alexa137 Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 seriously men! what is the deal with wanting pics on your phone? Im very hesitant about that! i mean really i wouldnt do that especially with someone ive NEVER met before! SMDH! the last 3 guys Ive just messaged or talked to have asked me for a pic, so i tell them, well i have many pics on my dating sites(which i met you at) and on my facebook page if you like to see a pic of me! also, my phone doesnt have internet( yea i know, im out of date, whatever) I cant afford a spify phone that does everything a regular desktop computer does for me( im home online about 18 hrs a day!) so i dont get pics, statuses, updates and all that other stuff people that are glued to there phone 24/7 do! and even after i tell the dudes this they still ask me! so very annoying! ugh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! now dont get me wrong, i'm not a prude! but i dont mind sending maybe 1 after ive met you, we have been dating, and possibly already had intimate situations!
Art_Critic Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 Do you mean naked pics ? those I would never send someone.. you never know who they will forward it too. If a guy asks you for a naked picture before you have had a chance to get to know him then tell him to buzz off.. what a jerk.. If you are just talking about a normal picture.. then maybe they are trying to get your phone number.. or trying to see if you look like your online pictures.
thehead Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 seriously men! what is the deal with wanting pics on your phone? Im very hesitant about that! ! You should be.
Author alexa137 Posted September 11, 2011 Author Posted September 11, 2011 ok, and no i wouldnt send a naked pic! why would you want a normal pic when you can see them better online?! i didnt ask and i dont want to, im just getting so annoyed just trying to meet someone decent! it just makes me miss my ex even more! I mean i have morals, values etc... but cant seem to find a man doesnt matter if 30 40 50 that will respect that!!!!!
USCGAviator Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 If were already texting each other, it's nice to have a pic of you so we don't have to keep logging in to refresh our memory of you.
Author alexa137 Posted September 11, 2011 Author Posted September 11, 2011 nope i havent given this guy my # yet, because sometimes i just dont want to be bothered! plus i only have 200 text messages a month of my phone plan and cant afford if i go over! i just met this guy friday on the datehookup.com dating site, he has already sent me over 50 messages in 3 days! i can imagine if i give him my phone # so i just doing alot of investigating and testing and asking alot of questions before i give it( if i decide to or not) just being very extra careful and changing up my ways in the dating dept( since i have failed so many times) and really regret losing the last guy i dated over some dumb stuff!
USCGAviator Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 I see where your coming from. I only ask for a phone pic if we already exchanged phone #'s
ThsAmericanLife Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 nope i havent given this guy my # yet, because sometimes i just dont want to be bothered! plus i only have 200 text messages a month of my phone plan and cant afford if i go over! i just met this guy friday on the datehookup.com dating site, he has already sent me over 50 messages in 3 days! i can imagine if i give him my phone # so i just doing alot of investigating and testing and asking alot of questions before i give it( if i decide to or not) just being very extra careful and changing up my ways in the dating dept( since i have failed so many times) and really regret losing the last guy i dated over some dumb stuff! I recommend Google Voice. It is a number that can be used to reach you, but you aren't giving out your actual number. Works great...
Disenchantedly Yours Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 I think some boys (note that I did not say "men") collect pictures of pretty women like they would collect sports memorbila. I'd be leary of any guy that made the main focus of the interaction between you two about getting more pictures from you. It's difference if a boyfriend is asking for a sexy picture of you while he's at work. It's lame if some guy you just started talking to is getting all fussy and demanding about you giving more pictures to him. Stand strong. Which it sounds like you are by telling them you have many pics they can see already. That's a great answer. If a man continues to press you for pictures after you told him this, then he's a douche and you need to get rid of him. He's not respecting what your telling him. And that's not something that's going to all the sudden change if you get into a more intimate relationship with him. It's an early red flag.
sm1tten Posted September 11, 2011 Posted September 11, 2011 Yep, red flag alert. I've only had this happen twice, also with a guys I met online. In each case, he wasn't asking for any specific kind of picture but as I said to him, I have pictures in my profile. I only send pictures of myself to my boyfriend. And yet, he kept asking. So I launched him. No regrets.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 now dont get me wrong, i'm not a prude! but i dont mind sending maybe 1 after ive met you, we have been dating, and possibly already had intimate situations! This has nothing to do with the question of being a 'prude' or not. You either have the good common sense to not have nude/semi-nude photos of yourself outside of your control, or you don't...
omkara Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 No offense, Alexa, but the maturity level of your question seems a bit... low. How can you possibly not know when you're being trolled? Is this your first day on the internet?
insaneinthebrain Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 i think it depends... if your seeing someone officially, the occasional underwear picture, of course cropped of at the head... would be okay.. but to start off the relationshp that way .. sounds like ... walking up to someone and just asking them if they wanna shag.... Kind of tasteless.
grkBoy Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 seriously men! what is the deal with wanting pics on your phone? Im very hesitant about that! i mean really i wouldnt do that especially with someone ive NEVER met before! SMDH! the last 3 guys Ive just messaged or talked to have asked me for a pic, so i tell them, well i have many pics on my dating sites(which i met you at) and on my facebook page if you like to see a pic of me! also, my phone doesnt have internet( yea i know, im out of date, whatever) I cant afford a spify phone that does everything a regular desktop computer does for me( im home online about 18 hrs a day!) so i dont get pics, statuses, updates and all that other stuff people that are glued to there phone 24/7 do! and even after i tell the dudes this they still ask me! so very annoying! ugh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! now dont get me wrong, i'm not a prude! but i dont mind sending maybe 1 after ive met you, we have been dating, and possibly already had intimate situations! I dunno. I would call it flattering. Someone likes you, thinks you're beautiful, and wants to see you when he maybe had a bad day. Pics on phone is like when people used to keep pics in their wallets. I'd understand finding it bad if it's been only 1-4 dates, or he wants a nude.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted September 12, 2011 Posted September 12, 2011 Flattering is: "you're really a beautiful woman in your pictures. I especially like the picture of you with your hair up and your standing infront of a mountain." Flattering is not: "Hey baby, you got more pics for me? Send me more pics baby."
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