how to deal with his anger

[janine]

how do i deal with bf who gets mad at me then yells at me then ackts like nothing happens how am i suppose to act when i am feeling hurt because he said things out of anger and i am still wallowing in pity over his anger and he acts like i should not be mad and just says if i want to take to act that way then to go ahead but he is not going to be a part of it even if he is the one that started it. i just try to act as if like they say to act happy you are happy, so i try to act like i am not mad or hurt and soon enough it helps but my mind is still left with wondering how should i act when he yells at me about something even if it is my own fault then i just feel like kid being scolded by parent and i do not know how to take.

[Pyrannaste]

Let him know that you have enough of his behaviour, next time he yells at you without a reason he'd better apologize.

Also let him know he has no right to lecture you on acting angry after he was the one getting angry first, yelling and saying hurtful things.

Before lecturing you he'd better stand in front of a mirror and give himself a friggin' lecture.

He has the right to get angered and yell, you have the very same right to.

 

Unless of course you were the one starting the fight, being mean and evil with no reason, nagging him to death, not respecting him, doing anything to have him get an anger outburst.

But it does not sound like the case from your post.

 

Another possibility is dumping him and start going out with someone that does not use a double standard like that.

[Butterfly_Queen]

Hi I totally agree with Pyrannaste. He shouldn't act that way at all. He really has some anger issues sounds like. If it continues, i think you should tell him how you feel and maybe suggest some anger management classes. Of course that may make him more angry, but that's because you'd be telling him the truth and sometimes the truth hurts. I would defintely try to either help him get a hold of it now or you help yourself right on out of the relationship, before it gets out of hand, and it goes from yelling to hitting. I hope he hasn't already been doing that. Best of luck.