Nearly30 Posted September 15, 2011 Share Posted September 15, 2011 Ok, simple title of the story could be "my wife cheated on me", however I'm going to explain the whole story and see what other people's opinions are: I have been married for around 4 months now after being together with my other half for around 7 years in total. Being honest, our sex life has been stale and rocky for about 2 years now, on both of our parts and we have discussed it in limited cases however the repercussions of those discussions rarely lasted long. A month after coming back off our honeymoon I took a look at my partners phone (absolutely no suspicion at all, merely boredom) and found messages dating back 6 months from what I later found out to be her ex-boyfriend. These messages includes pictures sent between then, and many explicit messages which made me feel sick. I left it a day after finding these then sat her down to discuss it. She said that she was worried about the wedding, etc, and had only met up with him 4 times (the texts confirm this). However one of these times was AFTER the honeymoon and the texts following that meeting indicated she wanted more. I went to stay at a friends for a few nights however have since moved back into the spare room. She has said she is sorry/was stupid etc, about it all, and her actions since I found out make me feel like she is trying her hardest. I WANT to be able to give her another chance in my life, as 7 years is most of my adult life and I feel like I know nothing apart from being with her. However the one thing I can't get past is ever being physical with my partner again. I just cannot bear the thought of anything like that happening between us because every time I think of it, the messages I've read come into my brain and it kills me to think of what I've read. At the moment I am quite literally crying myself to sleep at the thought of leaving my partner, my marriage, my home...however I cannot think of another way to get past this. I also do not find it very easy to open up to anyone so it makes me expressing my feelings to my partner very very hard. Link to post Share on other sites
reboot Posted September 15, 2011 Share Posted September 15, 2011 She banged some other guy because she was "worried about the wedding"? Seriously? But it was only 4 times, right? Shoot, that's OK then..... I'm a big advocate for marriage, and I'm all for trying to save one in trouble, but dude, she couldn't even get through the honeymoon without cheating. You're going to be looking over your shoulder for the rest of your life. One word: D I V O R C E Link to post Share on other sites
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