Thieves Posted September 14, 2011 Share Posted September 14, 2011 Alright, first off, I realize that all of us (or most of us) are going through a break-up or NC right now. And it's tough, I know. But it's also way too easy to get lost in all of the bad days and not focus on the days we have that are actually good. No matter how sh*tty things may be, I think it's important to cherish those days where we feel alright. After all, it's a small taste of what's to come in the future, right? So please feel free to post here whenever you have a good day, or even just a really okay day, if only to remind yourself that there's always a little bit of light at the end of the tunnel. It's not all darkness and sadness... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Thieves Posted September 14, 2011 Author Share Posted September 14, 2011 To start off, I just came back from seeing one of my ALL time favorite bands tonight, Incubus! And you know what? I was proud of myself because of a few things: 1) I got invited by a guy from work who I don't really know that well or talk to much at all, so I was hesitating because I'm mostly a homebody... so it's not really me to just 'go out' with random people I don't know well. I was thinking of canceling at the last minute and making up an excuse, but you know what? I didn't. I went. Me and the guy ended up talking a lot, finding a lot in common, and we had a really good time! 2) It was something really last minute and spontaneous, something I usually don't do either. I was feeling like sh*t earlier that day, but I went through with it anyway. And I'm so glad I did. The concert was awesome, to say the least! The band also had these words in one of their songs that really made me stop and think: "There's no such thing as the good ol' days the older we all get, the better we all were There's no such thing as the end of the world" So yes, tonight was a good night. Even if tomorrow ends up being lame, at least I can say I put myself out there and today was awesome. Link to post Share on other sites
sleepykitten Posted September 14, 2011 Share Posted September 14, 2011 Glad you had a good day, its like a bit of sun through the clouds. The last few days for me have been good, generally less obsessive thoughts and sadness. Havent really done anything differently just feel like there has been a shift, ie-singing away to myself in the morning on the way to work, eating better, not smoking so much. Yesterday i bought a lovely pencil skirt that looked amazing i cant wait to wear it. My amazon order came in the post-the secret on dvd and "the Sedona method"-a book recommended on here somewhere. Been going to boxercise for the last couple of months and love it. What else....its a beautiful sunny autumn day here today and i feel happy.Hope it lasts! Link to post Share on other sites
Buttercup84 Posted September 14, 2011 Share Posted September 14, 2011 Great idea ! Today the sun was shining and it was a warm spring day. I got compliments from people at work about my looks , pay day today ! Bought some nice gear for the gym , been reading a good book , sold something on eBay , and tomorrow it's Thursday ! Them I have three days off . Got free tickets to the movies so might watch the help . Also had a good talk to the ladies at work about my ex . Made me remember what he really is like . Link to post Share on other sites
sleepykitten Posted September 14, 2011 Share Posted September 14, 2011 Hey Buttercup-nice to hear you sounding happier, been reading some of your posts recently. What book you reading? Link to post Share on other sites
lymtal1 Posted September 14, 2011 Share Posted September 14, 2011 so interestingly enough and out of the blue i got a call from my college girlfriend. it was unexpected but very nice. she aparently heard that i had moved back to our hometown and contacted me. we met for lunch and it was a very nice meeting. now bear in mind that this has been over twenty years since i saw her last. so and this is another post, they do get back in touch. it did make me feel good to talk to her. she made me feel good and it did boost my ego a bit given some of the nice things she said about me. i think the best thiing for me was that she confirmed that i am still the person i was back then and i really liked that guy, and so did she. this was the same guy that just got broken up on, and felt like he was lacking in many things. well realizing now that this was not true, i had a good day. now although that was a nice meeting i did feel a bit uncomfortable and felt like i was doing something wrong. came back home and thought about it a bit. lets see. got broken up with, was made to feel like there was better out there, have been down on this for over three months, life was turned upside down. and i was the one that felt bad about talking to someone else? ok so a dose of reality snapped me out of that bad dream. it was fun. i felt good. i heard some things that i knew were true but had not heard in a long while. ego was boosted, self esteem came up some. so i still miss the old one really bad. woke up this morning missing her. then thought about the previous day and it felt a little better. i guess the message here is you have to take the the small things and focus on them and know that at some point the good will outweigh the bad. and we will well not forget the past but put it in perspective. yea, that is what i think i got yesterday. a different perspective. maybe that is what we all need to aspire to. a different perspective........... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Thieves Posted September 15, 2011 Author Share Posted September 15, 2011 Glad you had a good day, its like a bit of sun through the clouds. The last few days for me have been good, generally less obsessive thoughts and sadness. Havent really done anything differently just feel like there has been a shift, ie-singing away to myself in the morning on the way to work, eating better, not smoking so much. Yesterday i bought a lovely pencil skirt that looked amazing i cant wait to wear it. My amazon order came in the post-the secret on dvd and "the Sedona method"-a book recommended on here somewhere. Been going to boxercise for the last couple of months and love it. What else....its a beautiful sunny autumn day here today and i feel happy.Hope it lasts! Ah, gotta love shopping/retail therapy. Maybe I'll finally get to test it out once I get a bit more money saved up! Buying cute clothes always did cheer me up... Very happy that you had a good day, Ms. Kitten. And I might have to check out that book too. I could always use more to keep my mind busy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Thieves Posted September 15, 2011 Author Share Posted September 15, 2011 Great idea ! Today the sun was shining and it was a warm spring day. I got compliments from people at work about my looks , pay day today ! Bought some nice gear for the gym , been reading a good book , sold something on eBay , and tomorrow it's Thursday ! Them I have three days off . Got free tickets to the movies so might watch the help . Also had a good talk to the ladies at work about my ex . Made me remember what he really is like . May I just say how lucky you are to live in Australia! Have always wanted to go there. Plus, it's spring there and it's autumn here. Ah well, at least it's still decently warm. Better enjoy it while I can, right? i guess the message here is you have to take the the small things and focus on them and know that at some point the good will outweigh the bad. and we will well not forget the past but put it in perspective. yea, that is what i think i got yesterday. a different perspective. maybe that is what we all need to aspire to. a different perspective........... Yes, a different perspective is definitely the goal here. I can't imagine the guy I was into getting back in touch with me though, not in a real significant way anyway, since he's really stubborn about that kind of thing. But who knows. I just don't wanna count on it. I think you're right, though. Take the small good things in life and run with it... eventually you'll end up somewhere good if you keep running, right? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Thieves Posted September 16, 2011 Author Share Posted September 16, 2011 Even if it's only morning right now, and I have to be work in 3 hours (), I got an extreeemely good night's sleep, finally got into the new Red Hot Chili Peppers cd - which is amazing, and will hopefully go out to get a good breakfast before heading off to work. Off to a good start! Link to post Share on other sites
jenjen83 Posted September 16, 2011 Share Posted September 16, 2011 I went to see my team Arsenal actually win a game last weekend. Went out for a nice lunch with my mum yesterday and am going out for dinner tomorrow night with some girls from work. Won a £1000 in a competition 2 weeks ago....and I have cheesecake for lunch! Better than my ex who spends all day in bed/in the pub. Link to post Share on other sites
sleepykitten Posted September 26, 2011 Share Posted September 26, 2011 I stayed nc even though i was so tempted to call I am moving in 21 days I dont have to pay council tax this month they owe me 60 quid! My tooth ache has gone Its not raining I have a night out on saturday to look forward to. I have a movie night on thursday to look forward to. Last week my ex husband gave me a thousand pounds for no reason at all, I have wonderful friends Link to post Share on other sites
Diogenes Posted September 26, 2011 Share Posted September 26, 2011 I'm having a good day, the last three have been good actually. I've had women I have just met and talked to in cafe's tell me based on who they've been going out with lately I'd be a great catch for any woman and my wife is crazy giving me up, some even offering phone numbers " for when I'm feeling up to it". Amazing what three months in the gym, yoga and exorcising personal demons/bull**** self deprication can do... Link to post Share on other sites
Buttercup84 Posted October 20, 2011 Share Posted October 20, 2011 Hey Buttercup-nice to hear you sounding happier, been reading some of your posts recently. What book you reading? Thanks kitten . So sorry I didn't see this comment ! I read " the help " loved it ! Link to post Share on other sites
sleepykitten Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 Hope everyone is having a good day. Had a horrible week last week but, today i feel happier and more positive so...all the things i am happy about.. My heatings working (it wasnt last week and it was freezing) I got chatted up on fri by a hunk-bit of a prick but still...! I am a hundred pounds in credit on my old bills from old flat Am going to new york in 3 weeks I moved house and for the first time i woke up this a.m and didnt feel like crying-result! Link to post Share on other sites
Buttercup84 Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 Hope everyone is having a good day. Had a horrible week last week but, today i feel happier and more positive so...all the things i am happy about.. My heatings working (it wasnt last week and it was freezing) I got chatted up on fri by a hunk-bit of a prick but still...! I am a hundred pounds in credit on my old bills from old flat Am going to new york in 3 weeks I moved house and for the first time i woke up this a.m and didnt feel like crying-result! Good to hear that ! jeaouls of you going to new york ! Link to post Share on other sites
Buttercup84 Posted October 24, 2011 Share Posted October 24, 2011 Today I woke up sad and missed him so much . But had a good day at work , got cuddles from the kids and the other teachers really liked my Halloween craft . Had a nice chat to some of the parents and it felt like Summer today . Link to post Share on other sites
sleepykitten Posted October 27, 2011 Share Posted October 27, 2011 Hi Buttercup Good that you had a good day, sometimes work can be such a godsend to take your mind of things. So...good day stuff for me today, my journey to work now i have moved is half the time, I am doing well at work and on the way to getting a better job once i have finished this course i am doing. Went on an unexpected impromtu date last night which was very nice, and very old fashioned in that he walked me home and although he wanted to kiss me i only kissed him on the cheek (he has some ex issues to sort out first!!!). I bought a new skirt and top on tues that i love! Payday on monday-hooray! Hope you are ok and feeling happier today. This week has been a reaL turning point for me, now i have moved and settled in, I just feel different, last week was really hard i felt lonely, miserable just wanted to be back with him. But once the heating was working and i had a great fri night out and lovely weekend with my flatmate, it was like a switch has been flicked! Link to post Share on other sites
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