Brains&Beautie Posted September 23, 2011 Share Posted September 23, 2011 So, I've been married for almost 3 years. My husband works and I'm currently not working so I'm home all day usually bored and lonely. M best friend is in Medical school so is always studying then another who is in another state so I don't have the girls to hang with all the time. I want a male friend; someone I could chat with and possibly hang out with (nothing extreme thats like a date) and without the pressure of sex. Am I wrong? I enjoy male attention and just want a friend. I know I don't have alot of female friends but I don't think that female friends will fill this void I have. Link to post Share on other sites
Linda9999 Posted September 23, 2011 Share Posted September 23, 2011 What does your husband say? Link to post Share on other sites
Goldenspoon Posted September 24, 2011 Share Posted September 24, 2011 So, I've been married for almost 3 years. My husband works and I'm currently not working so I'm home all day usually bored and lonely. M best friend is in Medical school so is always studying then another who is in another state so I don't have the girls to hang with all the time. I want a male friend; someone I could chat with and possibly hang out with (nothing extreme thats like a date) and without the pressure of sex. Am I wrong? I enjoy male attention and just want a friend. I know I don't have alot of female friends but I don't think that female friends will fill this void I have. What will this guy get in return to hang out with you? What are you willing to do to keep him around? Link to post Share on other sites
listen777 Posted September 24, 2011 Share Posted September 24, 2011 Find someone who is clearly gay and you are all set. Seriously. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted September 24, 2011 Share Posted September 24, 2011 Why do you miss male attention when you have a committed and loving male in your life every day? Are you letting this man love you? That was my first impression. If so, IMO, when he's not around, that 'let' goes unfilled so you're looking for another male to fill it, even if not sexually. You like feeling 'wanted' and that is effected most simply and expediently by a man. Try this: Seek out and make friends with gay males. See how that goes and whether it fills the void. Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted September 24, 2011 Share Posted September 24, 2011 Not so sure the first part of your name is true. If you just wanted a friend, you wouldn't care if they were male or female. The fact that you want attention from some theoretical male tells me that you want to look outside your marriage for something that you should be getting from your husband. You're kidding yourself if you think you just want a "friend". Link to post Share on other sites
norajane Posted September 24, 2011 Share Posted September 24, 2011 Idle hands... If you get a job, you won't have to be so bored at home. Then again, if you get a job, you can meet lots of men to "befriend", I'm sure. Lose-lose for your hubby. Oh, wait. He's already lost by committing to you. Link to post Share on other sites
DarkPrince Posted September 24, 2011 Share Posted September 24, 2011 Dont do it. Thats how my wife's affair started. He was just an innocent friend. A single father raising his daughter. He was a funny guy and made her laugh. She was so convinced of it's innocence that she used to talk about him non-stop. Her face would light up every time she spoke his name. He was a great friend to her all right, so great that she was nice enough not not require him to wear a condom when he was ****ing her. I dont think women realize what they are getting into until it's too late. I finally drilled it into my wife's head that there are no such things as 'male friends'. Just becuase he doesnt hit on you does mean he doesnt want to have sex with you. If a guy is spending great loads of time with you, and is not flaming gay, then he wants to have sex with you. 100% chance. Would you want your husband hanging around with a women who wanted him sexually when you are not around? Would that make you feel good while you were away knowing that someone is patiently chipping away at your spouses weaknesses until they finally give in? I learned the hard way that a man will work on a women for as long as it takes to get with her. He will tell her anything she wants to hear. He will learn everything about her, and use that info to get her to lower her defenses and open up. He will exploit her vulnerabilities in order to get what he most desires, and that is her body. Sorry to sound morbid but that is the truth. Maybe there is a few exceptions out there, but they are rare. If your husband agrees to this than he is a fool like I was. My wife regrets her friendship with him, but not nearly as much as I do. Ive never looked at her the same since then, and never will. Link to post Share on other sites
fltc Posted September 25, 2011 Share Posted September 25, 2011 Not so sure the first part of your name is true. Well, she did spell "beauty" wrong.... Link to post Share on other sites
piggyoink Posted September 25, 2011 Share Posted September 25, 2011 I dont think women realize what they are getting into until it's too late. I finally drilled it into my wife's head that there are no such things as 'male friends'. Just becuase he doesnt hit on you does mean he doesnt want to have sex with you. If a guy is spending great loads of time with you, and is not flaming gay, then he wants to have sex with you. 100% chance. I spent lots of time with lots of women and I'm not flaming gay nor do I want to have sex with them. Link to post Share on other sites
SincereOnlineGuy Posted September 25, 2011 Share Posted September 25, 2011 So, I've been married for almost 3 years. My husband works and I'm currently not working so I'm home all day usually bored and lonely. M best friend is in Medical school so is always studying then another who is in another state so I don't have the girls to hang with all the time. I want a male friend; someone I could chat with and possibly hang out with (nothing extreme thats like a date) and without the pressure of sex. Am I wrong? I enjoy male attention and just want a friend. You're not "wrong" directly... but any such guy filling that role will want you in ways which are far more inappropriate. Women can thrive in mixed-company scenarios as "just friends" (because they can get sex anywhere, and are free to pick and choose) but you have to look at the picture from the other side of the equation to get full understanding. THE PROBLEM is that males simply are not interested in random-ish friendships with women they wouldn't rather be banging. This parallels why your husband will likely have an issue with your request. So you won't pass on this idea because you 'might' wanna bang such a male friend, instead you'll pass on the idea out of respect for your husband for knowing full well that such a male friend will wanna bang you! Link to post Share on other sites
Lauriebell82 Posted September 25, 2011 Share Posted September 25, 2011 Why would you miss male attention when you have a husband? What is your marriage like? Do you get love and affection from your husband? My best friend started having an affair with her "just a guy friend." Dangerous territory. I don't think you really want a "friend" you want more then that. I would talk to your husband and maybe seek some counseling if there are problems in your marriage. Link to post Share on other sites
allina Posted September 25, 2011 Share Posted September 25, 2011 Here's an idea, get off your a$$ and get a job so you have enough self worth to not need attention from random males, and try to remember those vows you made 3 years ago. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
piggyoink Posted September 25, 2011 Share Posted September 25, 2011 So, I've been married for almost 3 years. My husband works and I'm currently not working so I'm home all day usually bored and lonely. M best friend is in Medical school so is always studying then another who is in another state so I don't have the girls to hang with all the time. I want a male friend; someone I could chat with and possibly hang out with (nothing extreme thats like a date) and without the pressure of sex. Am I wrong? I enjoy male attention and just want a friend. I know I don't have alot of female friends but I don't think that female friends will fill this void I have. not sure which city you're in but here's an example of what you could look for. its not a relationship section. http://losangeles.craigslist.org/search/stp/?query=m4w Link to post Share on other sites
DarkPrince Posted September 25, 2011 Share Posted September 25, 2011 not sure which city you're in but here's an example of what you could look for. its not a relationship section. http://losangeles.craigslist.org/search/stp/?query=m4w really?? You honestly believe that crap? Why are encouraging her? You know she's going to end up ****ing the guy. Maybe you dont like sex. Maybe you're A-sexual, but that doesnt mean that every other guy is like that. Becoming a married woman's *strictly platonic* friend is the fastest way to get into her pants, and many guys know this. Get a clue. Link to post Share on other sites
piggyoink Posted September 26, 2011 Share Posted September 26, 2011 really?? You honestly believe that crap? Why are encouraging her? You know she's going to end up ****ing the guy. Maybe you dont like sex. Maybe you're A-sexual, but that doesnt mean that every other guy is like that. Becoming a married woman's *strictly platonic* friend is the fastest way to get into her pants, and many guys know this. Get a clue. http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/platonic adjective 1.of, pertaining to, or characteristic of Plato or his doctrines: the Platonic philosophy of ideal forms. 2. pertaining to, involving, or characterized by Platonic love as a striving toward love of spiritual or ideal beauty. 3. usually lowercase purely spiritual; free from sensual desire, especially in a relationship between two persons of the opposite sex. Link to post Share on other sites
DarkPrince Posted September 26, 2011 Share Posted September 26, 2011 http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/platonic adjective 1.of, pertaining to, or characteristic of Plato or his doctrines: the Platonic philosophy of ideal forms. 2. pertaining to, involving, or characterized by Platonic love as a striving toward love of spiritual or ideal beauty. 3. usually lowercase purely spiritual; free from sensual desire, especially in a relationship between two persons of the opposite sex. so your argument is to copy paste the definition of the word 'platonic'? Your obviously a little slow mentally, or maybe you are socially challenged. Either way Im not going to debate this with you. It will end up being a waste of time on my part, and will flatter you to no end. Link to post Share on other sites
piggyoink Posted September 26, 2011 Share Posted September 26, 2011 so your argument is to copy paste the definition of the word 'platonic'? Your obviously a little slow mentally, or maybe you are socially challenged. Either way Im not going to debate this with you. It will end up being a waste of time on my part, and will flatter you to no end. might be difficult for you to understand but there's plenty of people who are looking for just friendship here and in most other cities http://sandiego.craigslist.org/search/stp/?query=m4w Link to post Share on other sites
DarkPrince Posted September 26, 2011 Share Posted September 26, 2011 might be difficult for you to understand but there's plenty of people who are looking for just friendship here and in most other cities http://sandiego.craigslist.org/search/stp/?query=m4w what I am saying is that when a guy makes friends with a woman, or vice versa, it might start out as platonic, but many times ends up turning sexual. Thats because usually one of the two friends involved is secretly attracted to the other and its only a matter of time before it comes out. Then the friendship will either end, or progress into the next stage. With a married woman its even worse. Guys know that if you just want NSA sex, married women are your best bet. They're easier than single women, believe it or not, and because they are married, you dont have to worry about committing to them. And the best way to have sex with a married women is to pretend to be 'just her frined'. Talk with her, make her laugh. Talk about her husband..ill finish later. g2g Link to post Share on other sites
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