), said i shoudl come out .. well i did ... and now thinga seem different i don't know if it was that nite or what -- but now he doesn't text me first .. i have to text him... and he seems a little less into me .. but he still says things like i'll text or call tomorrow ... etc etc ... we keep in touch .. but i'm not sure.. how can i really tell if hes into me or not? i don't want to bother him either ... so any signs i should back off... or what are flags he's not feeling me at all ... i mean we still hug and all that stuff when we see each other... so he's not comletely hands off...anyway ... some help please ...thanks Link to post Share on other sites
Neo Posted May 9, 2004 Share Posted May 9, 2004 Looks to me like you are perhaps reading too much into it... from what you say here, all seems to be going quite well. Keep doing what you're doing... Link to post Share on other sites
Diva Posted May 9, 2004 Share Posted May 9, 2004 This is classic male "rubber band" behavior if you follow the Mars/Venus stuff. He was into you, then you showed up at this event and he suddenly feels like you're pursuing him, so he backs away. Even though he invited you, some guys will suddenly feel that way, he probably doesn't even know why, but the fact that you showed up gave him a clear indicator that you are interested, and if he is not sure how he feels, he may suddenly back off. Before he was doing the pursuing and that was okay to him because he was not sure how you felt about him, but once he knows you're into him, now he feels like he needs to be sure also and suddenly he feels like he's not. It's a little complicated, but this has happened to me so many times, I have learned to usually read the signs. I recommend reading Mars and Venus on a Date. Helped me out so much. And you texting him first solidifies the feeling that you are pursuing him. I would back off for a while. If you give him some space he may start pursuing again. Link to post Share on other sites
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