Bruised Not Broken Posted September 24, 2011 Share Posted September 24, 2011 So, I broke NC....I won't get into the details as it's in another thread...but long and short of it, is that he maintains he wants to be friends...and I am just too hurt and sad to do that. In my last email to him I apologized that things are strained and that I am not able to be friends. It was so sweet...and completely sincere (if I do say so myself lol) can you guess what the response was? If you guessed there was none...you are a winner. Nothing. If someone apologized to me and said it was too hard, i would say "that's okay...I understand, maybe when you are feeling better...." etc. Not just IGNORE IT. So, after a few glasses of wine, I fired off my LAST email...I just said "well, some things never change...you can't even acknowledge my sincere and very nice apologies? You're one tough cookie" I regret saying it...but what's done is done. Tomorrow starts my final and life long NC (thinking positive So....question is...I know I shouldn't over analyze, but do you think his failure to respond to me is because he is upset I am shutting him out as a friend? He was chattering away until I made it clear that the contact wasn't to be friends. Then he went dark. Is it wrong that I want him to be upset? Now...he hasn't replied...so of course I have him out on a date tonight. But that's not my problem right?? I have two guys that are banging down my door and blowing up my phone with texts and emails to get together...both have known me since I was a kid and know who I am and what I'm about...and think I'm pretty great....But every text I send I think of him instead. Will I ever be able to enjoy another guys attention???? PLEASE SAY YES!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
green_tea Posted September 24, 2011 Share Posted September 24, 2011 Yep you are over analysing...it doesn't matter what he does or how he feels, what matters is how you feel. And right now you are feeling bad because he didn't respond to your heartfelt email. Don't send him anymore, and you won't have to feel like that again. I know it's easier said than done, but you can do it. Write the emails if you must, to let your feelings out, but don't send them. Maybe even write them out in a word document instead of your email. That way you are less likely to send it. You will meet another guy that you can feel the same way about. Nobody is so amazing and special that they can't be replaced. It's just hard to see that at the moment because you still have feelings and have this guy on a pedestal. Even if he does eventually reply, try to not respond, and just leave it at that. Be strong, I know you can do it! Link to post Share on other sites
fallenheart Posted September 24, 2011 Share Posted September 24, 2011 His response means nothing. His lack of a response means nothing. His initial request to "just be friends" also means nothing. That's the hardest part, but the part you should try to understand....he never really wanted to be "friends" with you....he was just saying it to be nice and to try to make himself feel better about breaking things off. Forget him. He's gone. Forever. He'll never come back. NO CONTACT is the only way to go!!! If you indeed have two guys blowing your door down begging for dates....by all means....give them a chance! Don't sit around being sad about some guy that's never coming back.....embrace the future and the possibilities!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bruised Not Broken Posted September 24, 2011 Author Share Posted September 24, 2011 Thanks Guys...I know you are both right....it's just so hard. But...A new day...a new start right? What did that little engine say? I think I can I think I can....I'm gonna keep on chugging along...today at least. Link to post Share on other sites
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