rubyjuly Posted September 24, 2011 Share Posted September 24, 2011 (edited) I dont want to say or do something that will make this worse...my bf told me earlier today not to wait up for him tonight.. we were supposed to spend the day together, but when i got home he wasnt there, he didnt call to let me know even though we had plans, he just took off with no call or note.. he called a while later and said he was visiting a friend..when i asked what about our plans? he didnt say much..i asked him if i could join him there, he said not now...he told me not to wait up tonight what should i do? it might sound naive but i dont want to react out of pure emotion although its hard not too...because he was so evasive and didnt give any explanation, of course i am assuming hes doing something really wrong how should i react/ or what should i say if/when he finally does arrive or call? i dont know if i should ask him 'do you still want to be in this relationship, if not please let me know instead of staying out all night.. he doesnt open and talk very much about important stuff, if its an issue to work thru he tends to shut down and not say much i cant realy think of a reason why he took off when he knew i was on my home for us to spend the day together...or why he would not let me join him at his friends house...right now we are waiting to find out if im pregnant,..not sure if this sent him over the edge or ? Edited September 25, 2011 by rubyjuly Link to post Share on other sites
fltc Posted September 25, 2011 Share Posted September 25, 2011 You need to have a talk with him and do NOT let him dodge it. Tell him if he won't talk about it with you then you'll make an appointment with a counselor and he'll either be there or goodbye and MEAN IT! You cannot continue the relationship as it is now. Link to post Share on other sites
Author rubyjuly Posted September 25, 2011 Author Share Posted September 25, 2011 i agree i dont want to let him dodge it, but reality is, he will probably either dodge it, or lash out in anger to me...he might agree to come to the counselor but i have doubts, since he doesnt like to open up in the first place... it seems like a pretty cruel thing to do what he did and i dont know why he would treat me that way.. does this for sure mean that he is dumping me? if so, what a nice time to do this, while i am waiting to find out if im preg..whether I am or not, its still very painful Link to post Share on other sites
bittersweet memories Posted September 25, 2011 Share Posted September 25, 2011 i agree i dont want to let him dodge it, but reality is, he will probably either dodge it, or lash out in anger to me...he might agree to come to the counselor but i have doubts, since he doesnt like to open up in the first place... it seems like a pretty cruel thing to do what he did and i dont know why he would treat me that way.. does this for sure mean that he is dumping me? if so, what a nice time to do this, while i am waiting to find out if im preg..whether I am or not, its still very painful .........edit Link to post Share on other sites
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