A special girl I met.

[Tkay]

Hi everybody.

 

I'm 18 years old, never had real girlfriend. I need some advice. Here's my story.

 

Something like 2 or 3 months ago I was at my best friend's house (she's female... I'll call her M. from now on) and I was

 

looking at some pics of her.

There was one pic of her class from last year (she went to different school) and I saw this really cute girl on it. (Let's

 

call her T. from now on)

I asked some stuff about her ( like what's her name .. is she a cool person, etc )

 

M. asked me if I'd like to get to know her better and ofcourse I said yes.

M gave her my LookNMeet adress (Its something like Cu2 , aslpage, ... U know, a site about yourself with a picture your

 

hobbies and a guestbook) and she said something like "cute guy" or whatever.

I left something in her guestbook (sayin hi.. how are u.. so ur the friend of M. yada yada) and she wrote back.

Next I asked her for her MSN and we talked a bit. Never long conversations. always hi how are u . fine.. blabla. cya.

When M. was at my home she was on her msn and T. was online. M. asked her "do you have a boyfriend?" "no" "do you want one?"

 

"yes but i only just know thierry"

"but u wanna get to know him better?" "sure!"

Me, M. and some friends were going to an amusement park and we asked her to come to. she said she wanted to go, but we had to

 

set a different date, so she couldnt come she had something planned on that date.

 

after this i didnt talk much with her because I knew I would probably never see her. School started again etc, and M. warned

 

me she always says she's coming but then cancels the last minute (she just doesn't like going out)

 

Untill the day before yesterday. We were at a party and suddenly M. screamed for me. I went to her and there she was in all

 

her beauty ... T.

Suddenly my heart started pumping 500mph.. froze.. luckily for me she was still talking to M.

then she saw me...

"huh... thierry?????"

"yeh! hi :)"

"hi!! oh you look so much different than on the picture"

M: "better or worse?"

T: "better!"

 

ok.. some small talk.. like so finally i see u in real life

didnt know what to say.. got a drink (wodka) and did ad fundum in the hope go get a bit looser. didnt help though

suddenly M. pushed us two together and said "talk to eachother!"

still didnt know what to say. luckily for me i tought of 2 phrases to say. something like so didnt knew u liked this kind of

 

music.. i tought u only liked RnB. she said yeh its first time me: thumbs up she: so thats good? me: very good!

Also said something like bah annsophie(friend of my) is constantly kissing her boyfriend in front of our noses and we're like

 

uhuuuuh... tumdudum.. and she said ye that sux or something

ok.. conversation over.. **** me... im so stupid... why dont i talk to her...

some time later suddenly some foreigner runs up to her and starts saying "what u looking at! u laughing at me?" etc

he actually started pushing her. I said something like hey dude stop it she didnt mean it like that!!!! leave her alone"

we walked somewhere else..

suddenly the guy again comes and pushes her and again says the same stuff. Suddenly she holds my hand and I said the same stuff to him. when i was about to get a punch someone pulled him away and he stayed away

I look at T. into those beautiful big eyes of her and she says im sooo scared i want to go.

Apparently it was 12.30 and that was her time to go home. she walks up to me, holds my hand pulling me with her and asks if i wanna come to her car together with M.

when we got there she said something like thanks! and i kissed her on the cheek... and she drove off..

 

next day in the evening she came online.

we talked a bit about the day before.. I made a compliment and she said ":Phehe" "flatterer". (before, when i made a compliment she said :Shole or :Shehe) when she left she said ciao(k); cya later (f)

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I'm totally in love. I know it's weird to love someone who u dont even really know but still. I'm going to ask her to come to a party with me and M. friday. theres also a party of a friend of mine near her house, im going to ask her to come there too.

 

I'm not sure why i'm posting this. I wanna know if im on the right road. how should i take it from here. should i have made my move friday? I hope i didnt bore her not saying much. she likes tennis, i dont like any sport, i hope that isnt a problem? etc

 

give your comment!

[littlemissomg]

Hey! I read your post thinking 'wow do guys look into stuff this much?!' I thought just us gals did that!! Invite her to the parties for sure, but you've said she doesn't really like that situation so maybe a film would be a better idea? You know she likes tennis - ask her about that. You're in school - ask her what she's studying/ what she wants to do when she leaves, etc. Just talk to her as you would talk to your girl best friend - you have an advantage because of that because you're used to being around girls. Don't put her on a pedestal that sees her as being intimidating.

 

Good luck!

[Tkay]

nuts.

M. just told me something i didnt knew.

 

when we were at the party and i saw T. i told M. i got very nervous etc..

and guess what

while i was talking to someone else M. told T. i got nervous when i saw her! i'm not sure if that was a real good help.. she smiled sweet (says M.)

it was in he begin of the evening i think

lets hope she doesnt think im a fag :s

[Tkay]

k

M. called her to ask her to come to a party

she asked about me, and asked if i wanted to send my number to her. she cant come to the party but maybe she's coming to another party saturday. (not really a party... just between friends) so thats a good occasion to get to know eachother better! Let's hope it goes good and we get along good. rather scared of that. that we dont get along good. im not a very interesting person, nor funny. i know it sounds like i dont have confidence but hey its the truth to be honest.

 

we'll see and lets hope for the best.

[RedneckRomeo]

sounds like you have a chance here, asking for your number, talking about you, etc. - just be yourself, and if you think you arent interesting or funny, PRETEND to be. Dont be thinking you're the best, but look around, and you will see others who are worse off than you. Everyone has something about them that makes them interesting and funny. Just be yourself and if you are interested in her, show her and take it from there. Don't think about how bad off you are - but think about things you CAN do, and it will help you immensely.

[Tkay]

hmmrr

 

I had to send her a SMS so she knew my number:

" Hi! Sorry for the waiting, battery broke feel like coming to a mate's party on saturday? M. is comin too. kiss thierry "

 

she replies:

 

" Hi! Sorry i have a tennisgame interclub saturday and it starts at 15u and last time i was back home at 10! sorry.... :s ciao! kiss T."

 

So I reply:

" Hehe no problem. I'm going around 11 and i could pick u up... but i understand u if you're too tired!! anyway win that match for me! kiss thierry "

 

and she didn't reply anymore. could be her battery was broke, no more credit on her mobile, she already went sleeping, .... dunno

 

Should I just continue asking her - knowing she doesn't like to go out etc?

I'm actually feeling a bit :-( because I won't see her for some time.

 

PS: the tennismatch part is true. she really had to play that long last time, but it was rather an exception i think. (2x3 sets). Last saturday evening she said it.

 

She may be making an excuse because:

1) she just dont wanna go out with me (but i would think its strange... i tought things were going smooth)

2) she just doesnt like going out and makes an excuse for it.

 

what should I do..

[blue16]

i dunno dude i don't think its a good sign that she's constantly busy. If, however, she had a counter offer for a date...then that would explain that. But judging from your conversation you asked to go to with her some place, and she was busy.....but never said "how bout some other time" or something along those lines. She just said she couldn't go, and that's it. Doesnt look outstanding at this point, sorry to say.

[Tkay]

Originally posted by blue16

i dunno dude i don't think its a good sign that she's constantly busy. If, however, she had a counter offer for a date...then that would explain that. But judging from your conversation you asked to go to with her some place, and she was busy.....but never said "how bout some other time" or something along those lines. She just said she couldn't go, and that's it. Doesnt look outstanding at this point, sorry to say.

I would have tought of this myself , but asking for my number, saying she things im goodlooking, wants to get to know me better etc just convinces me that there is still hope.

she just doesnt like going out - not just with me.

My "plan" is to get to know her better just by going accidently to the same place or something... and going out as friends and stuff.

[Tkay]

change in plans.

I decided to forget the whole thing.

blue16's post made me think about it and it just she doesn't like me after all.

I'm feeling - ONCE AGAIN - like **** it all, i knew it, it was just too crazy haha imagine me with such a beautifull nice sweet girl...

and i'm thinking 'oh well ill just kiss the first girl i run into on a school party friday"

brrrr

[compgeek2004]

Tkay call her!! or find some way to get a hold of her...yes she's giving you the she's busy but still who knows..she may actually like you..but if you don't act you'll just be sitting here wallowing in your depression.

[Tkay]

ok.. talked to her on msn..

her nick was "the sagitarius is a kisser extravagant. They kiss avonturely and breathtaking." (it was from a horoscope email)

 

so i said: (I'm X, she's Y)

X so you're probably a sagituarius?

Y hehe!

Y cool huh!

Y

X

X What do they say about pisces?

Y Lemme check..

Y Oh damn already erased it!:$

Y sorry

X damn

X it was probably something like.. the pisces kisses supergood.. his kiss is famous and passionate?

Y I think so

Y hehe

Y tss

X Find out?

Y hehe flatterer

Y yehyeh

Y you'd like that huh

X who wouldnt want to kiss such a beautiful girl.. that would mean you're gay!

Y hehe

Y thanks

Y hmm

Y cool

Y u can send ecards with msn

X send me one

Y you first

Y no ya know

Y they deleted everything from my pc

Y i'm fixing it at the moment

Y ah i see.. good luck!

Y allright pc works again

-- random blabla.. not much

Y gotta go!

Y cya later maybe!

Y ciao (k)

Y -x-

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So i send a e-card like i promised..

the front said "would you like to dance?... for the next 60 years"

and added the message on it:

something like

"hey u! dont really know what to say :$ but you know... i think.. that i .. secretly think you're a very cool girl! (altough i dont know you very well yet )

hope to see u again sometime but without the fight!

 

xxx... Tkay

 

I'm not sure what to think about the conversation. hmmzz

[Tkay]

i cant get her out of my mind.

saturday i sent her a sms saying 'good luck with the tennis match' and she replied

'Heyla! Ooo..oh thanks! really very nice of you! i'll do my best! ;o) ciaociao... T.*'

 

while reading the sms i tought oohhh sounds good.. but then i came to the end of it .. no kiss.

for some strange reason i think she's trying to make something clear to me.. or not?

[blue16]

Originally posted by Tkay

i cant get her out of my mind.

saturday i sent her a sms saying 'good luck with the tennis match' and she replied

'Heyla! Ooo..oh thanks! really very nice of you! i'll do my best! ;o) ciaociao... T.*'

 

while reading the sms i tought oohhh sounds good.. but then i came to the end of it .. no kiss.

for some strange reason i think she's trying to make something clear to me.. or not?

 

It seems somewhat clear to me how she really feels. I think she thinks you are a very nice person, but isn't interested in persuing a romantic relationship. When she says "that's really very nice of you" that sort of says that she isn't all that into the whole thing.

 

Don't worry about getting gf's though. Girls don't know what they want around the age of high school. I know many ppl who had no gf's in highschool, but went on to date many good looking girls in their 20's. best of luck.

[Tkay]

Originally posted by blue16

It seems somewhat clear to me how she really feels. I think she thinks you are a very nice person, but isn't interested in persuing a romantic relationship. When she says "that's really very nice of you" that sort of says that she isn't all that into the whole thing.

 

Don't worry about getting gf's though. Girls don't know what they want around the age of high school. I know many ppl who had no gf's in highschool, but went on to date many good looking girls in their 20's. best of luck.

 

I really don't feel like believing what you're telling me altough I should ..

[miz_barby]

Just an idea....you have mentioned many many times that she just doesn't like going out. Ask her to hang out with you somewhere like a park or something where there isn't a lot of people. Maybe she just isn't comfortable in the whole "party" scene. Maybe you can try talking to her online more and actually start getting to know her better like her hopes, dreams, ect.

Maybe she is as shy as you are and from your IM's it's kind of clear you two haven't talked much beyond "surface" stuff. Maybe she isn't sure what to make of your interactions either. I say attempt to get to know her better without asking her out right away and if things go smoothly them ask her to do something but ask her to do something where it will be just the two of you or at least not a lot of people, maybe even go over and talk to her at her house outside or something. If she still declines then maybe she isn't interested but you'll never know until you try all avenues! Goodluck!

[Tkay]

Originally posted by miz_barby

Just an idea....you have mentioned many many times that she just doesn't like going out. Ask her to hang out with you somewhere like a park or something where there isn't a lot of people. Maybe she just isn't comfortable in the whole "party" scene. Maybe you can try talking to her online more and actually start getting to know her better like her hopes, dreams, ect.

Maybe she is as shy as you are and from your IM's it's kind of clear you two haven't talked much beyond "surface" stuff. Maybe she isn't sure what to make of your interactions either. I say attempt to get to know her better without asking her out right away and if things go smoothly them ask her to do something but ask her to do something where it will be just the two of you or at least not a lot of people, maybe even go over and talk to her at her house outside or something. If she still declines then maybe she isn't interested but you'll never know until you try all avenues! Goodluck!

This is what I was planning on doing.. but it's just very hard to "run into her by accident".

Talking on MSN is indeed a possibility... but often i just dont know what to say and she just isn't much online..

[miz_barby]

Do you know where she hangs out? Do you have Her phone number? If you can't call but you do know where she hangs out then running into her by accident isn't a bad idea. Just don't make it "too" obvious.

Talking to her on msn is cool but if she isn't online much then I guess that's not a real good option either! You don't want to bombard her everytime she comes on.

Well I guess the best thing you can do is just try and run into her....good luck and keep us updated

[Tkay]

Originally posted by miz_barby

Do you know where she hangs out? Do you have Her phone number? If you can't call but you do know where she hangs out then running into her by accident isn't a bad idea. Just don't make it "too" obvious.

Talking to her on msn is cool but if she isn't online much then I guess that's not a real good option either! You don't want to bombard her everytime she comes on.

Well I guess the best thing you can do is just try and run into her....good luck and keep us updated

No idea where she hangs out. Guess she's just much at home. (going there = no no)

I'll just go to parties in her village as much as possible, since thats where I saw her..

thanks & I'll keep ya updated...

[amerikajin]

Tkay,

 

I didn't read the rest of your posts, and I didn't have to. We had this little chat the last time and unfortunately I can see you haven't quite caught on yet.

 

Don't let a girl get you running on some kind of wild goose chase. In fact, you shouldn't do any kind of chasing. Getting girls is a simple process: you probe, see if she's interested, and go from there. If you think she's interested, you take the simple but direct approach. "Can I have your home phone number? Maybe we can go out sometime." She'll either give it to you, or she'll find a reason not to. If she declines, then gently and gracefully back off.

 

And how many times have I told you: stay off the computer. She knows you're hiding behind the computer screen. What she wants to know is what you're like up close, in person. You hafta start taking some risks, and that means asking girls directly, in person, face-to-face. It means risking your pride and confronting the possibility that you might be rejected, and saying "So what?".

 

You won't get every girl you want, but you'll get every girl you want to respect you, and I bet you'll get quite a few good prospects anyway.

[Tkay]

Originally posted by amerikajin

Tkay,

 

I didn't read the rest of your posts, and I didn't have to. We had this little chat the last time and unfortunately I can see you haven't quite caught on yet.

 

Don't let a girl get you running on some kind of wild goose chase. In fact, you shouldn't do any kind of chasing. Getting girls is a simple process: you probe, see if she's interested, and go from there. If you think she's interested, you take the simple but direct approach. "Can I have your home phone number? Maybe we can go out sometime." She'll either give it to you, or she'll find a reason not to. If she declines, then gently and gracefully back off.

 

And how many times have I told you: stay off the computer. She knows you're hiding behind the computer screen. What she wants to know is what you're like up close, in person. You hafta start taking some risks, and that means asking girls directly, in person, face-to-face. It means risking your pride and confronting the possibility that you might be rejected, and saying "So what?".

 

You won't get every girl you want, but you'll get every girl you want to respect you, and I bet you'll get quite a few good prospects anyway.

Maybe true love doesn't work that way?

just had very positive msn convo..

to make a conclusion about it

she thinks im very nice. we want to get to know eachother better

just didnt have the guts to ask her out with just the 2 of us