noidea Posted May 12, 2004 Share Posted May 12, 2004 I am of the belief that if you set out "rules" for how your long distance relationship will work, it can work out. By "rules" I mean, number of times you will see each other per month or per year, who will spend the money or time traveling, and how long you will be away from each other before you discuss moving closer together. Do men not have this same belief? I've just noticed that more of my male friends seem anti-LD, and more of my female friends believe it can work out if ground rules are laid out. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted May 12, 2004 Share Posted May 12, 2004 I don't think anything can be split by gender that easily. You can ask why people in general dislike LDRs. Link to post Share on other sites
dudesomewhere Posted May 12, 2004 Share Posted May 12, 2004 yeah, this shouldn't be a gender issue...some ppl ask questions that are sexist when they shouldn't be...that said... If I loved someone I would be faithful to them even if they were 10,000 miles away and we could only see each other once a year...of course I would only be so if the apple of my eye felt and believed the same way. Yes I used an old cliche Link to post Share on other sites
Author noidea Posted May 12, 2004 Author Share Posted May 12, 2004 mmm...i suppose that did sound a bit sexist. However, its not necessarily a negative thing if men don't want to be in LDR. However, I suppose it support the idea that the sexes don't think similarly. Anyway, I posed this question to a friend of mine and he said in high school, guys are against, and after that its a 50/50 thing and depends on how much they want a serious relationship. I only asked because i've noticed men seem a lot less enthused by the idea, particularly if it isn't someone they have been dating for awhile/are in love with already. However, females seem to be far more willing to try it, even if they aren't in love yet, if they think there might be a future with the person somewhere down the line. I apologize for coming off as a sexist. I was just curious to hear some perspectives. Link to post Share on other sites
magda Posted May 12, 2004 Share Posted May 12, 2004 men seem a lot less enthused by the idea, particularly if it isn't someone they have been dating for awhile/are in love with already. However, females seem to be far more willing to try it, even if they aren't in love yet, if they think there might be a future with the person somewhere down the line. Well. Why should anybody be enthused about the idea of having a committed long-distance relationship with someone they may or may not be interested in? I am putting the word "commited" into your mouth, perhaps, but that is what one assumes when they hear "relationship". Are you talking about commited relationships? because if so I'm fully a "man" on this issue and I think that anyone willing to commit to someone they don't know well enough to decide whether they are in love with is a loser. What is that? That's unattractive. "I don't really know you but I'll just put my dating life on hold [because I don't have one?] just to try this out - don't worry about me I'm in my dating prime and I have no sexual needs going unfulfilled because I am practically asexual, kthnx". Never commit unless you know it's worth limiting your options, that's what I say. Link to post Share on other sites
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