Are people NATURALLY bad today?

[chucksagent]

It seems like today, more and more people cheat, try to cheat, accept FB creepers or don't delete FB creepers, don't respect boundries, flirt with same sex friends and co-workers, etc.

 

If you TRULY love your significant other (and respect them) , why is it so hard to de-friend FB creepers, shut down attempts by people flirting with you (without looking mean), just go to work and work (don't crap where you eat), etc.

 

My ultimate point is, why even put yourself in a bad situation if you TRULY love and respect the person you're with. ALSO, this isn't a coincidence...all the divorces, random sex, betrayals, cheaters, the world is REALLY turning out to be bad.

 

I had a friend tell me I was crazy and that I am only focusing on THE FEW rather than the majority. But THEN I read this article from a modern day dating doctor type person, and he said "EXPECT to be cheated on in today's world - it WILL happen." I thought that was WAY TOO strong. Then, I started to take count.

 

Probably 90% of people I know have either a) been cheated on b) cheated on someone c) flirted with co-workers while in a relationship d) tested boundiries with FB creepers, etc.

 

Probably 75% of those people had ACTUALLY either cheated on someone or been cheated on. 75% is not a minority #, that means the MAJORITY of people ARE doing it. Why is everyone so awful and bad today???

[OnyxSnowfall]

Through-out history, people have been "bad" and "awful". While the form that takes varies --- many people have always succumbed / gone with the selfishness inherent within them... societies try on different faces, and some (temporarily) work better than others... but for whatever reasons, when it begins to fail, people resist changing and instead self-destruct, even if it's in their best interest to change their ways. They don't realize that their resistance itself changes things around them, regardless...

 

and when structures and people collapse... some semblance of order will be briefly restored...

 

for awhile people will appreciate what they took for granted, etc etc, but usually only after having been shocked by some major, painful, trauma.

 

In America, where entertainment is exalted --- where instant gratification, pleasure, convenience, money, toys and a host of other potentially harmful and trivial things are prioritized...

 

it isn't a surprise that "fidelity" isn't truly valued. It fits into a dying "system"... and scorned people tend to scorn back, thus perpetuating the very thing that hurt them... and their victims (more than not) carry their torch and... and so it goes on...

 

People are confused, don't know their needs from their desires, don't know what's best for them (let alone others)... there's a lot of people, too. Lots of people with unmet needs, seeking them out in the wrong ways... and people who are stubborn, unwilling to take responsibility, and so many other things, will likely just continue on their torrent path.

 

It'll probably get worse before it has a chance at getting better. "infidelity" is one symptom of dozens...

Edited September 16, 2011 by OnyxSnowfall

[Osiris1234]

1-people have no brain

 

2-they never know what they want

[RedRedMe]

Cheating and infidelity have always been around and I would even dare to say it has always been this bad. The times have changed but human behavior has not. The biggest difference is that technology has now made it harder to hide and exposes everything we do. Temptation has become more in your face and is readily available at the click of a mouse or a text on your cell.

 

Cheating was more acceptable before women started to demand equal rights. Think about it, most marriages were business propositions and somewhat devoid of love. So when a woman who really got the husbands blood flowing came along, he would hide it all from his wife (who wasn't allowed to question his behavior anyways) and start to keep a mistress. A lot of our parents, grandparents and even great grandparents experienced forms of infidelity in their own time. It was simply never discussed and divorce was completely out of the question. In todays world - everybody knows everyone elses business.

[Woggle]

We live in a very narcissistic age where people do what they feel and the hell with who gets hurt. It's sad but true. People who have no morals or scruples are seen as being more sophisticated and enlightened than the rest of us. It seems that the only sin you can actually commit these days is actually make a moral judgement on on another person's actions so it is a perfect environment for cheating.

[OnyxSnowfall]

People who have no morals or scruples are seen as being more sophisticated and enlightened than the rest of us.

 

Yeah... I've noticed this as well. I don't know if it's been the same in the past (surely it has at some point in some place), but... at least since I've been around, it seems to be an increasing phenomena...

[FeelingSmall]

I don't know why... There are people who feel strongly against it. You for example, me, a plethora of other people on LS. I could never cheat on someone I loved. I can understand falling out of love with someone and wanting to leave someone. What I can't understand is lying and sneaking around behind someones back. Even if you no longer love them, you once (probably) did.

 

I know after what's happened to me I can safely say that my feelings towards it have only been reinforced, I don't feel the need to go out and punish others for what was done to me. I do however know that I will never fully give my heart away either. Which makes me very sad.

[Leigh 87]

I am against cheating. I love my boyfriend, and I would not bother with a person, if I felt that they were not enough for me.

 

My boyfriend is the only guy in my thoughts; I do not WANT anyone else. If I did feel urges to have sex with other people, I would end it with him.

 

In saying that; some guys, a lot of guys, have natural urges to experience new vaginas. Plain and simple. I feel it is natural biology, that men are programed to crave for new women with whom to experience sex with.

 

My boyfriend is a very adventurous person; he craves new experiences, wants to travel to as many places as possible, and wants to very much experience a lot in life; sexually, too.

 

Luckily for him, I am sexually adventurous, to try everything with him. Another thing I allow for, is threesomes; he loves me, for everything I am. We are everything to each other.

 

However, we r young, 24, and I do not want my vagina to be the only one he gets to experience, for the years we can see us being together. He simply has no interest in only having sex with the same girl for years on end, in his youth.

 

He has no desire to become close ot be " intimate" with other girls, past just straight sex. Therefore, I have threesomes with him, very occasionally, because it honestly does not hurt me.

 

He is now alloud to kiss the girl, go down on them, and only very minimal fingering ( in fact, we both finger them together at the same time).

 

I am being very open here, but this is just how I allow my boyfriend, to get the sex from other women he naturally desires, without doing anything that hurts me or impacts on our closeness.

 

When he is alone, and he DOES party alone when he is awasy on holiday... He NEVER feels like being with other women; it isjust with ME, when he has a girl with me, that it feels : right" for him.

 

There are ways to go about keeping a relationship healthy, without the guy wanting to go and cheat. You just have to want the same things as your partner.

 

Manhy women cannot handly threesomes, where the guy gets to participate, and in fact MOST couples DO try to remain only to each other, for years and years on end....

 

I would say most guys would crave, by nature, a new vagina, simple to experience another one. It is natural. It does not meaan they want to go and cheat and be close to other women.... It just means a new vagina, to have straight sex with, ( no kissing or intimate acts), with no emotions, is in order for most guys I would say.

 

Allowing my boyfriend to have sex with another women, while I am watching and particupating in it, works for us. He does not like having sexual experiences WITHOUT me; to feel good, he needs ME to be a part of all his sexual experiences.

 

 

Furthermore, lot of people swing, or have open relationships. This is not what my boyfriend or I feel like at this stage; he does not feel like having sex without my being a part of every sexual experience he has.

 

 

I am glad I have my boyfriend the way he is; I would not want a guy to ONLY have sex with me, for the rest of his life, or a long period of time. I just would not want that sort of guy..

 

A lot of guys think they want tradition, however, a lot of them end up cheating, and fighting againg the notion they have of staying faithful their whole lives to the one women.

 

I have honestly got what I wanted, with the guy I have met. We want the same things, and I am glad he lets lose and gets to experience sex with other women, when I am around. It satisfies his fantasies and natural desire to expereince more than one vagina, plain and simple.

 

I know it is very unlikely he will go behind my back for sex, as he gets to have it with different women occasionally, with me present. I am more than enough for him, of course, he feels very turned on and lucky to have my body as his for sex.

 

As happy as he is with me, what he considers to be his very sexy girlfriend, I also give him the "present" of being able to fulfill his biological desires of sex; not love. He just craves sex with more than the same women for years on end. That concept is boring to so mnay men.

[betterdeal]

Capitalising words like TRULY and REALLY doesn't make them any more real or true.

[OnyxSnowfall]

I am against cheating. I love my boyfriend, and I would not bother with a person, if I felt that they were not enough for me.

 

My boyfriend is the only guy in my thoughts; I do not WANT anyone else. If I did feel urges to have sex with other people, I would end it with him.

 

In saying that; some guys, a lot of guys, have natural urges to experience new vaginas. Plain and simple. I feel it is natural biology, that men are programed to crave for new women with whom to experience sex with.

 

My boyfriend is a very adventurous person; he craves new experiences, wants to travel to as many places as possible, and wants to very much experience a lot in life; sexually, too.

 

Luckily for him, I am sexually adventurous, to try everything with him. Another thing I allow for, is threesomes; he loves me, for everything I am. We are everything to each other.

 

However, we r young, 24, and I do not want my vagina to be the only one he gets to experience, for the years we can see us being together. He simply has no interest in only having sex with the same girl for years on end, in his youth.

 

He has no desire to become close ot be " intimate" with other girls, past just straight sex. Therefore, I have threesomes with him, very occasionally, because it honestly does not hurt me.

 

He is now alloud to kiss the girl, go down on them, and only very minimal fingering ( in fact, we both finger them together at the same time).

 

I am being very open here, but this is just how I allow my boyfriend, to get the sex from other women he naturally desires, without doing anything that hurts me or impacts on our closeness.

 

When he is alone, and he DOES party alone when he is awasy on holiday... He NEVER feels like being with other women; it isjust with ME, when he has a girl with me, that it feels : right" for him.

 

There are ways to go about keeping a relationship healthy, without the guy wanting to go and cheat. You just have to want the same things as your partner.

 

Manhy women cannot handly threesomes, where the guy gets to participate, and in fact MOST couples DO try to remain only to each other, for years and years on end....

 

I would say most guys would crave, by nature, a new vagina, simple to experience another one. It is natural. It does not meaan they want to go and cheat and be close to other women.... It just means a new vagina, to have straight sex with, ( no kissing or intimate acts), with no emotions, is in order for most guys I would say.

 

Allowing my boyfriend to have sex with another women, while I am watching and particupating in it, works for us. He does not like having sexual experiences WITHOUT me; to feel good, he needs ME to be a part of all his sexual experiences.

 

 

Furthermore, lot of people swing, or have open relationships. This is not what my boyfriend or I feel like at this stage; he does not feel like having sex without my being a part of every sexual experience he has.

 

 

I am glad I have my boyfriend the way he is; I would not want a guy to ONLY have sex with me, for the rest of his life, or a long period of time. I just would not want that sort of guy..

 

A lot of guys think they want tradition, however, a lot of them end up cheating, and fighting againg the notion they have of staying faithful their whole lives to the one women.

 

I have honestly got what I wanted, with the guy I have met. We want the same things, and I am glad he lets lose and gets to experience sex with other women, when I am around. It satisfies his fantasies and natural desire to expereince more than one vagina, plain and simple.

 

I know it is very unlikely he will go behind my back for sex, as he gets to have it with different women occasionally, with me present. I am more than enough for him, of course, he feels very turned on and lucky to have my body as his for sex.

 

As happy as he is with me, what he considers to be his very sexy girlfriend, I also give him the "present" of being able to fulfill his biological desires of sex; not love. He just craves sex with more than the same women for years on end. That concept is boring to so mnay men.

 

Sweetie, either you're repeating yourself because you're trying to convince *yourself* it's best / reality and are attempting to deny things...or you've really been bashed about this in the past and have just learned to come across as defensive / insecure about it.

 

Truth is, lots of things are "natural" that just shouldn't be fulfilled. For example: humans have natural urges to murder one another but generally speaking, that's not good to follow through with...

 

There are also natural consequences for giving into natural impulses etc.

 

I would be interested in seeing how your relationship is in 10 years from now (assuming it of course endures that long)... although, it is fine if allowing your boyfriend to have sex with other women is something that truly works for you and him --- more power to you if you're genuinely fine with it.

 

But claiming it's natural and that's a good enough reason for it is just not good enough...

 

There are men who are not so greedy and do not "need" multiple sex partners to feel satisfied/happy in their life. Cheating can be due to greedy reasons / wanting to experience superficial sex with others, but often times it blossoms from far deeper things (and anyway it always comes from a selfish root)... like not feeling *respected*, being put down, made to feel worthless, unnecessary, being taken for granted constantly, under-appreciated, etc etc etc.

 

For my own boyfriend, he has romanticized the idea of only being with one woman through-out his entire life-time (but he also does [in his words anyway] not believe it would make him more manly to bed multiple women, he also likes being atypical, and he also doesn't smile upon promiscuity).

 

The only thing I can say to be careful of is your man's intent. I knew of a couple who had an open relationship... the man became particularly attracted to another woman but denied it being anything more than a sexual lust... they had a three-some together and he eventually just fell deep into love with this other woman. Their open relationship ended over it and he ended up leaving to be with the other woman. Just be wary of your boyfriend's intent. As long as he's aware and is somehow able to safeguard himself from developing more...

 

just because you let him have sex with other women doesn't mean he's invulnerable to developing feelings for them.

Edited September 17, 2011 by OnyxSnowfall

[AHardDaysNight]

I refuse to believe that most people are bad. I think most people are good, they just are flawed (like the rest of us.)

[OnyxSnowfall]

I refuse to believe that most people are bad. I think most people are good, they just are flawed (like the rest of us.)

 

It's a good outlook to have (I wish I had it )

[Leigh 87]

Thanks for sharing your perspective:) I learnt from what you had to say.

 

I make it sound simple, however, we have discussed it a great deal; will he develop feelings easily/ how can we go about safeguarding it/does he in fact crave the whole intamacy of foreplay, among other factors we have considered.

 

We both mutually WANT to let our own relationship run its course, and that means neither of us talk much or get too close to the opposite sex, in general.

 

He wants to protect himself from falling for other people. When he talks to a very beautiful women, he says he does not feel comfortable conversing too much with them. Not because he has urges towards them, but because, lets face it; a beautiful women who also has a wonderful personality, can be EASY to fall for.

 

With the threesomes: it CANNOT be with a women who we KNOW. It has to be a women we pick up from a club. He has no desire to have any further personal contact with them. He has made it very clear, that it is my heart he wants, and he has no desire to be close or even be friends, with a women we take to bed.

 

I give him threesomes, as my own choice. It makes us feel closer, and it just happens to work for us. I am young and attractive and have more options, if he wants to go f*ck around with other women, and go getting attached. He know;s I have no time for him, if he is that way inclined.

 

I have told him that he cannot have my whole heart, committment, generousity, and my time, if he also wants to have his cake, and eat it too; We have made it clear, that if he EVER feels the urge to be closwe to a women, BEYOND just straight, pure SEX; then he has lost me.

 

It is important to establish boundaries, and my boyfriend has no problems adhering to them. In fact, these boundaries are mutual, and were just brought up to ensure we wanted the same things.

 

 

I know couples who have had great success in lasting relationships, when they bring other people to bed. And I sort of abhore the notion of a man having to only have sex with the same women their entir elives!

 

I just do not feel that MOST men, truly WANT to ONLY have sex with ONE women their whole lives! That is SOOOO undesirable and boring to me!!!!

 

I am entitled to my opinion, as you are, and I really do not think it is easy or desirable, for most men to just want to have sex with only ONE wiomen for years on end! Even to ME, it feels forced and boring.

 

HOwever, this is just MY view on it. I feel no threat that my boyfriend will leave me, for a stranger we take to bed. He is not the sad type who would go behind my back and get their number and maintain a secret friendship with them; if he feels like doing that to me, we BOTH know we should not bother with a relationship!

 

Ultimately, I believe men cheat, more often than women, because they do not want to have sex with one women for years and years. They do not want another soulmate; they just want a new vagina. That simple, really.

 

Lastly; my parents have been together for 30 years and are happy to just have each other. This is fine, it works for some people, not not for me. I would RATHER know my partner's TRUE sexual urges, are fulfilled.

 

I do not think that fulfilling your partners sexual desires, means they will go run off and form an emotional atachment with a stranger u take to bed with u.

[Leigh 87]

Oh, and do not call me sweetie or talk down to me, in a condenscending way, thanks:) I do not appreciate it.

 

I know the relationship I have with my boyfriend, and it is ****ty how people here try to make things out to be BAD, when they have no idea of the relationship they are questioning.

 

I tend to repeat myself, as I like to make my points known to people. it is how I act in any type of debate.

[OnyxSnowfall]

Oh, and do not call me sweetie or talk down to me, in a condenscending way, thanks:) I do not appreciate it.

 

I know the relationship I have with my boyfriend, and it is ****ty how people here try to make things out to be BAD, when they have no idea of the relationship they are questioning.

 

I tend to repeat myself, as I like to make my points known to people. it is how I act in any type of debate.

 

what I am curious about is why you feel the need to defend and validate it so much to, essentially, strangers floating around on the internet.

 

I mean, if you know the truth of it, what does it matter if others doubt it (especially ones who will never interact with you and your relationship?)

 

Regardless...

 

as I stated, if it genuinely works for you, then more power to you.

 

(also, why is it you would leave your boyfriend if you found yourself desiring others sexually? do you think it's abnormal for a female to want superficial sex with multiple people? and if he wanted to have sex with women without you there, would you be okay with that?)

 

I think what I'm gathering is that your point is if women let their men sleep with other women, cheating would mostly cease to exist...

 

and I simply don't think that's true. Apparently *many* women cheat, and I'd be interested in being enlightened as to how that would solve their cheating ways too...

Edited September 17, 2011 by OnyxSnowfall

[Leigh 87]

Thanks for clearing that up:) I did not mean to cone across, as though I felt the4 need to defend the fact my boyfriend loves me and has no desire to cheat.

 

Threesomes and open relationships are something that is strange and just out of what a lot of people think is acceptable, and so I was trying to make it clear, that u CAN have a loving relationship, and still take other people to bed with you.

 

To clarify; both my boyfriend and I are very adventurous, and like to try new things, and true hedonists ( pleasure NOW please!). The notion of giving him new girls, in an agreed fashion that makes me feel comfortable, is simple what keeps me and him happy.

 

In regards to ME and FEMALES cheating... I just have no desire for other men. This boy is my first love, and so far, I only want to get more close to him, and my only sexual desire is towards him, at this point.

 

I like the idea of growing as people and getting closer to my boyfriend, and just cannot fathom wanting another guy in bed. However, I do like varity in bed, and threesomes are something I really enjoy. I enjoy HIS reaction, and I also like it, as it adds something different to our sex life.

 

Females seam to be more concerned with the emotional intamacy; I read the other day, that studies show that we have not changed from our basic evolution.

 

Apparently, women are more concerned with the emotions involved in their partners cheating, where as the men are focused on what happened, physically.

 

I know that for me, for me to even be ATTRACTED to a guy, I have to have strong feelings. I am not a girl who even wants to be intimate, unless I really, really like a guy.

 

Likewise, my boyfriends states that he does not feel bored at the idea, of having a very, very close connection with me; he says that he loves the idea of becoming as close as possible to me, as a person beyond sex.

 

Becoming as close as possible to another human being, makes for the best sex, of course. That is what we both want. The sex to us, is just that. Just sex.

 

I am not sure how many people are " bad" these days. I do see the dilema, though, of the man genuinly LOVING his partner, and not telling them of his cheating, due to not wanting to lose her.

 

The thing is, cheating, and being close to a women, even if the man justifies it by thinking that they only want SEX: there is always the chance of getting feelings for the women u cheat with.

 

That is why we only take strangers we have only met once or twice to bed, and having no futther contact with them: also why we establish boundaries, such as no kissing or going down on them. We do not WANT to lose each other.

 

From what I have seen so far, pure sex, with no emotional bond in the form of friendship or contact after the threesome, does not make way for any feelings to develope. Feelings come about after talking to a person, and feeling : chemistry", based on their appearance and personality.

 

I thought I would share the way me and my boyfriend deal with a mans natural urge to want new sex, for the newness factor. Luckily, we are both the type of people who are into that sort of thing.

 

There is always a chance that he could meet a beautiful women, and develope felings for her, if they have the4 CHANCE to talk often enough and form that bond.

 

My boyfriend told me, without me prompting or suggesting it, that he is not comfortable with even talking to very attactive women, much less becomingt heir friends; he does not want there to even be a chance that he could lose me. Later in life, once we have run our course, he may seek the company and love of another, but not yet.

[OnyxSnowfall]

Thanks for clearing that up:) I did not mean to cone across, as though I felt the4 need to defend the fact my boyfriend loves me and has no desire to cheat.

 

Threesomes and open relationships are something that is strange and just out of what a lot of people think is acceptable, and so I was trying to make it clear, that u CAN have a loving relationship, and still take other people to bed with you.

 

To clarify; both my boyfriend and I are very adventurous, and like to try new things, and true hedonists ( pleasure NOW please!). The notion of giving him new girls, in an agreed fashion that makes me feel comfortable, is simple what keeps me and him happy.

 

In regards to ME and FEMALES cheating... I just have no desire for other men. This boy is my first love, and so far, I only want to get more close to him, and my only sexual desire is towards him, at this point.

 

I like the idea of growing as people and getting closer to my boyfriend, and just cannot fathom wanting another guy in bed. However, I do like varity in bed, and threesomes are something I really enjoy. I enjoy HIS reaction, and I also like it, as it adds something different to our sex life.

 

Females seam to be more concerned with the emotional intamacy; I read the other day, that studies show that we have not changed from our basic evolution.

 

Apparently, women are more concerned with the emotions involved in their partners cheating, where as the men are focused on what happened, physically.

 

I know that for me, for me to even be ATTRACTED to a guy, I have to have strong feelings. I am not a girl who even wants to be intimate, unless I really, really like a guy.

 

Likewise, my boyfriends states that he does not feel bored at the idea, of having a very, very close connection with me; he says that he loves the idea of becoming as close as possible to me, as a person beyond sex.

 

Becoming as close as possible to another human being, makes for the best sex, of course. That is what we both want. The sex to us, is just that. Just sex.

 

I am not sure how many people are " bad" these days. I do see the dilema, though, of the man genuinly LOVING his partner, and not telling them of his cheating, due to not wanting to lose her.

 

The thing is, cheating, and being close to a women, even if the man justifies it by thinking that they only want SEX: there is always the chance of getting feelings for the women u cheat with.

 

That is why we only take strangers we have only met once or twice to bed, and having no futther contact with them: also why we establish boundaries, such as no kissing or going down on them. We do not WANT to lose each other.

 

From what I have seen so far, pure sex, with no emotional bond in the form of friendship or contact after the threesome, does not make way for any feelings to develope. Feelings come about after talking to a person, and feeling : chemistry", based on their appearance and personality.

 

I thought I would share the way me and my boyfriend deal with a mans natural urge to want new sex, for the newness factor. Luckily, we are both the type of people who are into that sort of thing.

 

There is always a chance that he could meet a beautiful women, and develope felings for her, if they have the4 CHANCE to talk often enough and form that bond.

 

My boyfriend told me, without me prompting or suggesting it, that he is not comfortable with even talking to very attactive women, much less becomingt heir friends; he does not want there to even be a chance that he could lose me.

 

I do think it's good and respectable that you two have discussed it thoroughly and have established harmonious boundaries =)

 

I admit I find it a strange notion (I myself adhere to conventional monogamy [although it's rather unconventional where I'm resided]) but there's several ways to have a successful relationship and it sounds like your boyfriend and you have respect and consideration for one another and are wonderfully accepting. And it's good to enjoy life and your time together, I suppose even if it should be with other women

 

Later in life, once we have run our course, he may seek the company and love of another, but not yet..

 

Assuming you love him fiercely, that statement resonates with an admirable maturity. I would like to be comfortable in facing that possibility within my own relationship but, alas, I find it unsettling and my feelings are not graceful.

 

Good luck though and I hope you two can enjoy many more years together.

[Leigh 87]

MY boyfriend is a big partier. He is not ready to just have the same women in the bedroom, for years and years. LIkewise, I also am 24, and still want to try many new things in bed.

 

After meeting me, we have developed a relationship, where my boyfriend w ants us to be as close as two people can be; he told me he wants to be everything to each other. He feels no desire to be " close" emotionally, with other women.

 

He craves the straight sex side of a new women; just their vagina. He is adamant that he does not need the kissing or foreplay with them. He is simply young, and is crazy, party persona, craves for more variety in bed, at this point in his life.

 

Put simply: my boyfriend is not ready to settle down with the one women in the bedroom just yet. I have accepted this, as I also have a personality that craves variety, and I like the idea of giving my boyfriend the sexual variety that he needs, without compriomising our closeness.

 

I put this out there, for the people who think that it is not possible to be as close as possible to a person, in a loving relationship, UNLESS it is only EVER you two in the bedroom, for the rest of the many years u may share together.

 

People have a fixed notion, of what an " ideal" relationship should be. I wanted to show that two people can be just as in love, without going about their sex life in the " traditional" way.

 

Of course, ANY partner can talk to another women, and develop feelings. However, I feel that my partner is no more likely to d evelop feelings towards a stranger, who he will not tallk to again, who he has sex with, than he is an attractive women with a great personality who he TALKS to, without sex.

 

I feel it is more likely, for my partner to fall for a women who he gets to KNOW, and DOES NOT have sex with, and that he is LESS likely to fall for a women who he does NOT get to know, who he DOES have sex with.

 

STraight sex, without any emotional rapport, has so far prooved that it does NOT cause my boyfriend to d evelop feelings. Sticking his dick in a women, without past pr any further contact with them past small talk, has not been anything more than just sex.

 

 

SOme people have the type of personality, when in their early 20's, where they are not ready to give up varity in the bedroom, yet still want a serious, loving relationship, where their partner IS everything to them.

[chucksagent]

Capitalising words like TRULY and REALLY doesn't make them any more real or true.

 

Betterdeal - are you adding to the topic or correcting my grammar? If it's the latter, you are probably a liberal and I am sorry you hate your life (it's used for emphasis). If it's the former, forgive me for being crass, for I am but a modest farmer with a pitchfork; please enlighten me because I didn't understand the reference.