Country_Girl Posted September 19, 2011 Share Posted September 19, 2011 Broken up almost 9 months, going on 3 months NC (mutual agreement). Just got a call from him, wasn't looking at caller ID as I was expecting a call from my coworker. I heard background noise and him talking, I hung up after a few seconds because it was clearly a pocket dial and I didn't want to listen in or anything. I did text him to let him know he pocket dialed me, I didn't want him to look at his call log and think I called him. He sent back the letter 'D'...so it was either intended to be a smiley face or a frown face. I didn't bother texting back for clairification. Weird though, why would he even keep my number in his phone. Even though we got to a point of friendliness before we went NC, I made it clear that we shouldn't fool ourselves into thinking we can be friends one day and it's best we don't ever talk again. I explained that in my next relationship, I don't want to have to explain why I am "buddies" with a guy that I was supposed to be married to. He understood, and we agreed on no more contact. I don't get it. He broke up with me, I deleted his number right away, and even back in March when we were thinking of reconciling, I still didn't program his number back in. So yeah I broke NC, but I don't care, I just didn't want him thinking I dialed him. I'm definitley at indifference now, this call didn't phase me- and it's going to sound mean but I don't care if I ever hear from him again. Not that I hate him or anything, but my life is so much different now, and the person that this breakup turned me into, wouldn't even be attracted to him or find his jokes funny anymore. I do wish him well, even though I'm not with him anymore, but it's almost like he's dead to me. Like I grieved his loss from my life as if he passed away- I have no idea who he is anymore, it's like he's a stranger. It reminds me of a youtube video someone posted on here a few months ago about the stages of a relationship and "becoming strangers" in a breakup. Link to post Share on other sites
country_gurl Posted September 19, 2011 Share Posted September 19, 2011 (edited) I'm confused; why would he have potentially looked at his phone and mistakenly thought that YOU had phoned him? Most cell phones show a call log that pretty clearly differentiates outgoing calls by the owner of the phone (eg: his call to you) orincoming/ missed/received calls. Edited September 19, 2011 by country_gurl Link to post Share on other sites
lymtal1 Posted September 19, 2011 Share Posted September 19, 2011 CG, It sounds like you are in a great place to be. I think it would be great if you gave those out here some inspirational words related to your success and how you got to the point of indifference. This of course is if you would not mind doing so. I find myself getting better each day. Today was rough though. I could not stop thinking about her. Sadly my thoughts were that I might and more than likely willl never talk to or see her again. It does sadden me a bit. Interestingly enough this is the day after spending some time with another person who seems to have some feelings for me. I am being nothing but honest (as she knows my story), and feel good about that. Who knows what might happen. I think that just being around someone is helpful, having them say nice things has boosted my rather deflated ego, and this is good. Did you experience any of this? I will offer as something to think about, curiosity about why you might be worried about what he thinks related to his thoughts about you dialing him. I am sure you are where you say you are. You have every reason to be. Just wondering why it may matter to you. All this is a learning for me and your thoughts are appreciated:) Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted September 19, 2011 Share Posted September 19, 2011 Country_Girl... country_gurl She texted him back because she knew she could and just used the excuse of the missed/incoming. Her ex just never removed her from his phone.. I've done that as sometimes if someone calls you want to know who it is.. if you delete their number you don't know who it is... I normally put a Z in front of their last name though so I never see their name again unless they call.. I have a neighbor that I can't stand but I have to have his number and his last name begins with an A.. so every time I would go to my contacts I would see his name.. not anymore that his name begins with a Z now.. Butt dialing still happens today.. with my iPhone I did it for a week or so till I learned how to put the phone to sleep after each time I use the phone. Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted September 19, 2011 Share Posted September 19, 2011 Butt dialing still happens today.. with my iPhone I did it for a week or so till I learned how to put the phone to sleep after each time I use the phone. I once purse texted an ex "poo"... How did that happen??? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Country_Girl Posted September 19, 2011 Author Share Posted September 19, 2011 Yeah, my name starts with A, so I know it was a butt dial. I don't know what kind of phone he has, mine has arrows to distinguish calls outgoing/ingoing but I don't really pay attention to them or know which is which...clearly you can see how tech savy I am, so I wanted to make sure he didn't think it was an outgoing call. I guess not having a missed call indicator would be sufficient enough but I wasn't really thinking at the time. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted September 19, 2011 Share Posted September 19, 2011 I once purse texted an ex "poo"... How did that happen??? There is a god.... Link to post Share on other sites
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