What are your expectactions and worries about marriage?

[MoreRedemption]

What do you expect and fear from your upcoming marriage?

 

Love of course, raising a family, longevity of your union, companionship, loyalty?

 

What is your biggest fear? Mine was falling into a rut and being stuck in a boring marriage.

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I expect love, respect, support, communication, initiative and for my future husband to contribute to our lives in relation to having fun and working together to reach our goals and have the life we both want.

 

I fear no initiative, falling out of love and your partner not being honest about it. It's horrible to be left in the dark wasting time when you could really move on if your partner was truthful. It's also very scary trying to trust that if you run into marriage trouble your husband/wife will work with you to improve things. There is no way a marriage can last if only one person is willing to make the effort. Wow, that's surprising - all of these fears are from what happened in my parent's marriage and then divorce!

 

I guess you can't let your fears stop you though.

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I expect it to be hard work. It's the role models that have shown me how hard they work at their relationships, and that there is a general desire for both individuals to make things work. Placing a ring on a finger isn't the hard part, it's the ability to commit yourself to another human being and attempt to form a union that lasts decades. I know I'm not there yet, that there is still plenty of me to learn about companionship, but not having this romantic notion sets me apart from most women my age at least.

 

I'm afraid of my future marriage ending because I kill him. No really, I just want myself and the other person to search for happiness together. I fear not the end, but a life not lived.