Starnette83 Posted May 11, 2004 Share Posted May 11, 2004 well today is 6th day no contact..and its so annoying!! but i wont phone him..ugh it just makes me mad to see him indifferent and careless he is...i see him at school but we are just ignoring eachother...ugh.....today i wanted to cry, n some tears came out in class..i just dont understand how someone can stop loving u..or someone u been so close to then is just a stranger..this just sux so bad!!,... Link to post Share on other sites
Becks84 Posted May 11, 2004 Share Posted May 11, 2004 I never understood it either...and I actually did it to someone! That was maybe 4 years ago. We were together for 2 years and pretty serious. BUt we had some major issues that we just couldnt seem to ever resolve. I kept these things inside and the resentment grew and grew until one day, after 2 years finally, I ended things. Right to his face I told him it had to be over, and I really meant it. I walked out of his house and never looked back. In school it was as if he didnt exist. I just needed him to be out of my life...for good. We have driven past each other and waved, but to this day, still no real communication. It sounds so sad, but in our personal situation, it was for the best for both of us! Things were unhealthy and just not right. **I havent seen any of your other posts so I dont know the history or details of your situation...but if you guys had some major problems, maybe he was hiding some true feelings from you and just sort of snapped finally...and had been planning on you two no longer being in each other's lives.** If I am way off base, fill me in on your particular situation! I just decided to respond, because I know all too well about this situation, though I was on the opposite side than you. Link to post Share on other sites
BlueLP Posted May 11, 2004 Share Posted May 11, 2004 Ughh. I hate that feeling. Hang in there, I know it's really hard right now. Some days will be like this, and it's ok to be a little sad. When people shut off like that, the feelings have either been fading for a while and they didn't tell you, or there is something unresolved that will come back around later. I don't know your situation, but it is so frustrating to feel like the person who loved you no longer cares either way about you. No contact is maddening because it seems like they have no problem with it, and it takes every ounce of your energy not to contact them. I've been going through the same thing w/ my ex-girlfriend. It's hard because you are used to talking to them whenever you have ups and downs....when you're sad they often make you feel better, and when you're happy you want to share whats going on with them. Now they are gone, and that's a big gap to fill right away. You're doing well to be this determined to make it through and keep the no contact going! It takes a lot of strength to keep going during this time, when it feels like all you want to do is talk to that person. Keep counting off the days, and posting here for support. Every day is a day closer to the time when you are recovered and feeling more in control of your situation again. I know that I'm looking forward to that day, and just trying to make it through those sh*tty moments of hopelessness like you described. Link to post Share on other sites
meanttolive4ever Posted May 12, 2004 Share Posted May 12, 2004 i last talked to my ex about 2 weeks ago....i think im finally getting over him..but i still want him back for some odd reason. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Starnette83 Posted May 12, 2004 Author Share Posted May 12, 2004 im sorry but seeing my exbf at school, just makez me feel horrible..i miss him terribnly..ugh..its awfull..hwo can he just not be sorry?? why is he doing this??? he knowz i love him..he knows i broke up with him cuz he lied to me...yet he doesnt care.... im starting to hate myself for ever falling for him, for ever trusting him..i feel like crying..i cant even do my work for school...i just feel so off..i am so dumb i almost called him today...i actualyl did...i blocke my number and called him..he picked up..but i couldnt say a word..i just had to hear his voice..he said hello 3 times..and then hung up... ugh i just miss talking to him, miss calling him, miss him calling him..i really REALLY feel that im NEVER ever gonna get over him, cuz i love him alot...and i always will...i gave him my heart, my body, and my mind...and now im just weird without him...3 years 1/2 of so much closeness...and now nothing... Link to post Share on other sites
LILUIL Posted May 12, 2004 Share Posted May 12, 2004 I had two terrible bfs b4. One used to hit me, the other dumped me to get arranged marriage by his parents wishes. Both times i thought life was over and that both heartless idiots would never talk to me again despite how much i loved them and bla bla bla. Men take longer to regret but he will. Don't you go calling him. However badly you want to talk to him, just ignore him. The first took two years and then came back begging. The second took a year and came back begging too. Both never got a second chance and never will. I repeat. If you really believe that he's in the wrong then let him call. When he finally does, you have the upperhand to decide where the whole thing will go. Be brave. Link to post Share on other sites
meanttolive4ever Posted May 12, 2004 Share Posted May 12, 2004 Originally posted by LILUIL I had two terrible bfs b4. One used to hit me, the other dumped me to get arranged marriage by his parents wishes. Both times i thought life was over and that both heartless idiots would never talk to me again despite how much i loved them and bla bla bla. Men take longer to regret but he will. Don't you go calling him. However badly you want to talk to him, just ignore him. The first took two years and then came back begging. The second took a year and came back begging too. Both never got a second chance and never will. I repeat. If you really believe that he's in the wrong then let him call. When he finally does, you have the upperhand to decide where the whole thing will go. Be brave. they dont realize how good of a thing they have until its gone Link to post Share on other sites
2ndConfusedfemale Posted May 12, 2004 Share Posted May 12, 2004 Originally posted by Starnette83 im sorry ... ugh i just miss talking to him, miss calling him, miss him calling him..i really REALLY feel that im NEVER ever gonna get over him, cuz i love him alot...and i always will...i gave him my heart, my body, and my mind...and now im just weird without him...3 years 1/2 of so much closeness...and now nothing... I know everyone is saying that you shouldn't give in, but you really shouldn't. Simply because if you do, and you ever get back together again he'd just subconciously think that he can run over YOU, and YOU'LL come back to him. If he does try to come back, you shouldn't make it easy, he should have time, and then more time, and then even more time to prove that he is worthy, and to SHOW you that he capable of being trusted. If YOU go back to him, he'd act less interested because he'd find security in knowing that he can have you if he wanted you (in spite of what he did). And if you don't ever get back together you can be more confident knowing that you loved yourself so much that you couldn't sacrifice your beliefs (of how you should be treated) by giving in to him. Link to post Share on other sites
meanttolive4ever Posted May 12, 2004 Share Posted May 12, 2004 Originally posted by 2ndConfusedfemale I know everyone is saying that you shouldn't give in, but you really shouldn't. Simply because if you do, and you ever get back together again he'd just subconciously think that he can run over YOU, and YOU'LL come back to him. If he does try to come back, you shouldn't make it easy, he should have time, and then more time, and then even more time to prove that he is worthy, and to SHOW you that he capable of being trusted. If YOU go back to him, he'd act less interested because he'd find security in knowing that he can have you if he wanted you (in spite of what he did). And if you don't ever get back together you can be more confident knowing that you loved yourself so much that you couldn't sacrifice your beliefs (of how you should be treated) by giving in to him. yea because then he knows that he can have you whenever. Link to post Share on other sites
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