shyguy21390 Posted May 10, 2004 Share Posted May 10, 2004 I am 14 years old and cannot talk to girls i like. there is this one girl who is friends with my best friend, yet i still can't talk to her. i really haven't even tried, i know ill mess up. what do i talk about? Link to post Share on other sites
RavenBanshee Posted May 10, 2004 Share Posted May 10, 2004 Hi Shy guy, I know it's really hard to get the confidece to talk to someone you like. When I was 14, a really shy guy liked me and started calling me on the phone. We got to know eachother really well and eventually strated talking all the time in school. He got more confidence and was able to talk to girls. The thing is if you don't say "Hi" or find a way to start talking to girls, then you'll never get a chance. The worst a girl can say is "no". They are just people too. Maybe your friend can set something up, where you can all hang out. So it won't be so awkward for you. Good Luck! Link to post Share on other sites
johnnyboy Posted May 10, 2004 Share Posted May 10, 2004 whats up shyguy, i agree with raven, when i was 14 it was hard then too for me, in fact i had so many difficulties when i tried talking to girls, i thought i was a big loser. But as you grow up you'll realize that looking dumb or embarrassed is just really stupid. my advice to you is to just start out by saying hi and smiling at her, if she smiles back with a true smile you are all set, you can do it shy guy let me know how you do in the next few days Link to post Share on other sites
Bobbie Posted May 10, 2004 Share Posted May 10, 2004 i really haven't even tried, i know ill mess up. what do i talk about?[ hiya shyguy. I always loved shy guys, and one of my oldest dearest friends is the shy guy at school who never had the confidence to ask me out then. Years later he's happily married to someone else, and things are as they should be. So that's the first thing: even if you think you're messing up, life's a journey, and things don't always turn out as you expected, and many times it turns out to be something different but still wonderful, or still ok. Secondly, the talking to girls. When you lose the idea that it's an all or nothing thing, or the end of the world if you feel foolish or mess up a bit, you can relax and be yourself. You don't have to be perfect, having good self-esteem is about accepting yourself for who you are, growing into the best person you can be, and treating your experiences as a learning curve. Cultivate an interesting fun life for yourself, then you'll have things to share about yourself and you'll have a good life. People who are having fun and enjoying their activities are attractive and fun to be around. Be sincere. Be friends with people, don't get hung up on love relationships too soon. And listen, hear what the other person has to say. Link to post Share on other sites
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