dudesomewhere Posted May 14, 2004 Share Posted May 14, 2004 I'm a nice guy, I like finishing last...I don't know, I'm just weird However I do fit all these points damnit! - strong - funny - good listener - clean - caring - loving - patient - courageous - fair - able to compromise - competent - respectful (and respected) - faithful and loyal You should put "rich" on that list though...that I'm not I don't agree with jerks having most of those traits...though they do lie well, so they can convince women they have those qualities, booyah! hehe Link to post Share on other sites
InmannRoshi Posted May 14, 2004 Share Posted May 14, 2004 I agree that the quiet ones aren't always the nice ones (they may just be anti-social), but the center of attention also can have the "baggage that could fill an Amtrack" with a "everyone has to like me" and "I can't get enough of people's attention" attitude. I also don't really buy the whole "He's a jerk to everyone else, but he treats me nice" theory actually works in reality. Yeah, maybe in the short term, but in the longterm its only a matter of time before someone who shows little respect or regards towards others shifts that attitude towards you. I dunno ... Besides, maybe its just me, but I couldn't picture being with someone who doesn't show common decency and compassion towards other human beings. I just don't fathom how that can be an acceptable feature in a person you want to have a relationship with. Attraction is necessary, but I think its a mistake too often to use it as the foundation of your relationship. Not only is it often timesfleeting, but many of us have things from our past that cause us to be initially attracted to not so good people. Maybe one of the reasons generations before us have had so much more success with marriage has to do with a longer courtship period in which friendship is pragmatically built, instead of just building a relationship on animal impulse. Link to post Share on other sites
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