No longer attracted to your race?

[rockinhenck]

This is my first time on this forum. I've been struggling with this issue and it's become so difficult that I found this discussion board and I figure it's a good place to air out my issue.

 

I'm an Asian man in his early 30's. To preface, even though I am in touch with my background (Chinese) in knowing the language and the culture, I'm not the stereotypical Asian guy. I'm tall, athletic, pretty confident, at ease with different cultures, into muscle cars, into American politics, what not.

 

The problem is that I am recently married to my wife, who I have been with for several years. She is also Asian. Before I met her, I used to date different types of girls including White girls, Asians, and even a Latina. But the problem is that I no longer feel strongly physically attracted to my wife.

 

She isn't the problem because she is actually really attractive. In fact, whenever I leave her at a bar, she gets hit on immediately. If I was to describe her look, she looks very similar to the Japanese adult star Akira Fubuki in both face and body, so she is definitely hot.

 

But the problem is that in the past year or so, I've become nearly obsessed with hooking up with a White girl again. I am especially attracted to blondes and redheads, even the really pale brunette types. The place where I work at is nearly all white, and maybe that is the reason for this because there are several very cute white girls that work there and sometimes I flirt with them. I know that there is mutual attraction because a couple of them have told me I was very handsome, but I never act on it because I've never been a cheater.

 

A couple months back I had my bachelor's party and I was flirting and intimate with some really hot White strippers, which even triggered this obsession even more. My friends were making fun of me because I was always going for the Blonde ones. Ever since then, my problem's become even worse.

 

I really don't want to cheat because the relationship I am in is very meaningful and my wife has been there for me even through the toughest times. I hope this is just a phase but I have to get it off my chest. Is there anybody else there that feels the same way or is in the same situation?