bl22 Posted September 11, 2011 Share Posted September 11, 2011 (edited) Hello everyone, you might remember me from last year when things ended with my ex and I was heartbroken and came to these boards for advice. It has been a year since that happened and I think I can say I'm finally over her. It's been a long journey but I no longer think of her and feel sad or disapointed at what happened...however...I have now come into a few new problems since getting back into the dating game You see...my ex left me for a co-worker. Very recently I've became really close to a girl I work with, we've been out twice, at 1 point I went back to hers and we chatted for hours, nothing physical. She has mentioned she has a boyfriend but we stil see each other alot. It is now getting to the point where I have developed strong feelings for this girl and I feel she has too...I havent tried anything with her and wouldnt whilst she is in a relationship. I know full well how it feels to be on the recieving end of that, but it's confusing. She is the first girl I've got close too since my ex and I've even dated others without much success. I'm stil dating others though and have a few more lined up over the next few weeks which if any are sucessful will make things a little easier for me and her. In the mean time shes invited me to do something this weekend and I've agreed. Never thought I'd be in this situation but here it is...it's took eveyr ounce of humanity and sense not to try anything with her, especially when alone in her room on her bed and I get the feeling she wants it! I had to literally get up and say 'sorry but I have to leave'.... I probably know what you guys will say, dont do anything. Dont worry Im not going too, but we make pretty good friends and I dont want to lose someone else who I've got close too. This dating game is abit overwhelming at times and I'm finding it hard to keep up right now! haha, it sure beats being heartbroken browsing internet threads in the hope that she will 1 day contact me....she hasnt, if you are wondering...and it doesnt bother me in the slightest anymore Edited September 11, 2011 by bl22 Link to post Share on other sites
melenkurion Posted September 13, 2011 Share Posted September 13, 2011 Feel free to dismiss this as psychobabble, but in an early phase of my breakup a situation occurred where I believe I "cast" two of my friends in the role of my ex and the guy he left me for. I even said exactly the same things to one of them as I had wanted to say to my ex, but never got to say. It was very clear to me I wasn't really yelling at my friend. I talked about that to my counsellor after it happened... She said there's an idea that when you have experienced a traumatic event, you might try to recreate the situation slightly differently in order to get a better outcome for yourself, or to make sense of it. I'm not saying that is what is going on here, but it just might be something to bear in mind. Link to post Share on other sites
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