bust Posted September 16, 2011 Share Posted September 16, 2011 Hi everyone, Im not sure if this is the right place to ask about relationship advice but I really hope to get some insight on what's going on about my relationship. So I've been with my gf for over 2 years and now we live together, one of the things that always bothered me is how she can have so many guy friends in her life. She recently met a guy that made her question our relationship. As ashamed as I am about my action, I looked through her messages on Facebook and noticed that the guy constantly flirts with her. What bothers me is that she doesn't do anything to stop his actions towards her. I couldn't handle the way this guy talks to her that we constantly argue about this guy. In the past week we argued enough for her to go hang out with this guy late in the night while I stayed home waiting for her return. Whenever she comes home I pester her with questions about what this guy did or said to her. She always says that nothing happened and when I ask what did they talk about she says nothing as well. After the second hang out she told me that she realizes that she only likes him as a friend. What I'm always bothered is how she doesn't do anything to stop this guy from saying things that obviously show that he's interested in being with her as more than a friend. They go to school together and whenever class is over she always takes an hour or two to be with him (as I'm writing this they're out right now hanging out), but I just can't handle the way they get close as friends when I know that he has deep feelings for her. She says that she likes him as a friend and nothing more but I feel like I'm losing a friend due to the fact that she's constantly texting him and hanging out with him whenever he sees her. It's gotten to the point where I feel as though she's hiding things from me that she talks to him about. I don't know what to do. She says to trust her but I can't get over the fact that I'm losing her friendship to him as they spend hours out of class talking about whatever while I get stuck at home waiting for someone I love to come back. Should I honestly be worried about this or should I be suspicious? I know I left out plenty of details but I feel as though I have written a lot so if there any questions I can be sure to help anybody make anything clear. What I want is to stop worrying that this guy is stealing my girlfriends heart as a friend because she makes time for him whenever he texts around me and never makes time for me when she's around him. Please give me some insight anything will help. Link to post Share on other sites
Osiris1234 Posted September 16, 2011 Share Posted September 16, 2011 She recently met a guy that made her question our relationship. As ashamed as I am about my action, I looked through her messages on Facebook and noticed that the guy constantly flirts with her. No need to feel ashamed, she started questioning your relationship after this guy came in. WTF? In the past week we argued enough for her to go hang out with this guy late in the night while I stayed home waiting for her return. RED FLAG, leave her now!!! There is no doubt she has done SOMETHING with him but is hiding it and not telling you. They go to school together and whenever class is over she always takes an hour or two to be with him (as I'm writing this they're out right now hanging out), but I just can't handle the way they get close as friends when I know that he has deep feelings for her. You need to drop her ASAP, not later, not next week, not in an hour, call her up right now a drop her like a sack of potato's. There are red flags going all over the place, you need to leave her now. Don't be a pussy, be a man and drop her ass. Link to post Share on other sites
jeremy711 Posted September 20, 2011 Share Posted September 20, 2011 You know what you need to get out now!!! She doesn't respect you if she is doing this and not putting a stop to it. Its understandable feeling this way, and guy would. It really isn't appropriate for your partner to stay out late at night one on one with another person of the opposite sex. It really brings problems...... Hope that helps!! Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted September 20, 2011 Share Posted September 20, 2011 If she's willing to throw away her relationship over some guy that is nothing more than a "friend", then he not just a friend to her. Link to post Share on other sites
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