My best friend cheated on me after a month of dating. wtf?

[purplepanda]

We met at camp the summer of 2010, and we liked each other. He asked me out, but we live 2 hours away (we're in high school, I'm a senior and he's a junior).

 

Let me say first off that he is very shy (except around me) and he has never fed me lines like other guys (oh you're so beautiful, crap like that). The biggest compliment he's ever given me was "You're so cute when you sleep!" Any girlfriend he's ever had broke up with him after a week, mostly for their exes, and because he's shy, he says.

 

This summer at camp we decided to date, because I'm going to college where he lives next year, so we thought it'd be nice to say we'd been together a year. I was crazy about him. And he was my best friend! I told him everything, he told me everything: like, him being depressed sometimes, and not eating very well and never going to sleep. I basically forced him to tell his parents to talk to a doctor. :/

 

We wrote letters, and we both were getting cell phones, and everything. We talked on facebook nonstop...

Then 3 weeks ago he sent me this:

I don't think I can do this :/ I don't think I can stand having a girlfriend that I can't even see for a year. I don't think we should date, at least until we can see each other, and Be Together. I'm sorry.

 

It sounded exactly like what my ex used to always say to me...

 

After that he deleted his facebook, reactivated it, and deleted it again. But when I would email him and say Why'd you delete it again? He ignored me. And the day he broke up with me, his friend jamie said Are you guys still together? I said no... then she wouldn't say why she asked.

 

Last week I asked her what was going on with him and she said, "I have to be honest with you, because you don't deserve to be treated like this. He cheated on you. I went to his house and walked in his room and he was making out with (some girl). They're dating. I looked on his iPod and there are no pictures of you, just of them. I was mad at him and he broke up with you after that. We're all mad cause he's acting like a jerk, and blocking everyone on facebook, including you."

 

I sent an email to him.

"I know what you did. I know you have a girlfriend, and I know you cheated on me.

Never speak to me again. Ever."

He said the worst thing a cheater could ever say, "I never really meant to hurt you". "But you did. You really had me fooled".

 

I haven't talked to him since. My friend added him on facebook (hmf. I'm still blocked.) and told me that he seems to be feeling sorry for himself by posting "don't judge me, just love me" and telling my friend "I hope this will change things" (referring to himself feeling bad about it.)

 

 

I don't know what to do. I feel like I lost mostly my best friend, not my boyfriend. I can't believe he'd do that to me. :'( And he knew what he was doing when he blocked me online; he wasn't planning on telling me. And now that I know is the only reason he feels bad. Right? I never thought I could be so angry at somebody. I feel like I don't even know him. What do I do? Am I making the right choice?

[Space Ritual]

Well, I'm sorry that happened to you.

 

In all seriousness LDR's are difficult enough to maintain for anyone, and all the more reason for someone your age to date people more local.

I know you feel awful, more so to some degree I would think because of how you had to find out about your BF's cheating. Yeah it hurts like hell right now but look at it this way if you can....

 

You dodged a bullet in more than one way. You found out in a relatively short time the character of your BF. Imagine had you invested multiple years with this person only to discover later his indiscretions, of which there would more than likely been many more of had your relationship continued.

And you also gained some valuable experience as to how easy it is to get wrapped up in relationships that are net driven, as well as long distance. You aren't the first and you won't be the last.

 

I would suggest making him as insignificant as possible. especially on FB. If that means dropping a few friends there as well to speed up your healing. So be it.

 

Time will heal this and please know that not all guys are like that. and also consider that your BF was not mature enough to be honest with you in the first place. Many if not most boys that age are not. Keep your chin up, you did nothing wrong.

 

Good Luck

[coolheadal]

FB is not the Virtual Hang Out.. If your not on FB then your not cool. Too much focus on FB for kids and adults. Listen you need not to worry about FB and if you were cheated on then you don't need that person in your life again. They'll never stop cheating on anyone their with. Like a sickness with them they can't stop it.

[Eddie Edirol]

What do I do? Am I making the right choice?

 

You dont have a choice. He made his decision, and it wasnt you. He moved on and left you in the dust. All you can do us dust yourself of and walk the other way. And consider not walking in the direction of long distance relationships again.

[purplepanda]

We didn't MEET on facebook. We both don't have cell phones, except I had one for about six months, so we could only talk online.

[Space Ritual]

all the more reason to make him insignificant....

[purplepanda]

all the more reason to make him insignificant....

 

It's hard...

How do I know if they really mean they made a mistake or whether they're just playing me?