PositiveNegative Posted September 15, 2011 Share Posted September 15, 2011 Ugh, I ran into the ex today. I was on day 6 of NC. Now, I've been maintaining NC and reading so much about how I should act if I run into her but it didn't prepare me for the encounter. I made such a fool of myself, I didn't keep cool and nonchalant like I knew I should've. I've been trying all this time to build myself up to act cool if I ever ran into her and I failed. She looked somewhat upset seeing me, she definitely didn't smile when she first saw me. She said that I looked good. I replied the same. My biggest mistake I think was asking her "Do you miss me?". She just kept saying "I don't want to talk about anything right now/" When I asked when she would (another mistake) she said "When we next run into each other." Ouch. There were more things I said that I regret but I don't want to even type them out. She just didn't want to talk to me. Today was a very important day for me, one that could determine a good amount of my future. One that even a month ago I thought I knew I needed her support in order to do my best. I asked her to wish me luck before she turned around. She did. I left defeated, again. It really is so hard to let go. The past is the past, I understand, but it really is hard to imagine that this was the girl would used to be quite obsessed with me before we were dating. There were at least eight guys that wanted her while I knew her. I never even courted her, she chose me... Now, we are strangers. Ah, the tale of the break up. It's tragic. 30 minutes later I couldn't focus. I was so scared of turning back to zero. I sat at a bus stop, I wasn't going anywhere just sat. A girl sat down next to me. Something about her body language let me know that we probably could get along. I gained the courage to talk to her and I was right. It helped that she was cute also. As she left for the bus I asked if she wanted to grab a drink sometime. She said yes. I smiled, actually smiled, for the first time in 3 weeks. I'm going to be okay. Link to post Share on other sites
wilsonx Posted September 16, 2011 Share Posted September 16, 2011 There are no "right" or "wrong" things to say after meeting an ex after a breakup. People can give you suggestions on what to say or do but its your choice. I personally would have handled it differently and been my cocky egotistical self if she told me I looked good. I would have said "Yup, my mirror even paid me for looking this good" and just walked away. Ehhh see no right or wrong things to say dont beat yourself up, the world keeps spinning, you asked a girl for a drink, you're moving forward good luck sir =) Link to post Share on other sites
Author PositiveNegative Posted September 16, 2011 Author Share Posted September 16, 2011 Thanks for the response Wilson. Yeah. I so wish I had kept cool. But I was just not prepared and kinda panicked. The break up is really still so fresh, I just wasn't ready to see her. I still want her too much, it just hurt a lot to see her so indifferent towards me. Like I said, comparing it to her past feelings for me is, without a doubt, the hardest part to cope with. I am trying very hard to think of her as a whole new person and in a way I guess this grieving is kinda like a funeral. That girl I loved so much and who made me so happy is dead. Link to post Share on other sites
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