my boyfriend is cheating on me

[teetee]

I was raised in a christian Home with good maral values. We all slip up now and again. I am 33 yrs old with a 9mth old daughter. I met her father 2 years ago. I was ending a relationship I wanted out of when I met him and He was 2 yrs out of an 11year relationship at he time. He said he was dating other people and I wasn't really looking to be involved. We went out a few times and I thought he was okay. I had to go out of town one weekend and I promised I'd call when I got to my hotel. One evening when I returned to my room, ther was a message from his mom who lived in another location, just that her son was trying to reach me. Later the three of us spoke, this was the first time I spoke to his mom. She expressed her eagerness to meet me and I was sooooooooooo Surprised at this.

I made up my mind tha I would date him at that point. we started dating and 3 months later, I met his family during a wedding out of town. After the trip, he started being different. I encountered him with one of the peolple he was dating. I soon found out that he was still seeing people after he said he wanted to marry and meeting his family. I realize he told me this in the beginning but he made it all seem so casual and trivial.

4 months into our relationship, I got pregnant. He was excited, but nervous. So was I. THis was both our first and we wern't married.what do we tellour parents, church etc.

the relationship from here on in has been very painful for me. I have caught him with numerous women ( in bed at times) we haven't had sex for a very long time. He claims he wants me to trust him again and he can't bear to see me and our daughter with another man, yet He still sleeps with other womer. He claims he doesn't want me to come over unless I'm invited but 6 months ago moved a block away from my house. HE went to church with me on Mother's day took me to a really nice restuarant.

I just can't seem to begin to trust him but I want him to stop lying and come clean to me. I am so tierd of this relationship but I my daughter to be raised by both of us. Its only been two years since met him and I don't want to be too hasty in ending it. I feel I should give him more time to decide i fhe wants us to egt married. He acts so sweet when thing are okay with us, its just the women that he can't seem to get enough of. Should I just give up and raise my daughter alone?

[supermom]

Sounds like there really is no relationship. You don't live with him, he screws other women....You should move on.

 

It doesn't mean you have to raise your daughter alone...he should be responsible for her as well.

 

Its probably better you havent had sex in along time, who knows whats crawling around down there for him to be having sex with so many women.

 

Your better off just getting the much deserved child support from him and letting him go screw his brains out, you don't need that.

 

Just my opinion

[morrigan]

You are a good enough woman and mother to raise your daughter by yourself. Leave the worthless man behind!! And I agree with Supermom--make sure that he pays child support for your daughter.

 

If it was a one time affair, maybe you could build a good relationship, but he has done this over and over to you. He has not attempted to give up his sexual exploits, nor has he tried to go to counseling for his sexual problems. He has yet to make a true, full committment to you. He is not sorry for what he has done to you or to his child. He has potentially exposed you to STD's. His sweetness is a ploy used to make you not be angry with him for what he considers his little "sins".

 

For God's sake, don't marry this man--he will not change his ways.

[DerangedAngel]

"For God's sake, don't marry this man--he will not change his ways."

 

Don't marry this man--he will not change his ways.

 

He will not change his ways.

 

He will not change.

 

-Deranged