Stncldgent Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 You wish your ex would try to contact you one last time so you can tell em off properly? I really am stuck in the anger stage and I want to give her a piece of my mind, because when she dumped me she made everything seem as if it was my fault. Found out things to the contrary a while back and I've been angry at her ever since. Really in my case I think the venom I have for her is worse on me then the heartbreak I used to have. Is that even possible? How long does this feeling last? I realize that it would not help the situation, but I would really feel alot better Link to post Share on other sites
smudge21 Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 Oddly enough I just hit an angry stage last night and it's continuued over. I was annoyed at other things and then my focus turned onto her and everything that has happened - I really don't hate her, but I guess my anger is more because I feel I did many things wrong. Most obvious was ignore the red flags at the beginning. I do believe that if you replace all those romantic emotions for anger it does allow you to move on quicker. I have friends who got seriously betrayed and hurt by their exs and they healed much quicker than I have. They tell me that it's down to no longer seeing the ex as the person they love - that person has long since gone. Link to post Share on other sites
Bruised Not Broken Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 I'm no expert by any means, and I went through the angry stage for a long time. I was out for blood....I had the means to cause massive damage to my ex's life and I was very close to doing it...BUT, a very wise person said to me that being so angry with someone was like drinking poison and hoping that the other person would die. Your (and my) anger hurts NO ONE but US. They don't know...or if they do know, don't give a crap. My ex knew...and only cared because I could have ended up costing him thousands and thousands of dollars if I exacted revenge. But would that have helped me? For about five minutes. And then I would have felt like crap. And, honestly unleashing yoru anger and looking like a ranting lunatic will only have your ex feel like they were right for ending things with you. Dont' give the ex the satisfaction. The best revenge is to find peace and happiness. It's not easy, but try to remind yourself that you being happy without them will be the best for you...and perhaps make them realize they weren't worthy of you. (now I'm really good at giving good advice and not following it, but this one...this I really try to live by..and honestly think it's damn good advice Link to post Share on other sites
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