TheSageMan Posted September 23, 2011 Share Posted September 23, 2011 Its been 8 months since I have last seen my ex of 3.5 years, and 7 months of NC. I really do not have any clue what she is doing in life anymore other than little things I hear here and there from mutual friends. For some reason lately, the urge to break No Contact after such a long period of time has grown stronger with each passing day. I'm not really trying to win her back, but mainly just to see whats going on. After all, we were best friends before becoming a couple. I admit that I still am not completely over her even though I have dated multiple girls since then. I guess I just want to hear the pros and cons of checking in. Link to post Share on other sites
Bruised Not Broken Posted September 23, 2011 Share Posted September 23, 2011 Well, I'm not an expert by any stretch....but if you aren't over her completely, I think breaking NC would be detrimental to you. I think it would just take you back a few steps. I literally just broke my NC (only 103 hours..yes hours) and I feel like complete garbage. I think you should just push through the urge...and when the day comes you are completely over her...then maybe checking in will be okay. Just my thoughts Link to post Share on other sites
Thieves Posted September 23, 2011 Share Posted September 23, 2011 I guess I just want to hear the pros and cons of checking in. Don't do it. You're better off waiting a full year if you're that far into NC, then contact her if you want (don't recommend it). I was in your exact same spot: 7 months no contact, doing good but really wondering how he's doing, what he was doing, etc. I've learned a lot so far, and I know by this point that things just didn't work out for us. For once, I can say that I wouldn't get back with him, that I can find someone better for me. But I still have some feelings left for him. I ended up breaking NC (on my part - he hasn't replied), and I do wish I hadn't. It was a neutral message. I got upset afterwards, but didn't cry or anything. It didn't set me back a whole lot but still, pointless e-mail. I would've been better off not to. Honestly, if you're not 100% over her, it'll still hurt if she doesn't say anything. Don't break all your good months of NC. And just know that once you hit that Send button, you can't take it back. Link to post Share on other sites
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