Starnette83 Posted May 9, 2004 Share Posted May 9, 2004 Hi where u a guy who took your gf for granted and then u left her or she left u? did u ever regret it? did u ever want her back? and after a she became hard to get is that when u began to miss her or when exactly did u start missing her and what did u do? Link to post Share on other sites
sid3 Posted May 10, 2004 Share Posted May 10, 2004 I admit I did take my x girlfriend for granted. I got too comfortable in the relationship. She admitted she did some enabling. It's true that sometimes you don't realize what you have until it's gone. When she asked for some time and space, I did the exact opposite of what I should have, I pushed and acted desperate, I made mistakes, I can 't justify my actions, but people do make mistakes, that is how we learn. I haven't heard from her in four months. I hope to sometime soon. There are no guarantees in life, only that with love comes risk. I am not interested in moving on to meet someone else, only in living my life with the hope we'll be together again, does accepting the fact that a relationship has ended contradict having hope? Link to post Share on other sites
sinkerswim Posted May 10, 2004 Share Posted May 10, 2004 I feel the same way as you do, Sid..with my fiance/boyfriend of 8 years...he left me asking for space 3 months ago... And Im STILL waiting... I know everyone thinks Im a fool and he probably meant it as a breakup..because Ive been the only one initiating contact since (but only minimal contact) He never gave me an answer. He never gave me closure. I would do anything to have him back..I love him very much and hope one day he contacts me again. So...Starnette I would hope my fiance regrets what he did very soon. I wrote letters and called for awhile and now I have left him alone since March 17th. He is going to regret leaving me like this... we have done everything together. Ive bent over backwards for him. I loved him soooo much and I still do. I hope he thinks about me. even though, I feel like I never existed. Link to post Share on other sites
hurtingandconfused Posted May 10, 2004 Share Posted May 10, 2004 I took my ex for granted. did u ever regret it? At first I did, but now I do not. What happened happened. did u ever want her back? Yes, I wanted her back because I was being desperate and clingy. after a she became hard to get is that when u began to miss her or when exactly did u start missing her and what did u do? I missed her because I loved her. I started to miss her the first day she stopped spending the night. I wrote letters but never sent them. I wanted to call her but never did. I cried and cried and cried. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Starnette83 Posted May 10, 2004 Author Share Posted May 10, 2004 i dont smoke but i feel like smoking cigarettes, should i buy a pack tommorow? will it make me feel a bit better? Link to post Share on other sites
tom_gbr Posted May 10, 2004 Share Posted May 10, 2004 i have always been a social smoker but i started smoking all the time close to x mas when i was really stressed then stopped again around new years....Now i seem to be starting again...i find that it does help a little but i limit myself to one a day...well try to anyway! just wanna say that my girlfriend really took me for granted and everything i did for her.....just wanna stick up for the guys! Link to post Share on other sites
stewh Posted May 10, 2004 Share Posted May 10, 2004 will it make me feel a bit better? Unfortunately I doubt it. Apart from the health issues with smoking I think it will make you less attractive to your ex or anyone else for that matter! Smoking is a wasteful excercise that costs the earth (in the UK anyway) and makes you smell terrible, your skin, clothes and breath . Have you ever kissed someone who smokes? I did for the first time a little while ago and I thought it tasted awful. I couldn't wait till the evening ended. I haven't seen her since. I was the same and used to take my ex for granted when we were together. It was my first relationship, we were both young and neither of us knew anything different. Just believed that we would be together forever. That didn't happen. I was a mess and it has taken the good part of a year for me to pull myself back together. Part of that process was helped by the good advice from some kind people on these message boards. But also because I took up doing more activities such as joining the gym, playing squash, cycling. I went out with my friends more and arranged trips and activities together that were an absolute blast. Things I would have never have got to do whilst with my ex. I bought my own place and have settled in nicely although I am still learning quite a lot I guess I am trying to point out that there are far more productive things to do with yourself that will make you feel better in the long term than a quick fix solution like smoking will ever do for you. It's your choice though. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
meanttolive4ever Posted May 10, 2004 Share Posted May 10, 2004 Originally posted by sinkerswim I feel the same way as you do, Sid..with my fiance/boyfriend of 8 years...he left me asking for space 3 months ago... And Im STILL waiting... I know everyone thinks Im a fool and he probably meant it as a breakup..because Ive been the only one initiating contact since (but only minimal contact) He never gave me an answer. He never gave me closure. I would do anything to have him back..I love him very much and hope one day he contacts me again. So...Starnette I would hope my fiance regrets what he did very soon. I wrote letters and called for awhile and now I have left him alone since March 17th. He is going to regret leaving me like this... we have done everything together. Ive bent over backwards for him. I loved him soooo much and I still do. I hope he thinks about me. even though, I feel like I never existed. girl...im in the same boat as you are. He bought me a promise ring..and when we almost broke up he said "wear this no matter what happens" i was like wtf....but we did everything together with our senior year : prom, senior luncheon, graduation, field day, basically everything. we made everything fun. I hope that he does regret it down the road..i dont really feel like moving on because i dont think i can ever love again like i loved him. Hell i even paid for stuff of his when he lost his job for 3 months. So i took care of him. I dont know what to do, i'm just kind of sitting here waiting for this miracle to happen. I think that he will regret what he's doing..he knows im hurting so i think maybe thats why he's still with this chick, but who knows? But i mean this chick has nothing to offer him, she has no job, no money, no car, nothing. But i think he'll see in the long run that she's just using him. Link to post Share on other sites
2ndConfusedgirl Posted May 10, 2004 Share Posted May 10, 2004 I'm kinda in the same situation (see my post in second chances). Anyway, I don't like being on hold, and it annoys me that this guy asked me for "space" and he really thinks that I'm supposed to sit back and wait. *thinking* has he lost his mind? I didn't talk to him since March 16th, and I noticed that I have been feeling very good, but there was still something about "us" bothering me. I'm the kind of person who wants a yes/no, bye/hello, either/or...and I sent him an email asking for him to just "say bye" and he didn't do anything. So now, I am seriously contemplating making it so that he cannot contact me in the future. I'm thinking about changing my number, blocking him from sending me messages, and basically leaving it so that the only way he can contact me is to drop by my house, or my job (which I doubt he'd do). ANYWAY, the point is that I don't like the idea of putting someone on hold, and the person who is on hold has no idea if the other person is really planning on coming back, or that was their way of "letting you down gently." The guy I was dealing with needs to know that you can't deal with people at your convenience (spelling?). I don't know if I'm being impatient (it'll be 2 months May16th), or what. But quite frankly I'm starting not to care. I don't believe that ANYONE should put make someone their priority, while they are someone else's option. Link to post Share on other sites
morrigan Posted May 10, 2004 Share Posted May 10, 2004 My first boyfriend and I broke up because of "space". I was 21 and devastated--I bottled my emotions in. I don't know my ex anymore, he could be a real ass, but he was overall a good guy. I still had feelings for him, I really liked him a lot, but I felt at that moment that the relationship was over, no matter if his perspectives changed or if he regretted the breakup. About a year or so later, I was glad he had the guts to be honest and break up with me instead of letting something dead drag on between us. It allowed me to get on with my life, have fun times with my friends and family, and later to meet someone who I love for the good person he is. Don't see a breakup as some rejection of your worth--I think a lot of us have made that mistake. Don't waste time waiting for someone to get their act together. Don't want them to come back to you on their knees--don't you deserve better than that? Link to post Share on other sites
meanttolive4ever Posted May 11, 2004 Share Posted May 11, 2004 seems like we're having the same problems Link to post Share on other sites
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