yellowrose Posted May 10, 2004 Share Posted May 10, 2004 My husband and I have been arguing about this friend of his, Steve. - Steve and I had a phone conversation a couple of months ago in which he strongly advised me to "Leave him [H] alone. He doesn't love you anymore. There's nothing for you there." - He's told my husband on several occasions not to speak to me and there have even been times when they are out together and he'll tell him not to answer his phone if he sees that it's me. H says whenever they're out, and the phone rings, Steve demands to know who it is. - He gets very jealous when H spends time with ANYONE else. - He's having my husband do some work for him and when H offered to do somthing nice as a thank you for the business, Steve suggested that H take him to Europe on a vacation together. - He goes over to H's house as late as 11:30 at night and won't leave until 2-3 in the morning. - He drives past my house and glares at me as he slowly cruises by. (He lives around the corner.) - H worries that Steve will see my car in front of our house and get mad at him. - He's generally very bossy with my H. - Saturday night, I was going over to H's house to watch SNL and Steve was there before me. H had him leave before I got there and didn't tell him I was coming because it would have ticked him off. - Steve has never had a real girlfriend in the 6 years I've known him. He's very intense, very angry, very controlling. So I ask you all. WTF????? I smell a Single White Female / Chasing Amy kind of situation. It really ticks me off that a) he's so set on getting in the center of my marital issues with H, and b) That H is so spineless that he lets this guy steamroll him. I mean, EUROPE...TOGETHER??? What *IS* that?????? Why is he so invested in H and I getting a divorce??? -Not that it would make much difference at this point, but heck, we certainly don't need a cheering section. -Yr (not so sure this guys isn't psycho, gay, or both) Link to post Share on other sites
Kat Posted May 10, 2004 Share Posted May 10, 2004 Umm, if you two are married, why don't you live together? Link to post Share on other sites
bluechocolate Posted May 10, 2004 Share Posted May 10, 2004 (not so sure this guys isn't psycho, gay, or both) sounds like he could be both But then again you can never know what your H has been telling his friend about you and your relationship and maybe his friend is just very protective. I would have thought that after knowing this guy for 6 years someone would have to know if he was gay or not? Link to post Share on other sites
Dulce_Angel_Whispers Posted May 10, 2004 Share Posted May 10, 2004 Sounds like their lovers to me... Link to post Share on other sites
Author yellowrose Posted May 11, 2004 Author Share Posted May 11, 2004 But then again you can never know what your H has been telling his friend about you and your relationship and maybe his friend is just very protective. Ya know, I could see that *if* I had been the one who cheated or lied. But that isn't the case at all! I mean, this guy... I treated him like a member of the family. Made sure he wasn't alone on holidays, when his dad died I went to the funeral (H was out of town), when his car was broken into I took him around to all the pawn shops and such looking for his stuff, I helped him move, I listened to his woes. I was a very good friend to this guy. So why is he so hell bent on H and I getting a divorce? It freaks me out to have someone be so obsessed with us being apart and making darn sure we don't have any time alone together. It's just weird and frankly, a bit psychotic. I am truly convinced that he is in love, in one way or another with my husband. He may very well be closeted, but jeez, I just can't see any other explaination for it that fits as well. -Yr Link to post Share on other sites
Author yellowrose Posted May 11, 2004 Author Share Posted May 11, 2004 Originally posted by Kat Umm, if you two are married, why don't you live together? It's in my sig. Separated. Link to post Share on other sites
amerikajin Posted May 11, 2004 Share Posted May 11, 2004 Steve is both gay and psycho. I don't know about your husband. Link to post Share on other sites
wideawake Posted May 11, 2004 Share Posted May 11, 2004 Originally posted by yellowrose So why is he so hell bent on H and I getting a divorce? A) That's a damn fine avatar... B) You and H divorce and Steve has way more time with H. Seems pretty simple to me. Not sure about pycho or gay, but he doesn't sound like a good friend regardless. Good luck with this one! Link to post Share on other sites
PoppySeed Posted May 16, 2004 Share Posted May 16, 2004 Hi, I know this may seem off the wall, but is it possible that your husband 's friend likes you and wants to be with you? I know that sounds weird, but maybe hes being friends with your husband and filling his head with crap hoping you or your husband will split and then he can move in on you. I know thats probably far fetched. Anyway i was thinking the same thing about wondering if he was gay or not, because of him wanting to go to Europe, just the 2 of them. He's probably not gay, but you never know. best of luck. Link to post Share on other sites
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