Check this topic - low self esteem and fantasizing of your ex with their new partner?

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Check this topic - low self esteem and fantasizing of your ex with their new partner? - uh No.

 

I haven't seen this discussed here, but I bet it can be common but there is a solution.

Please let me explain. I was at a point after my break up where I had lowered my self esteem so much - I started fantasizing of my ex and her new partner!

 

This can happen in the craziness of break ups.

 

Now - it's even called cuckold fanstasies in a sense.

 

However really --- that CAN't be healthy. As high self esteem is so important to relationships!

 

Although my shrink told me it's fine if I fantasize, it's natural like so what.

I was with her for so long.

 

Now this is the bad part. I just did it again, looking at our old photos.

After more then a year broken up.

 

I also checked her facebook just now.

 

Doing this really set me like this - I may probably not feel bad now, in the comming days maybee (as per usual) - but I'VE DECIDED TO STOP DOING THIS completely now! That's it! I've reached bottom here.

 

As much as I hate to say it - I'll switch this to another sexual outlet - like at looking porn - I don't have a girlfriend and I have a high sex drive - otherwise tell me how I should meet my sexual needs?

 

Checking up on her? It's all so old now! Also boring!

 

Also - she hasn't even been active on facebook for a while - her new man is an unemployed alcoholic, they are both on welfare he has crazy anger problems and she rebounded with him.

 

She is probably in a very bad situation. At least I didn't see her all super successul - I need to focus on myself.

 

I just feel bad for us, what we had - (which was special at one point) for her and what happened.

 

I'm just happy this happened before I got married or had kids.