heartinlove Posted September 21, 2011 Share Posted September 21, 2011 Hi wannabedone, Wow. What a story. 10 years. I would want to be done too. I would intend to get to a space of neutrality if he or she ever contacted you again. I think part of what they are both feeding off in you are the emotions. For him, if he ever tries again, i would just stay very calm and reiterate that if he loves you as he says he will let you be and never contact you again. I think what is feeding the cycle are the big emotions, meaning cursing him before he drove off. If you can find the space where you're really done emotionally with the whole thing, my bet is there will be no more contact from either one of them. All the legal stuff is great, but is sounds like what you really want most of all is your own healing your own wholeness, and how awesome will that be when you have no reaction to either one of them. Link to post Share on other sites
Author wannabdone Posted September 21, 2011 Author Share Posted September 21, 2011 Hi wannabedone, Wow. What a story. 10 years. I would want to be done too. I would intend to get to a space of neutrality if he or she ever contacted you again. I think part of what they are both feeding off in you are the emotions. For him, if he ever tries again, i would just stay very calm and reiterate that if he loves you as he says he will let you be and never contact you again. I think what is feeding the cycle are the big emotions, meaning cursing him before he drove off. If you can find the space where you're really done emotionally with the whole thing, my bet is there will be no more contact from either one of them. All the legal stuff is great, but is sounds like what you really want most of all is your own healing your own wholeness, and how awesome will that be when you have no reaction to either one of them. Oh good Lord...a wonderful day it will be!!!! Yes, I thought about my cussing him out. I should have stayed calm. It was just so hard considering everything I was feeling. I mean, I hate to say it, I do love him. For a long time, he was my best friend. have I made him in my mind to be a total ****-sucker? YES! Its easier that way. He is a manipulative POS, but there once was a good guy. He grew into this monster, and I helped feed it. So, when you are at a place where you decide to love you more than him, and you do what is best for you, even though it hurts like hell and you miss him, and then is ignorant ass shows up, interupting my healing process.......lets just say the Irish temper got the best of me. I need to stay calm, and show no emotions. YOU ARE SO RIGHT. They are feeding off my emotions. Thanks for the input!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author wannabdone Posted September 22, 2011 Author Share Posted September 22, 2011 I just wanted to tell you that I think you are doing marvelous. I know it's pain filled, but you have strength and determination and a will to have/live better. You are going get through this. Keep hanging in there! Oh, thx LG. I really needed that!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
kareena Posted September 23, 2011 Share Posted September 23, 2011 I'm so sorry you are so hurt,but you seem to be a very strong woman you really handled the situation well.I know what it feels like,It sucks!! but things will get better the worse is over for you Link to post Share on other sites
Author wannabdone Posted September 23, 2011 Author Share Posted September 23, 2011 I'm so sorry you are so hurt,but you seem to be a very strong woman you really handled the situation well.I know what it feels like,It sucks!! but things will get better the worse is over for you Thank you Kareena. That was very thoughful. I appreciate it! Link to post Share on other sites
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