nomoretroubles Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 I've been going out with this girl for the past 6 months or so. I really like her and I think she does to. Today we went to see some gym and the gym instructor was talking to her a lot, trying to convince her to join the gym and so on, it seems to me he was interested in her. I don't really mind actually, it's not like she was flirting back or anything. However, when we were about to leave, he asked her phone number to "give her more information", so she said no once or twice. But right before going, since he was insisting, she eventually gave him her number. I don't know if I should be worried or not, she kind of gave it because he was insisting. On the other hand, it makes me feel that as long as a guy insists enough she'd just go for anything. What if this guy calls her and insists to get an innocent drink "as friends" or something? It happens another time when I wasn't there. Some guy asked her her number and she gave it. When the guy called to go to see a film she firmly said no, but still all this worries me. She's kind of easy going and a bit shy, and I think she really gives her number to avoid any confrontation. With me she's a bit like that too - if she says she wants something and I say I want something else, she'll go with what I said. I really don't know what to do. I think we have a nice relationship and I don't want to mess it up by reacting the wrong way. I guess I should talk to her about it but not sure what to say. Link to post Share on other sites
Bryanp Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 It does sound like she was intimidated into giving her number. I would suggest that you tell her that the next time she feel forced to give her number to somebody that she give a fake number instead. This way the problem is solved. Link to post Share on other sites
blueskyday Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 Find a girl who can say "No thanks. I have a boyfriend" and who doesn't need validation from other men. Not saying she has that problem, but it's bad enough she can't say No. A guy might be able to pressure her into a date. Saying No is being able to set boundaries. People who set boundaries don't cheat. Being able to trust your SO's judgment is very important. If you want to stay with her, tell her that it is unacceptable for her to give her number out to a guy unless it is for business or some other purpose. Tell her your feelings are more important than some (gym) guy's. Then watch her. Weak women are easily broken by manipulative men. They don't make good girlfriends. Link to post Share on other sites
jnj express Posted September 23, 2011 Share Posted September 23, 2011 Maybe you need to have a conversation with her-----she needs to just say NO and walk away, and if a guy persists, she needs to tell him, to get out of her face, and leave her alone She needs to be able to do this, whether she has a BF, or not---there are a lot of "bad" guys out there, who prey on innocent women, who find it hard to say NO. Link to post Share on other sites
make me believe Posted September 23, 2011 Share Posted September 23, 2011 Dude, it's not like you guys were at a bar and she gave her number to some creeper who was hitting on her. I'm sure the gym guy hassles every potential client for their number -- it's how they sell memberships and get commission! Link to post Share on other sites
january2011 Posted September 23, 2011 Share Posted September 23, 2011 Maybe you need to have a conversation with her-----she needs to just say NO and walk away, and if a guy persists, she needs to tell him, to get out of her face, and leave her alone She needs to be able to do this, whether she has a BF, or not---there are a lot of "bad" guys out there, who prey on innocent women, who find it hard to say NO. Seconded. I'm more concerned that she can't walk away from someone trying to bully her than whether she's likely to cheat on you. Link to post Share on other sites
nofool4u Posted September 23, 2011 Share Posted September 23, 2011 I really don't know what to do. I think we have a nice relationship and I don't want to mess it up by reacting the wrong way. I guess I should talk to her about it but not sure what to say. You wouldn't be messing up anything just because you react in a certain way. SHE is the one messing it up. you don't give your # out to member's of the opposite sex just because they ask for it, PERIOD. The 2nd guy you mentioned didn't want it for something specific, like job related or school. The first guy kept insisting to get her number because he just wanted to give her more information. Sorry, thats a lie. you don't keep insisting if someone says no. If they wanted the information, they would have given in the first time. I hope your gf doesn't go out to clubs or parties. Because she will fold like a cheap suit at advances. If I gave my # to any woman for any reason with almost all of the women I dated, they'd have all slapped me in the face. Link to post Share on other sites
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