Would Like Outside Views On This Situation...

[dnwtd]

I will do my best to keep this short. My wife and I are younger. The circumstances in which we became married were not traditional.

 

I love my wife. We have only been together about three years, but in those three years, we have made great advances in our lives together, job wise. We went from barely having any extra money, to each of us doubling our salaries from the time we started dating, until now.

 

My wife means everything to me, but I just dont see us working out if we have children together--this is why:

 

I realize people on this website will have many different beliefs, and you are entitled to that. My wife was forced into religion at a young age. To this date, her family still pressures her to attend church functions and the like. She is becoming more and more religious as the days go on. I on the other hand, am not religious in the least. I do not believe in God. I do believe there is something far greater than we could ever comprehend, but I do not believe in the bible. I never question my wife on the subject, because I want her to make her own choice and opinions. She is easily persuaded, and im not going to be the one pushing my beliefs on her.

 

The problem I see, is if we have children, it will cause many arguments. I imagine this scenario. Child says, "Daddy, why dont you ever come to church with me and mommy?", and I answer honestly. See where this is going? I just dont see it happening.

 

What does everyone think?

[SincereOnlineGuy]

The circumstances in which we became married were not traditional.

 

 

Then you're one of the lucky ones.

 

 

It's the "traditional" arrangements and the like which are most troublesome.

 

Why would anybody partake in them were they not "traditional"???

[Quiet Storm]

My H is a believer (though not a churchgoer) and I am not.

 

We are honest with our kids about our beliefs.

 

My H tells them he believes in God, tells them about praying, the bible stories, etc. But he adds a disclaimer that it is not proven, that it's a matter of faith.

 

I tell them that I think religion can be good because you feel that you are never alone, but that I don't believe in it or the bible. We do celebrate Christmas but don't focus on the religious aspects.

 

I do feel, however, that my non-belief has resulted in my husband really thinking about things. I notice some skeptism now from him, especially the money making aspect of religion and church.

 

I think it is good for kids to see the different ways people choose to live their lives.

 

You can teach your kids kindness, generosity, values without religion.

 

My fifteen year old doesn't believe. My two younger ones are undecided.