lovedirts Posted May 12, 2004 Share Posted May 12, 2004 Hi I don't know if this is the place to post but since i'm new at this here goes. My wife has had a quick affair and has admitted it and broke it off. We have decided to try again (we have had trouble before and I'm no angel) she is still pretty cold to me and says she is having problems and has had problems loving me. we have been together for 14 years. I am having problems dealing with her affair. If any one has had similar experience please help. Also I had an affair about 2 years ago but she doesn't no that . should i tell her? Link to post Share on other sites
bluechocolate Posted May 12, 2004 Share Posted May 12, 2004 If any one has had similar experience please help. Personally I haven't had a similar experience but there are loads of threads on this forum - have a troll around. Given that you cheated on your wife 2 years ago it's a bit rich to be having problems dealing with her affair, which she has admitted to you. At least she had the guts to be honest about it. You are going to have to be honest with her. It may just be that she knows about the affair already. Regardless, it's unfair to let her think that you've been faithful and your present marital problems are a result of her affair. Clearly there were problems already in this marriage. I think the two of you need to attend some marriage counselling as soon as possible. You'll have separate sessions at first and if you haven't told your wife about your previous affair this would be a good chance to have some professional advice on how to go about it. Link to post Share on other sites
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