Jenny317 Posted May 11, 2004 Share Posted May 11, 2004 I like a dude named joseph and we went out 2 times and both of those times he cheated on me. and this time we didn't go out but we almost kissed and muh mom beeped her horn to go home and i gave him a hug good-bye and then when i called him up when i got home, he called me a slut and a prostitute, and he said he is happy that i left early bc i didn't bring my sister holly. and then yesterday, he called me and he said he didn't call me a slut and a prostitute and i said "don't hold your breathe " and i hung up. But yet i am so completely sad! What should i do? i mean i am even ignoreing him and i am not even looking at him and yet i still love him! Link to post Share on other sites
supermom Posted May 11, 2004 Share Posted May 11, 2004 do you LOVE him or LIKE him? He is playing you again.....lose him before you get more hurt. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jenny317 Posted May 12, 2004 Author Share Posted May 12, 2004 im not sure if i can. I mean i have been trying to loose him for a long time but yet it isn't working for me :'( I wish it did! Link to post Share on other sites
2ndConfusedfemale Posted May 12, 2004 Share Posted May 12, 2004 Is it that you love him, or that you love "the game?" I recently discovered that the only reason that I still wanted this guy who did horrible things was because I love the game (the game is "winning him")...It's like the more impossible it seemed that I would get him, the more I wanted to get him. And letting go of trying to win is almost as hard as letting go of the person...Are you sure that is not the case? One way to tell is for you to ask yourself how interested in him were you initially--before he "played" you, and before it seemed like you would never get him? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jenny317 Posted May 13, 2004 Author Share Posted May 13, 2004 that is probable what is going on! I mean when ever he is on the computer he apologizes! I have been trying to win him and everything...and i think it has been working because i tried so hard but again...he also likes this other girl A.K.A. 2 girls! I still love him though! Link to post Share on other sites
Pyrannaste Posted May 13, 2004 Share Posted May 13, 2004 This guy is not worth it. .*really*. If you tend to fall in love with guys like him, try to question yourself and find out why you are aattracted to guys that are not trustworthy, act jerkish and are possibly abusive. You sound very young from your post. Do not get the idea that if you are not suffering or heartbroken or anxious about him it is not love. Or you wll end up collecting heartbreaks. Do yourself a favour and kick his ass out of your life. Stop contact with him. Do not allow him to play games with you. Keep hunging up on him if he calls again. Take him off your online contacts list. I promise you will be feeling way better soon. Link to post Share on other sites
WWDDFD Posted May 13, 2004 Share Posted May 13, 2004 Originally posted by Jenny317 I like a dude named joseph and we went out 2 times and both of those times he cheated on me. and this time we didn't go out but we almost kissed and muh mom beeped her horn to go home and i gave him a hug good-bye and then when i called him up when i got home, he called me a slut and a prostitute, and he said he is happy that i left early bc i didn't bring my sister holly. and then yesterday, he called me and he said he didn't call me a slut and a prostitute and i said "don't hold your breathe " and i hung up. But yet i am so completely sad! What should i do? i mean i am even ignoreing him and i am not even looking at him and yet i still love him! For the LOVE OF GOD, WHAT IS WRONG WITH WOMEN?! This guy is a CLASS A a**h*** who called you a slut and a prostitute, and YOU LOVE HIM? What the ****. I give up. Every woman I've ever known is attracted to complete a**h***s, and want nothing to do with me. Fine, have your a**h***s. Every time your a**h*** punches you or calls you a name, smile! Link to post Share on other sites
browneyes Posted May 13, 2004 Share Posted May 13, 2004 Just remember: Fool me once shame on you. Fool me twice shame on me. You don't want some one in your life that is going to hurt you and direspect you. You don't deserve it, you need to find someone who treats you the way you deserve. Let the LOSER go!! Link to post Share on other sites
Pyrannaste Posted May 14, 2004 Share Posted May 14, 2004 Originally posted by WWDDFD This guy is a CLASS A a**h*** Jenny317, this is exactly what I wanted to say in my other post and did not dare to. I noticed that often WWDDFD is better than me at expressing concepts. Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted May 14, 2004 Share Posted May 14, 2004 At what point do you realize this guy is an awful, hideous human being? When the clouds part, the sun shines down upon you, and the booming voice of God shouts, "Whoa! Stay away from that one!" C'mon. I suppose guys do this too, but why is it that some women can be treated like total CRAP by some guy and no matter what happens, they "somehow" manage to look past the horribleness and hang onto the ridiculous, tiny hope that things will get better? I just don't get it. Truly don't. I'm not meant to, I suppose. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jenny317 Posted May 15, 2004 Author Share Posted May 15, 2004 I saw him yesterday at school and he got me so pissed bc he looked at me! It is almost like he was staring me down! OMG i got so sad. I really don't think ignoreing him is going to make anything better! I think i am suposed to love him or something! I know he still feels the same way about me and i hope that lasts awhile because I still love him alot. But I don't know what to say to him that will make me not like him n e more! Some one plezzzzzzzz help! Bc right now i am falling in love wit ****! Link to post Share on other sites
bluechocolate Posted May 15, 2004 Share Posted May 15, 2004 It sounds like you feel that this is so important, but you're only 13 years old so just relax already!! So what if he stares at you? Ignore him. If you can't ignore him then talk to him. If he's a jerk then give him the flick. I'm sure there are lots of other guys in your class, it is likely that there are going to be many more boys in your life and it'll help you greatly in the future if you can learn to stop being so melodramatic about it all now. Link to post Share on other sites
winterwonderland Posted May 15, 2004 Share Posted May 15, 2004 I have read some books on girls and guys for that matter how they keep going back to the ones who hurt them. It has alot to do with what you think of yourself, how you portray yourself as a person, how much you are willing to take for small tid bit of affection. It also has alot to do with you wanting to be with someone. I think when you realize your true worth you will find the will to let go. I really do believe that when you put yourself on top of the list that is when you will find true happiness and not all this bull were you go home to a man who just abuses you and makes you feel small. That does nothing to your self esteem. Treat yourself right first. Give yourself what you need and desire , make yourself happy first and when you start to respect yourself so will others. Just my opinion. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jenny317 Posted May 18, 2004 Author Share Posted May 18, 2004 I know but I pick this guy! I was over this guys house and Joseph was there and the guy was all up on me and kissing me and **** and it looked like he was getting pssed and he got this girl emily to hug him right in front of me. i know their are other guys but i chose THIS guy! Link to post Share on other sites
rainbowspots Posted May 18, 2004 Share Posted May 18, 2004 My mom chose "that guy" and for twenty three years, she stuck with "that guy". He ended up having 6 affairs that she knew of. The estimate number is about 8 per year. Add it up. People like that guy don't change. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jenny317 Posted May 20, 2004 Author Share Posted May 20, 2004 yeah i know but who would u wrather be with. A guy you first fell in love with or a guy that cheated on u and u forgave him 3 times. i mean he is a sweetie mo major! But he is also a cheater. But right now i am gettin not to like him any more! i am beggining to like a different guy! Link to post Share on other sites
Scandalous_Temptress Posted May 20, 2004 Share Posted May 20, 2004 Say it with me, "I have self respect and I deserve better than this!" You need to let go, and convince yourself that you're not going to waste anymore of your precious time putting up with his immature a**h*** ways anymore! He is obviously worth less than dirt... why do you feel that you "love" him still? Eventually, you'll get over that feeling. I think you need to go out and forget him. You're young - have fun with life!! And for God's sake, MOVE ON!!!!! I can't imagine what it is that appeals you to this guy. His attitude is extremely unattractive! Have a little self worth. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jenny317 Posted May 22, 2004 Author Share Posted May 22, 2004 well i started not to like him since yesterday but then today i went to my friend's party and he was there and he kept looking at me and i kept looking at him and i also liked this other guy there rico and joseph got all p*ssed and everything. And then i started to fall for him again but just a lil' but he still likes me. i forgave him yesterday and we became friends but today he was being an a*s whole to me! Link to post Share on other sites
LILUIL Posted May 22, 2004 Share Posted May 22, 2004 Originally posted by browneyes Fool me once shame on you. Fool me twice shame on me. hey browneyes, long time since i heard that one.... nice. Originally posted by Jenny317 I know but I pick this guy! I was over this guys house and Joseph was there and the guy was all up on me and kissing me and **** and it looked like he was getting pssed and he got this girl emily to hug him right in front of me. i know their are other guys but i chose THIS guy! yo! wise up. he's not choosing you. so what if he's cute.... this guy is not ready to take care ofyou for the rest of your life. what's he got that you cant seem to find in other guys anyway? Originally posted by Scandalous_Temptress Say it with me, "I have self respect and I deserve better than this!" i can identify with that, every morning b4 i go to work i say 10 times "My boss can clean his own sh*t, i dont need to do it for him!" Originally posted by Jenny317 well i started not to like him since yesterday but then ........him and i also liked this other guy there rico and joseph got all p*ssed and everything. And then .......a lil' but he still likes me. i forgave him yesterday and we became friends but today he was being an a*s whole to me! good for you for not liking him yesterday, and seriously you should have let that 'hatred' grow into today as well. let's see, where did the second bolded text go.... ah... rico. you like rico? get to know rico, why do you care even what joseph thinks????? ya, you'll like to believe that joseph likes you.... i think not.... you imagined that coz in the end you forgave him today and immediately he became an a**h*** again. DUMP Joseph regardless of whether Rico is there for you or not. Joseph is the cause of stress. Lose Joseph and you'll have no more stress. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jenny317 Posted May 22, 2004 Author Share Posted May 22, 2004 Droping alot of stress? Ummm i can try to work at it. but it don't think it will work. joseph is a big time a$$ whole. Rico was gunna ask me out yesterday at the party but he couldn't find me so he just said forget about it! this sux! Joseph i think was talking about me behind his back bc all these girls was looking at me when he was talking to them. He was asking me when i am gunna leave and he told me that he is gunna call my mom and tell her to pick me up! i got so pi$$ed at him it is unreal. I don't think i like him like that n e more. i still have feelings for him though! Link to post Share on other sites
3questions Posted October 4, 2005 Share Posted October 4, 2005 I didn't read your blog. Sorry. But if he is "hurting you" than there is most likely a stupid explanation for you to love him still. Don't be fooled, sometimes your feelings get mixed up because it is what your mind says. Goodluck and take care. I hope someone here atleast has helped you.... . lol. Link to post Share on other sites
BadBadGirl Posted October 4, 2005 Share Posted October 4, 2005 i didn't read your post. the title alone tells me you're not going to do anything about it until you're ready to stop being treated like crap. Link to post Share on other sites
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